u/Chickenfeet787

So my ex(20M) and I(20F) broke up about a month and a half ago from an 8 month long relationship. Today, he requested to follow one of my best friends on insta. She told me about it and I said to accept it and follow him back to see what would happen (for the plot cause why not lol). Then, maybe an hour later, one of my ex and I’s mutual friends replied to my note on insta and we started catching up. Her and I hadn’t really talked since before my ex and I’s breakup so I asked her if she knew how he was handling the breakup and I said hopefully he’s doing ok. She said “yea I have, he’s pretty much over it” which I don’t really believe and the way she worded it doesn’t sound like her. I wouldn’t be surprised if she told him we were talking and he told her to say that to me. Then she asked how I was doing and I told her I’ve made new friends since our breakup and have a new friend group, as well as that I’ve been hit on by new guys that I’m not interested in and excited to date in the future, just not ready yet. I assume she probably told him everything we talked about.

Anyways, after that convo, he messages my best friend saying “You remind me of a shooting star.” So he’s basically hitting on her. He’s Mexican and told me in the past that he would never date a Latina because of how “toxic” they can be in relationships. He’s the date to marry type so I don’t think he’s trying to play around with girls. My best friend is Mexican and unfortunately kinda fits that “toxic Latina” stereotype when it comes to relationships (no hate to her, I love her lol). I’m pretty sure he knew this about her when him and I were dating and that her and I were close friends. He never followed her while we were dating though. She was checking with me during all of the things he was doing today and asking me what I wanted her to do or tell him. After he sent that message, she told him “you know ___ and I are friends, right?” Then he said “sorry mb” and unfollowed her. I’m also in a LOT of her posts on insta and she has a whole highlight for me so it’s kinda suspicious he’s hitting on her of all people.

Her and I are wondering if he heard what I said about meeting new guys and got jealous or something? Is this him trying to get my attention? I really don’t think she’s his type so is he just showing me he’s “ready to date” and oh so coincidentally is hitting on one of my closest friends, then acting like he didn’t know? Her account was private too so he really went out of his way for this.

TL;DR My ex followed and hit on one of my best friends in her DMs after our breakup but I don’t think she’s his type. I’m also in her posts on her insta + she made a whole highlight for me so pretty obvious we’re close. Is he trying to get my attention/make me jealous?

So my friend (18F) and I (20F) went to some rooftop party last Halloween and it was all older/middle aged people. All that was really happening was people sitting around and drinking. It was very boring and we ended up leaving about 30 minutes after getting there. We want to go somewhere super fun this year with more of a young adult crowd but we aren’t 21 yet. We’re trying to plan in advance so we have ideas of what we could do. I don’t mind if there’s people drinking but I want other exciting stuff to be going on too. What kind of things could we do? And where do we look to find parties/activities going on? We looked for house parties and stuff but all we found that was 18+ was that one rooftop party.

So my friend (18F) and I (20F) went to some rooftop party last Halloween and it was all older/middle aged people. All that was really happening was people sitting around and drinking. It was very boring and we ended up leaving about 30 minutes after getting there. We want to go somewhere super fun this year with more of a young adult crowd but we aren’t 21 yet. We don’t mind if there’s people drinking but I want other exciting stuff to be going on too. What kind of things could we do? And where do we look to find parties/activities going on? We looked for house parties and stuff but all we found that was 18+ was that one rooftop party.

So my boyfriend and I were recently talking about our last names and he asked me if I would take his when we get married. This will be a while down the line but we want to talk about these things now and figure everything out. I hadn’t thought about it much before that and now that I’m thinking about it, I’m not sure I want to. His last name is Ramirez. It’s pretty normal and he has so much family that the Ramirez name will carry on for many generations. My last name is Kendrick and I’m the only child on my family’s side with this last name as no other boys were born into the family. My last name has a lot of history and its more unique than his. I asked him if he’d be willing to change his last name to mine and he wasn’t really into that idea. Another reason I don’t like it is because my first name ends with the letters ra. So my first name would end with the same sound/letters of my last. It doesn’t really roll off of the tongue. I feel bad about this because he said it’s always been his dream to have his wife take his last name but I’m just not sure I want to. He suggested that I could change my middle name to Kendrick and I’m not going to do that. I like my middle name and it doesn’t fix the issue of the same ra sound of the end of my first name and beginning of his last. He’s getting his feelings hurt because I’m not sure about changing it and to me it comes off as selfish because if I take his name, my name will be lost. Although our kids will probably get his last name, I just don’t want to lose mine and the history behind it. I don’t know what to do about this situation.