u/Cherrylemon202

Why is this? I was even on IV antibiotics and it did NOTHING. Doc won’t give anymore antibiotics , I was put on them for 48 hours in the hospital , got sent home with antibiotics after when my infection markers went down. Had dipstick check and it was normal, I am wondering can your bladder get damaged during the surgery? Will this ever go away I’m lowkey worried I’ll never go back to normal down there, I haven’t had a moment where there’s been no pain. I’m on week 7!!

Hi everyone. I had an emergency C section on 1st July, with twins 2 sacs and 2 placentas. I had been in active labor for 24 hours, (induced , waters broken by midwife) I got to 9cm dilated 😫 and it all ended up in surgery.

anyway I have this nagging soreness around the incision (it’s not infected) it’s like internal I guess and then I have the numbing feeling, but I just feel bruised , sore and like I’ve been kicked down there, online makes it out you should be “healed” by week 6, not me!!! I’ve also noticed past couple of nights I’ve been more active with walking around the house , I look after my twins myself so that doesn’t help matters ,
The pain never fully went away anyway but last few days the soreness feels worse , I’m sure my activity is probably triggering it but that can’t be helped , just wondering if the pain ever fully went away for you and if so when? I’m worried that I’ll never fully get better

I’m a first time mother. On a really good night my twins will do a 3 hour stretch and then week up for a feed; if I’m lucky I’ll get 2 hours , and sometimes 1 but it’s getting slowly better with the 3 hour stretches (literally was 3 hrs on the dot last night until they wanted milk) and I’m just wondering is this normal ? Should they be sleeping longer or does this sound correct? I know it might sound stupid, I also have no one else to ask, I’m doing this single; parents and grandparents aren’t around and my friends don’t have children. I just sometimes worry because some nights it feels like they don’t get any at all but as I say it’s gotten better lately but I feel like I’m slowly going back to square one again when they were fussy at week 3.

also my twins feeds have been out of sync with one another since 2 days ago so I had no sleep at all last night , survival mode is so high right now haha

https://tinysleepers.co.uk/blog/baby-grunting-noisy-sleep

This website explains everything, I was getting worried thinking my 5 weeks twins were in some type of pain or something, but this explains that babies sleep is very noisy with all types of sounds - completely normal

Mine do have reflux which probably enhances it a bit but I found this website reassuring

Desperate here they will only sleep in a breastfeeding pillow or my arms. The second they touch the cot or basket they instantly wake up and start stirring grunting or crying and it won’t stop until they are back in the pillow but I know that is not recommended but I’ve caved in. I’m desperate, any tips and is this normal ??

they have reflux which I know won’t help , but I think half of this is to do with comfort . I’m so desperate

My DCDA twins were born 1st July. unfortunately I could not breast feed, I had a traumatic birth. My birth plan also didn’t go to plan, there was delays with the hospital, some malpractice etc too, got induced 27th June and it stretched out up until 30th June, active labor 9cm until finally it ended up being an emergency c section, I was very unwell even before the E c section due to the long labor, had infection etc, then got another infection ontop of my existing one after the c section booked to IV Antibotics. No milk flow was coming, went straight to formula was too unwell.

anyway cut the story short the twins have been diagnosed with reflux, I was told to keep them upright as much as I can after feeds which I do but the problem is they will not sleep on their back, I’ll hold them for HOURS and they will go in deep sleep in my arms but the SECOND I put them in their cot or basket or play Matt INSTANTLY they wake up and cry and it won’t stop and I see the pain three are in .

I am a single mother I’m on my own and being up all day and night without any help after a while I just can’t , I’m not a robot so sometimes I do cave in and let them sleep in the twin Z pillow because it’s the only thing they will sleep in?!?£ why??? Is it because the pillow is sort of upright ? I know it’s not recommended or considered safe but it’s the only way where I can get a break and I will admit it sometimes I’ve put them in the pillow just so I can sleep for 30 mins I know I’m not supposed to do that but I have no one else to take over and if I don’t sleep then how will I function, so I do feel guilty but at the same
Time I’ve gone past recommendations and said sod it because sometimes I have to do things to survive

I think half of it is definitely 1 they just want to be held but 2 also the reflux , they’ll be in pain on their back but wit the reflux it makes sense . One twin was even in hospital due to their reflux

At first I felt like a failure thinking maybe it was because I don’t breastfeed but the hospital told me they don’t have a cow milk allergy and that this was a biological problem with their muscle in their throat being undeveloped making it “weak” that some babies just tolerate it more than others , so I’m trying to not feel bad, plus my breastfeeding specialist and some staff at the hospital told me with how my labor went it’s not my fault I didn’t breastfeed due to how bad the birth and after was

They are currently sleeping in the twin z pillow next to me, I tried all night to get them to sleep flat on their backs they just wouldn’t.

