u/Charleslecpierre

Why do my parents keep shifting the goalposts after I succeed?

Hi everyone, I’m looking for advice because I don’t know how to handle this situation anymore.

Since my UG days, my parents have been forcing me to sit for entrance exams. But the pattern is: the moment I convert a college, they start discouraging me and tell me to sit for another exam, even when it doesn’t make sense practically.

Example: I converted a tier-1 B-school. After that, they started saying I should prepare for SBI PO, for which I’ll only be eligible after 2 years. This has been happening repeatedly since UG , first they told me to focus on converting colleges near home. I secured AIR 3 in that exam, but then my father refused to pay the fee. My mother was angry with him because he didn’t seem to value my effort.

Also, something that really bothers me: once, my father used to throw shade at Amity. But now that my cousin is doing an MBA from Amity, he’s suddenly asking me to “listen to that guy’s advice.” It’s like whatever he was criticizing yesterday becomes suddenly acceptable if someone else’s doing it.

Fast forward to today he’s behaving the same way again.

I genuinely don’t understand why they would encourage big dreams and then keep shifting the goalposts the moment I succeed. If they don’t want me to actually move forward, why push me to keep appearing for more exams continuously?

What I’m scared of is that it’s not just concern or strategy. It feels like there’s an underlying intention to taunt me, make me fail, and then justify ending my educational journey like the idea is that I’ll be useless anyway.

I don’t want to catastrophize, but this thought keeps coming back and it’s affecting my mental health.

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u/Charleslecpierre — 6 days ago

Why is this happening?

I’m going to be real... I can feel jealousy growing within me whenever I see my batchmates updating profiles incoming IIM K, incoming this and that. And it hits in the most ugly way possible.

Then I spiral and start asking questions like, why is it only happening to me?

For context, I got rejections from all LKI FMS this time. I did professional prep for interviews. Still rejected. And this has been happening since my undergrad SIP season as well,like some pattern where every time I’m finally getting ready to move forward, it doesn’t work out for me. I thought i would focus on placements - ended up with the ugliest offer. Thought i would focus on bschool Interviews after a great percentile - ended up with no converts. Wtf am i supposed to do????

What’s messing with me even more is how some interviews have gone. Like in one of the interviews (IIM Indore), I didn’t even feel like I was being asked proper questions. It felt irrelevant, random stuff (movies, shopping, metro stations, etc.) instead of anything that would actually test my profile properly. And I’m sitting there thinking… did I even get a fair shot? Because if you don’t ask proper questions, how am I supposed to understand what I’m being judged on?

And then the worst part i am afraid even if I try again, my brain is already like what’s the point? they’ll reject you again.

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u/Charleslecpierre — 10 days ago

Does a gap year look very bad?

Hi everyone, I’m planning to reattempt this year, but I’m worried about whether taking a gap year will hurt my chances. This year scored 99.2 but still no converts from LKI FMS (waitlisted at unconvertible numbers everywhere) GNEF - 9/9/8

Long story short: I’m currently not in the mental state to work. I genuinely hate the job I am offered, and I’m pretty sure I won’t join it. The bigger concern is that it will interfere with my sleep cycle, my sleep schedule already affects my preparation, and I’m worried it’ll increase the risk of me sleeping on d-day (for context I fell asleep in the XAT exam this year)

So my plan is to take a gap year and focus on one serious, focused attempt at CAT.

Did anyone here take a gap year and still got converted ABCL? Does a gap year look very bad? Coz wtf am i supposed to do when i didn't convert even after scoring 99.2 I feel I should keep giving the exam till the time these Institutes finally admit me. I don't think there was any deeply ingrained problem in me that they had to waitlist me at such disgusting ranks.

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u/Charleslecpierre — 11 days ago
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Hi everyone, I’m looking for some advice. I’ve been offered a remote role at a startup where the American shift timings are roughly 5pm to 2am. At the same time, I’m preparing for an MBA exam(and I need to prepare alongside work).

My concern is sleep. I already struggle with sleep consistency and I often end up falling asleep during my exam/practice sessions. I’m genuinely worried that this late shift will ruin my sleep cycle and affect my exam performance.

So should I join the job and try to manage exam prep alongside, or focus on the exam full-time to maximize my chances?

For context, I’ll graduate in June only, and if I focus on exam properly now, I can join an MBA college next year. That would mean only about a one-year gap if I choose the MBA route.

