u/CharlieBlair88

I was wondering if anyone with fine curls has a solution to this problem, after a wash and product I get beautiful curls that look fluffy, but then I put it in a bonnet and go to bed only to wake up with fine looking ringlets that let the light through.

I've heard tying it while in the bonnet can help but when I did that my hair looked all frizzy and poofy in the morning.

I have no idea what this means. I work at a craft store which is prominently moms and older women as both customers and workers, and it's like the only times I've been gendered correctly by strangers.

I've been called a lady, her on several occasions, I even had a full conversation with an older woman and was still called she (I haven't started voice training yet). I still boymode at work and have my deadname on my nametag.

I don't know what it is because I always look especially chopped at work. I sometimes don't shave for a day and still seen as a girl. I don't know if it's because the counter I stand behind hides my height or people just assume that only women work at a craft store (That's what my trans man manager said)

like yeah it's a great feeling, but half the time it feels fake to me because I'm not putting any effort into my makeup or clothes and I still look into the mirror and see a man.

19, mtf, 5'11 (181 cm). I find height to be attractive in everyone, but I hate the idea of being tall.

I understand the answer is probably from living in a patriarchal world and I'm trying to deconstruct that, but god the idea that I'll never be 5'6-5'7 really bothers me personally.

I've always internally registered myself around that height, but then I hang out with some friends, most of which are shorter, and I am reminded by that unfortunate reality.

And yeah, I get that 5'11 is modeling height, but I'm not a model, so it doesn't feel right. I don't want to be striking or intimidating, I want to blend in.