u/Cayetanus

Alright, guys. I need to get this off my chest because I honestly don't know what the fuck to do anymore.

I've been living with my girlfriend for four years. Because of circumstances, we ended up living really close to pretty much her entire family. Her siblings, her nieces and nephews, my witch of a mother-in-law, the whole fucking package.

Not long after we moved here, one of my girlfriend's nieces was born. She was probably the most unpleasant baby I've ever seen. She would only smile at my girlfriend, my mother-in-law and my sister. Whenever she looked at me, she would either cry or make this disgusted face.

That pissed me off because it made me look like I'd done something to her in front of everyone.

Anyway, over the years she eventually became more normal around everyone, including me. But what really got to me was how fucking spoiled everybody made her.

Every family gathering revolved around what this kid wanted. When she was two, the adults had to listen to whatever music she wanted. Whatever she wanted on TV. Everything had to be on at the same time, at full volume. We'd have to leave birthday parties without saying goodbye to anyone because otherwise "she would cry" and she'd throw a massive tantrum.

And unfortunately for me, my girlfriend is her godmother.

For about three and a half years, I basically had to buy this kid candy, toys and take her places on my girlfriend's behalf. And the little brat doesn't even know how to say thank you. She demands things.

If you don't buy her whatever she wants, she throws herself on the floor and has a fucking meltdown. It doesn't matter how much you've already spent on her. If you don't buy her that ONE extra thing she wants at the end, you're getting the tantrum anyway.

I've bought her things before that turned out not to be what she wanted, and she just threw them on the floor.

I swear, I've never had to hold back this much anger toward a fucking child in my life.

And my girlfriend just laughs at it.

Almost everything this kid does makes her laugh. She might tell her off once in a while, but most of the time she seems to love taking her places and buying her shit.

I mentioned a few times, very carefully, that I thought her niece was extremely spoiled and that she shouldn't be encouraging it by giving her whatever she wants as if she were her father.

My girlfriend told me I was exaggerating and that she's "just a baby" and doesn't understand these things.

Well, here's where things get worse.

Today that "baby" is four years old.

And I swear she's still the most spoiled kid I've ever seen.

She talks back to adults, breaks things, still demands that people buy her shit, and throws the same tantrums as before.

The difference is that now she can speak perfectly and she's much smarter about how she gets what she wants.

And then MY GIRLFRIEND AND I HAD A BABY.

A baby girl.

We knew this could cause problems with this kid. And yeah, we were right.

She never liked my daughter. She would cry whenever she saw her.

Even before the baby was born, she was already pissed off at my girlfriend. She wouldn't talk to her, wouldn't say hello, nothing.

My girlfriend kept trying to force some kind of relationship between them and would buy her candy and toys to make her happy. Obviously, I was the one paying for most of that.

It didn't work.

My daughter is five months old now, almost six.

That's a pretty fucking long time to still call this "jealousy," which is what her family keeps saying.

She still ignores my daughter. She steals her toys. She throws tantrums when someone gives the baby a toy. She says the baby is ugly.

She'll literally tell my girlfriend that she wants to go say hi to the baby. Then she walks into the room and completely ignores her. Instead, she starts grabbing the baby's toys so she can take them with her.

I'm telling you this because I want you to understand how manipulative this kid can be with adults.

She uses the baby's stroller. She uses her crib.

She's FOUR YEARS OLD.

Does this sound normal to anyone?

And the part that pisses me off the most is that my girlfriend STILL wants me to buy her expensive gifts and useless shit.

Every time we go shopping, my girlfriend still puts candy for this kid in the cart.

Even after the way she's been acting toward my girlfriend because she had a baby girl.

And lately I've started giving the kid dirty looks when nobody else is around.

I've never done that before.

But honestly, her latest shit toward my daughter finally pushed me over the edge.

I fucking hate this kid.

And I know she's four. I know she's a child. I know she's probably not capable of understanding everything she's doing.

But I'm reaching a point where I genuinely don't know how to deal with the amount of anger I feel toward her, and I don't want that anger to turn into something worse.

I don't want to hurt her. I don't want to scare her. I don't want to become the fucking villain in this situation.

I just don't know what the hell I'm supposed to do anymore.