Would really appreciate your honest guidance.

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u/Charleslecpierre — 14 days ago

Hey everyone. I’m not from a tech background, but I’ve been coding with VB since middle school days and I feel like I have a pretty strong base now , at least for the basics and some intermediate stuff like variables, loops, functions, simple OOP concepts etc...

I have a lot of free time right now and I want to learn either C++ or Python. I wanted to ask how difficult it might be for me to learn it and which one should I ideally pick up?

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u/Charleslecpierre — 17 days ago

Hi everyone , quick question: What’s the difference between a CIB Analyst at JPMC and a front office IB office role?

  1. If our starting role post-MBA is CIB, should we expect to be able to move into/enter true front-office IB roles?

  2. Is CIB considered part of front office, or is it more “middle/back office” depending on coverage/team?

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u/Charleslecpierre — 17 days ago

Hi everyone! I’m currently planning masters after my B.Com (Hons). I’m interested in roles like business journalism or business anchoring.

My question is: Is it possible to enter these fields by pursuing a relevant master’s degree, for example an M.A./PGDM in Communication from colleges like MICA, or even a generalist MBA, or would I need to pursue another master’s degree or even an additional bachelor’s degree in core journalism to be considered?

If anyone has experience in this area, please share.

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u/Charleslecpierre — 18 days ago

Hello ladies please help me out.

I’m literally bawling my eyes out while writing this.

I’m in my final semester right now, and I feel completely shattered.

Three years ago, I had actually converted a college I really wanted. It was better in every respect academics, exposure, opportunities, everything. I had thought it through and I was genuinely excited about going there. But my parents didn’t let me go.

Instead, they brought in their friends’ kids, people who had graduated years ago, to “guide” me (they attended mediocre colleges at best and were throwing shade on each tier 1 uni right and left) and I was basically pressured into changing my decision. I didn’t have the confidence back then to fight it.

Today, I finally broke down and told my parents everything I’ve been holding in for 3 years, how miserable I’ve been, how I feel misled, and how different things could’ve been if I was just allowed to choose for myself.

And the worst part? They agreed.

They admitted they were wrong. They admitted they shouldn’t have done that.

But what am I supposed to do with that now?

I didn’t get the outcomes I wanted from these 3 years. I feel like I’ve wasted my entire undergrad. I’m even thinking I might have to repeat my degree just to get where I want to go.

Right now, I just feel empty. I don’t even feel like studying anymore. I just want to quit everything.

I keep thinking about what my life could’ve been like, and it’s eating me alive.

I didn't get the outcomes I wanted from my degree so apparently to get employed I will have to join a college again anyways... should I go for higher studies by taking a loan or repeat my undergrad coz that's a cheaper outcome giving better results?

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u/Charleslecpierre — 24 days ago
▲ 66 r/Advice

I’m literally bawling my eyes out while writing this.

I’m in my final semester right now, and I feel completely shattered.I am not from the US, I am from a developing country where almost all recruitments are done via campus hiring. I don't even have the connections to get through the doors of firms

Three years ago, I had actually converted a college I really wanted. It was better in every respect academics, exposure, opportunities, everything. I had thought it through and I was genuinely excited about going there. But my parents didn’t let me go.

Instead, they brought in their friends’ kids, people who had graduated years ago, to “guide” me (they attended mediocre colleges at best and were throwing shade on each tier 1 uni right and left) and I was basically pressured into changing my decision. I didn’t have the confidence back then to fight it.

Today, I finally broke down and told my parents everything I’ve been holding in for 3 years, how miserable I’ve been, how I feel misled, and how different things could’ve been if I was just allowed to choose for myself.

And the worst part? They agreed.

They admitted they were wrong. They admitted they shouldn’t have done that.

But what am I supposed to do with that now?

I didn’t get the outcomes I wanted from these 3 years. I feel like I’ve wasted my entire undergrad. I’m even thinking I might have to repeat my degree just to get where I want to go.

Right now, I just feel empty. I don’t even feel like studying anymore. I just want to quit everything.

I keep thinking about what my life could’ve been like, and it’s eating me alive.

I didn't get the outcomes I wanted from my degree so apparently to get employed I will have to join a college again anyways... should I go for higher studies by taking a loan or repeat my undergrad coz that's a cheaper outcome giving better results?

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u/Charleslecpierre — 24 days ago