My twin who was in hospital had his reflux so bad that he stopped breathing for 5-8 seconds and went floppy and was unwell all the night (that night I did phone for an ambulance) the hospital ruled out every serious case he had every test done and it turned out it was reflux causing it! They told me I need to go buy a thickener for his milk (we came out the hospital yesterday)

I just don’t want them to be in the pillow all day and all night because then I’m worried illl develop another problem where even when their reflux has gone they wiont be in the habit of being in their cot , if that makes sense, I have also tried to transition them (try to get them in their cot or basket for at least 1 hour, doesn’t work)

Did anyone else have this issue or similar , any tips on what I can do? As I’m aware of the risks of them being in the pillow but obviously it’s impossible for me to hold them 24/7 and as a single mother it’s not doable

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Just a bit of a rant. I’m carrying DCDA twins. I’m not allowed to go past week 38 for safety and medical reasons. I will be 38 weeks on Tuesday.
when I was at week 32 my OB consultant put in an order for induction for 23rd June but gave a safety window of a deadline up to Thursday 25th just in case they don’t have any beds etc, and with the deadline I would still be in the safety window.

We also found out on week 36 that one twin has a reduction in growth; but that’s not the reason for me not being able to go past week 38 , although doesn’t help. I was told in my first trimester in the hospital that twin mammas are not allowed to reach week 38 , and my OB basically said research shows in a twin pregnancy it’s safer for the twins to be born before week 38, there’s lots of reasons, and week 37 is full term for twins also.

on week 36, when we saw one twin had a reduction in growth my OB said normally this would mean I’d need another scan in 2 weeks time but as I was being induced before that (23rd to 25th as a deadline) it meant the growth scan wasn’t needed. No action was taken after because the placenta and fluid etc were all normal, nothing to suggest anything serious.

My OB consultant told me that it will be the induction ward to call me with a time.

23rd June came with no phone call.. half way through the day my health care worker from the hospital sent me a text to ask me how induction was going, I told her I was still at home; no phone call. So she phoned them, basically they were extremely busy but that they would call me to come in tomorrow. Following day Wednesday came along, nothing no news no phone call. But in my head I’m thinking “well tomorrow is the deadline my consultant gave them so they will call then” Thursday came and mid day still nothing, my health worker sent me a text and told me to call them. So I called induction ward, a lady picked up and she said they were extremely busy, that they only have 5 beds, and that there is 4-6 women on here right now, she said that they decided to extend my deadline from Thursday to Friday instead, and she said I will get a phone call tomorrow (Friday) or maybe Saturday; the she proceeded to say if the meantime if I’m worried about the babies and then I can always call triage and get assessed.

next day Friday ( yesterday) no call nothing. My health care worker sent a text again; I told her no news, she said it was unacceptable because I’m a high risk pregnancy as it’s twins, and my consultant gave them a deadline of Thursday but it was more the fact that I was left at home worrying because we all know I am not supposed to reach week 38, hence the induction during week 37. So she calls them. She phones me back to say that induction ward had 2 ladies to look after I think serious emergencies so I get that completely and that they were just busy, apparently a consultant on induction ward looked at my notes and file and was happy for me to be delayed an extra 25 hours with the confidence of there not being any extra risks to the twins or me and that I would be called in for induction in the next 24 hours MAX and that it was highly likely I’d get a phone call in the evening but that it would be within 24 hours.

after that phone call I felt so much relief, just knowing a consultant looked at my file and decided it was still safe to delay and knowing that Saturday (today) I’ll finally be induced.

Today at 11am I had a phone call to say they are sorry but they are so busy that they don’t actually know how long it will be until they have a bed. They said I am however a top priority , they are fully aware I can’t reach week 38 due to safety and medical reasons but because they have no bed they want me to go to hospital today for monitoring. At this point I just cried down the phone, I did apologize though and said it’s my hormones.

I asked the midwife if there is another way we can get the twins out faster (c section) she told me an elective c section wouldn’t mean it would be faster because elective c section is pre booked and the only other type of c section would be an emergency one but that the doctor is going to speak to me today about options .. Thing is I was never even given an option on if I wanted vaginal or c section. I think because my twins are both head down my hospital just put me down for induction from the get go and they always made it out like c section was for when the babies were breech etc. before I mentioned c section my consultant and midwife really persuaded me for vaginal. I just did what they told me to. But this week I’ve been really thinking elective c section would have been better, especially if I knew I’d get a huge delay like this.

