Friends (F31) and (M34) Still Blames Family for All Her Problems After 15 Years.
I’ve been friends with someone overseas for almost 15 years. We’ve stayed in touch on and off, but her main struggle has always been her family “hating” her. She still lives with her parents at 31. Over the years, I’ve tried giving advice. encouraging her to go to school again, find a new job, or gain independence. but nothing changes.
I stopped offering advice unless she asks, but she still randomly messages me with the same issues. She’s even said she’s jealous of my family situation. At this point, I’m exhausted. It’s depressing to hear the same complaints, and I find her lack of action immature.
How do I set boundaries without feeling guilty? Or am I being too harsh?