u/ConfidentSale3091

There was one teacher at my school who was militantly anti-litter. If he found something on the floor that he could trace back to you, you'd get detention for a few days.

So there was this guy I really hated (still kind of do, many years later), and he did something to really piss me and my friend off. We went to his locker after school when everyone was gone, and found it unlocked. So we took out a random one of his books and put it on the floor, right outside the teacher's door.

He swore the book had been safely in his locker, but he still got the detention.

Maybe if he'd pointed out that leaving it right outside the teacher's door was implausibly stupid, he might have had evidence of foul play. But I don't think he got that creative.

I don't even think he ever suspected us.

They are all pretty much as carb heavy as their sugary counter parts. Using Malitol almost exclusively, with decent dosages of maltodextrin. Glycemic index spikes equal or greater than the real thing they are trying to mimic... What's up with that? It's like what's the point of having sugar free candy like that when you are spiking insulin levels like crazy anyway. My grandfather is diabetic and he eats the sugar free Andes mints a lot, and now I can see they are literally just as bad for his levels! It's kind of criminal they can market something like that, make the consumer feels safe about eating it, and then have it do pretty much the same fucking thing to your body.

As a man, I used to live at home with my parents not too long ago as a young adult. You know how depressing it was to have to abide by my parents' rules while seeing my peers live independently, date, and have way more freedom to do whatever they wanted, all while being shamed for it simply because I couldn’t afford to move out?

People act like living at home automatically means you’re lazy, immature, or a "failure" when for a lot of people it’s literally just economics. Rent is insane, wages haven’t kept up, and not everyone has the same financial support system or opportunities. Some people are helping family, saving money, studying, dealing with setbacks, or just trying to survive.

It absolutely destroyed my self-confidence back then because I already felt behind in life, and the constant jokes and judgment from people made it worse. I’m still trying to recover from that feeling years later. Before you say something hurtful to someone in that situation, please think about what it actually does to the other person mentally. You don’t know what they’re going through.

I'm asking here because the rudeness and anti male sentiment in other subreddits honestly gave me a headache. I'm looking for somebody who isn't just compatible with me sexually but also wants something long term and I'm willing to bear any monetary costs so my sugar baby can just focus on being in the moment with me. Is this a bad idea because I've had no dating experience?

Why are so many people on this site weirdly hostile for no reason? I asked a completely normal question on r/geography and many reddit users immediately replied with some smug sarcastic one-liner like they’re trying to win a middle school argument.

A lot of these people genuinely come across as emotionally immature. It feels like they had a bad day IRL so they jump online looking for random strangers to dump their attitude on because there’s zero consequences behind a screen. Half the time they don’t even answer the question, they just want to act superior and get upvotes from other cynical people.

And honestly, a lot of it feels cowardly too. Most people would never talk like that face to face because being constantly snarky and condescending in real life would make people avoid them fast. But online they can hide behind anonymity and pretend being rude is somehow witty or intelligent and even worse people reward that behavior by upvoting them. Does anyone else feel like Reddit has gotten especially bad with this?

As someone who grew up associating Diwali with cooler weather, longer nights, and that whole autumn/winter festive vibe, it’s always fascinated me how different it must feel in places like Australia, New Zealand, South Africa, etc. where the seasons are flipped.

Like, Diwali happening in the middle of spring sounds surreal to me. Does it still feel like Diwali when it’s warm outside, flowers are blooming, and the days are getting longer? And Holi during autumn also feels like such a strange contrast because I mentally associate Holi with the arrival of spring and winter ending.

Do you eventually stop noticing the seasonal mismatch after living there long enough, or does it always feel slightly off? Also curious if local Indian communities adapt the vibe of the festivals to the local season in any way.

I know that unlike in the US or Canada, most Australian uni students don’t seem to move away and live on campus full-time, since a lot of people just commute from home. But I also know that on-campus accommodation and residential colleges definitely exist, especially for rural/regional students, interstate students, and international students. So I’m curious what the experience is actually like in Australia.

Is it socially active like the stereotypical American/Canadian dorm experience, or is it way more lowkey? Do people actually make close friend groups there or do most residents kinda keep to themselves? I’ve also heard residential colleges can have a pretty strong culture/tradition scene compared to normal student apartments, so I’m wondering how true that is too.

What’s the day to day atmosphere like? Are there lots of parties/events or is it mostly just people studying and doing their own thing? And do Aussie students generally see campus living as something desirable/fun, or more just a practical housing option if you’re from far away?

I’m in college and I’ve noticed this keeps happening during group projects. I’ll try to contribute ideas or ask questions and my group members either talk over me, give super short responses, or just continue the conversation like I never said anything. Sometimes they’ll even respond normally to everyone else but barely acknowledge me.