So I went down to the hospital , had my monitoring , the twins are absolutely fine but the option for me to go further than week 38 is not an option at all, so we literally have up until Tuesday to figure this out, and the 5 beds on induction wards are busy.

after the monitoring I was told to wait here to speak to a doctor to speak about other options and methods which I am assuming is a c section, (I am waiting now for the doctor) a midwife has just asked me if I would accept a c section if offered and I said of course.

another reason c section is now looking most likely is because they told me that the induction methods for a twin pregnancy is very limited (I did not know this before.) they said in an twin pregnancy the can only use the gel , and it’s because of the risk of both babies suddenly turning breech. the midwife said the gel can take a very long time, and it just seems it wouldn’t get all done before week 38. She did an examination just now, she said I’m 1cm but closed at the front no idea what that means but basically a sweep will not work my body is not close to labor yet. (They also said for the gel I already need to be quite dilated which I’m not right now) never knew any of this before lol.

I just want the c section now to be honest, (it’s what I wanted all along but was always encouraged to go vaginal by the hospital) and it seems that will be the case, the doctor will explore all options for me, of course I’ll do anything so we don’t go over to week 38 as that has been the medical guidelines for me and the twins.

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Also I just want to stress out that I never once refused c section or anything. It was never an option for me. I was given instant induction date. It’s my first pregnancy and I was just doing what was told really. But once the doctor calls me in I will tell them I want c section now, I’ve come this far I don’t want any risks to my twins

UPDATEE , the doctor called me in a few hours after this post. She said “I hear from the midwife’s your thinking of c section now” and she said it’s completely my choice, although she tried scaring me out of a c section with like 20 “risks” all scary ones , even though people have c sections everyday, she said I can have a c section but that it wouldn’t be done until Monday or Tuesday as given the fact my monitoring is fine and twins appear good, and I asked her what’s the faster option and she said neither because induction won’t be available for me until another 24 hours to 48. Everytime I kept mentioning c section the doctor found a way to scare me out of it. but she could see I was really on the verge of going for c section, and I told her I needed a minute to decide , she then said “ok and while you wait your decision I will check to see what number you are on the list on induction” I said ok , 10 minutes later she came back and said “we have a bed for you now” ?? is that weird or what? Suddenly as soon as I almost throw in the towel and ask for a c section now they have a bed available?.

since my attempted sweep today I have had really strong contractions so finally I am currently in the induction bed and the doctor is coming with the gel in 5 minutes ! However if this gel doesn’t work within about 12 hours I’ll be having a c section!
so now either way it’s a win, if this gel works then great and if not straight to emergency c section before I enter the week 38

36 weeks , started about 2 weeks ago maybe, sounds really odd lol , hospitals aren’t concerned at all, I can only assume it’s due to when their movements are really strong pressing on me

That’s it nothing else to add, just wanted to express that actually really scared 😢😢 . it’s my first pregnancy, I’m carrying DCDA twins. Boys. I can’t wait to see them , but I’m really frightened of labor 😫😫
Hospital told me once induced I won’t get sent home to wait, they said they don’t do that with twins. they said once the twins are born I’d have to stay in about 3 days (normal for twins) unless obviously a complication occurred then longer but no reasons to suggest anything bad would happen, they were just explaining all lanes to me xo

I’m assuming they are painful. did you bleed afterwards or have any cramp?

I know that with pregnancy comes hot flushes and feeling warm but last night was next level for me. From head to toe my whole body was in FLAMES and BURNING up, from around 11pm until 8am. Even my face which felt like a hot flush, difference is this did not shift until 8am.

I did call triage the next day at lunch time because I am currently taking an antibiotic for a suspected urine infection so I was a bit worried maybe it has spread to the kidney as fever is like a massive sign. Triage told me to come in.

Ctg showed the twins are perfectly fine. as my temperature went back to normal at 8am by the time I got to triage around lunchtime it also showed was normal again. And everything else. Urine sample clear (for once!!) so Antibotic must be working, but my OB said the burning up all night was alarming, they were rest assured the twins were not affected and also felt confident that whatever caused it has gone away now because I was showing signs of wellness , but my OB wanted to do blood tests for infection markers , probably because he knew I was currently on an Antibotic, it’s best to rule out these things. anyway came back normal.

I did ask my OB if the hormones can cause this but he more or less said no and that it wasn’t normal. I’ve had hot flushes and general feelings of being really hot in my third trimester which I knew was normal due to the extra padding but last night was definitely something else or felt worse but it could also be because I knew I was on antibiotics either way I didn’t feel good last night and was extremely hot to touch. I’m glad everything is now in the clear , but no one in triage could confirm to me that third trimester can cause over heating episodes etc. anyone else had this?

