u/CommercialRest1142

My (24m) family is putting immense pressure on me to get a girlfriend. Constantly citing my lack of recent dating history. They constantly nag me that I don’t try even when I tell them that it’s hard to date in this era. I’m sick of listening to them tell me how to flirt and all their dating advice

I work a lot and enjoy saving money. I enjoy my hobbies during my limited free time. I don’t feel financially secure enough for kids and I swear I think they just want babies in the family

I am only 24 and have erectile dysfunction from taking finasteride. I am completely impotent and have had absolutely nothing going on there for nearly 3 years. I’ve been off the medication for well over a year, maybe 2 now.

My parents and grandparents are really starting to get on me about my plans for when I’ll have kids. I haven’t been on a date in years and avoid girls because I know I cannot perform even if one wanted to be with me. I keep lying and telling my family that I’m just focusing on myself and waiting for the right person to come around.

I just feel too ashamed to tell them. And truthfully idk how they’ll react when they hear the truth but they’ll probably get angry with me. I’m lost here. Any suggestions how to approach this?

At age 20 I had saved up money to get a hair transplant. I had significant hair loss and it was impossible to socialize without a hat on. I was given oral medication which is a testosterone blocker. There were low but not impossible odds of it causing sexual dysfunction. Overnight I realized I was suffering from side effects. Couldn’t get it up at all but kept taking the medication. I really just wanted hair and figured the sexual side effects could be reversed down the line

The hair transplanted hair thinned out a few years after the operation. I had finally stopped taking the medication because I realized the effects on my hormones wasn’t worth it. I buzzed my head because of my thin hair and the scar from the operation is so massive and obvious. I cannot self accept that

The worst part is I discovered my face and head shape are perfect for bald. If I never did this I could’ve just enjoyed my appearance without the giant scar, had my dick/sex drive in a healthy state, and could’ve saved all the money I spent on this

I absolutely do not enjoy my life and I would give anything to have a second chance at that decision