Also I wouldn’t of normally called triage for something like this, but as I was on antibiotics for an infection I thought it may of been best because it could of been a fever. also I started the antibiotics only a few days ago and they did say if I wasn’t feeling better in a few days to call in and when I overheated last night I just put the 2 dots together , as kidney infections are no joke. Thankfully that had been ruled out as well.

The midwife on the phone made me feel really guilty for not going in when it happened during the night, for the safety of the twins. I am still carrying the guilt now, even though it’s proven that whatever happened last night thankfully the twins are not affected and whatever that was is thankfully not systematic.

I sometimes see some posts of ladies saying they get really hot in the night etc and sweating, yes it can be a pregnancy thing but after today I’ve learnt that it’s never a bad thing to get checked out because my OB was concerned when I told him I was overheating all night. The body during pregnancy is weird, it. it normally doesn’t react to mild infections because our immune systems have shifted to be “calmer” so we don’t attack the babies in the womb, and it’s only until the infection turns serious is when we experience symptoms. My midwife said yes the weather is warmer as it’s June but still know a fine line between feeling warmer and then overheated and sweating etc might not always mean anything and can be normal but if you ever feel slightly of best to get checked out. I was probably dehydrated in my case and that’s easily done in pregnancy xo

Take care ladies xoxo

has a mistake been made? I’m getting induced at week 37 because it’s considered full term for twins and at least with my hospital they don’t make twins stay longer in the womb for 37 weeks. My job coach has my MATB1 form everything. She told me in April that she would make my last meeting on the 28th May and as I’m heavily pregnant and can barely walk anymore these days that the appointment would be via phone call. Well 28th May came no one called me at 16:20 (that was the time of the appointment) and then some hours later or the next day can’t remember which I got a notification on my UC account to say “accept your terms and conditions” which basically said I had to accept that I would continue to job hunt so that I can still get paid on 15th June and then it was signed by another job coach who is not my job coach. So do you think my job coach was sick on that day and someone else took over and just didn’t know I was preg? Because the person who signed it was a different name still a job coach but not my one. And look I’m
Sorry but continuing to job search is not an option, I look like I’m about to burst, I can’t even walk down the end of my road anymore especially as I’m carrying twins I already look and measure past 40 weeks, also you think someone is going to hire me now? Imagine me going for an interview now “pls hire me but I am giving birth in 14 days so will have to take 1 year out” it’s just not going to happen lol. What can I do? Because for some reason it seems they have changed their minds and now I’m still
Expected to job hunt with proof as well (adding the jobs in my journal)

Also important note when I go in hospital in 14 days to get induced I have to stay in hospital until the babies are out, so it’s not like I can continue searching after 14 days, for twin pregnancies they don’t let you leave after being induced for lots of safety reasons. sorry for the rant.

also I haven’t updated my journey in about 1 week, I’ve had so much going on, will that affect my next payment ? They know what’s going on but I don’t know if they will see this as a good reason

Sorry I missed an important piece : my coach said my last appointment would be 28th May, due to the fact I’m about to pop and because she has everything like MATB1 etc I’d still get maternity payment and that my terms and conditions would be changed to obviously no expected to job hunt anymore lol

and another thing, because I’m being induced at week 37, they wanted more proof of that, seeing as normally it’s like 40 weeks but it’s twins and this is the norm. plus after a lot of explaining, and after giving them my MATB1 from my midwife it seemed all cleared up. so I’m confused , and if they really expect me to continue to Job hunt knowing I’m giving birth in 14 days (yeah it’s 37 weeks and not 40 but so what ) then that’s just really unreasonable in my opinion.

is this a thing or am I imagining this , literally baked (di di twins , induction in 14 days! ) feel hot constantly (no fever)

Am 35 weeks xo

I’m scared lol

Had the worst night last night. I’m at the stage where the movements don’t even feel like cute little kicks anymore. it’s now full blown strong whole body jolts and punches. one of the twins like to flip and turn breech and then back head down again. Last night they were both so just wild having a party and it honestly felt like they were both flipping over and over and it honestly hurts , and I started to feel soooooo sick, I was full when I went to bed , not uncomfortably just normal but I am wondering if they were punching my actual stomach or bowel cuz I really could of vomited in the night, constantly kicking and pressing down on my bladder god knows how many times I took a loo trip. Really uncomfortable night, I can’t wait for induction in 2 and a half weeks lol

I wanted to cry this morning, sooo sore from their movements. Anyone else? Xo

so is feeling hot a preg thing or what? I don’t have a temperature , I’ve checked many times and even the doctor, so it’s nothing like that. I’m just really hot what’s going on haha, did you experience this. ? (I’m having di di twins)

My midwife said I’m more than welcome to make my hospital room my own, she said I can take fake candles and fairy lights if I want as it helps calm some ladies down. I am thinking about it. was there anything you took that helped you feel at home? Xo