What makes it worse is that I start getting hyper aware of everything I do after that. I overthink my tone, where I’m looking, whether I sound annoying, whether I’m interrupting, etc. Then I end up becoming quieter and more awkward which probably makes the situation even worse.

The thing is, I’m not trying to be the center of attention or anything. I just want to feel included and not like some background NPC standing there while everyone else naturally connects. How do you stop feeling awkward or embarrassed in situations like this without completely shutting down?

Is there an essential book one has to read to know more?

I live in Pennsylvania so I don't know exactly how cold or warm it is to others but I love to walk outside in shorts and t-shirt in this weather. What do you guys think?

In school, I was the kid who got in trouble for reacting, not the kid who started anything. Someone would spend days or weeks picking at me in small ways that teachers did not notice and care about even when I reported it. They would be making faces at me across the room, mouthing racist insults when the teacher’s back was turned. Whispering things just loud enough for me to hear but quiet enough to stay plausibly innocent.

The one time I finally snapped and told a guy in my class to stop bothering me because he was making faces and mouthing racist insults at me, the teacher immediately turned it on me. I got detention for being "disruptive." Not a single question about why I was upset. Not a single glance at what he had been doing for weeks. Just me, being the problem because I was the one who spoke out loud.

That happened over and over in different versions. I would try to ignore it. I would try to move seats. I would try to keep my head down. But the moment I said something, raised my voice, or showed any sign that I was fed up, I became the one who "couldn’t behave." The bully stayed invisible because they were quieter about it. I was visible because I reacted.

It messes with you. You start to feel like you are not allowed to defend yourself. Like you are expected to just absorb disrespect silently or else you are the bad guy. Like the system cares more about keeping the room quiet than about what is actually happening in it.

I am older now, but I still carry that frustration. Not just toward the kids, but toward the adults who saw only the surface and never bothered to look at what led up to it

Every time someone talks about struggling with dating, there’s always people replying with stuff like "you need to heal completely" or "be fully emotionally mature", etc At some point it starts sounding completely detached from reality. If you actually applied all these standards consistently, most people wouldn’t date until they were middle aged.

Most adults are still figuring themselves out. Tons of people in relationships have insecurities, anxiety, financial stress, family issues, awkwardness, trauma, bad habits, or areas where they still need to grow. Human beings are basically unfinished projects forever. That doesn’t mean they’re incapable of loving someone or being loved. A healthy relationship can literally help people grow emotionally and mature over time. The internet acts like dating is some reward you unlock only after achieving perfect mental health, career success, confidence, social skills, and self-esteem.

I’m not saying people should dump all their problems onto their partner or refuse to improve themselves. Obviously there’s a difference between normal flaws and being genuinely toxic or abusive. But the way people talk online sometimes makes it sound like you need to become some ultra-polished enlightened adult before you’re "allowed" to want companionship. Meanwhile in the real world, imperfect people date imperfect people every single day and always have.

In a world where there is so much vitriol and negativity, I appreciate people who are kind to me even though I have not said anything to them. It makes me less anxious and more likely to be friends with that person.

I keep seeing the same pattern across Reddit. Certain feminist spaces will loudly insist they do not hate men, but in the same breath allow and upvote phrases like "kill all men", "men are violent monsters" or blanket statements about men being inherently bad to circulate freely. When men point this out, the response is always that it is "just venting about patriarchy" or "It is not about you personally." As if the wording somehow stops mattering because the intent is reframed after the fact.

If the roles were reversed and men were calling women inherently manipulative or evil as a way to "vent about feminism" nobody would accept that explanation for a second. It would be rightly called misogyny and hate speech. But when the target is men, suddenly we are told to understand the emotional context and not focus on the literal words being used.

Words matter. If threatening, dehumanizing language is acceptable as long as it is labeled as "venting" then that standard can justify anything. At that point, you are not asking for understanding. You are asking for a free pass to verbally abuse an entire group of people while denying that you are doing exactly that.

There is also constant talk about "decentering men." But if the goal is truly to decenter men, why are so many posts obsessed with criticizing, generalizing, and attacking them? That is not decentering. That is fixation. You cannot claim indifference while simultaneously dedicating huge amounts of energy to negativity about the same group.

From the outside, many of these subreddits do not look like discussions about equality, policy, or improving women’s lives. They look like echo chambers where extreme hostility toward men is normalized, excused, and sometimes even celebrated, as long as it is packaged as frustration with patriarchy.

So the question is simple. If feminists in these spaces genuinely do not hate men, why is there so little effort to shut down this kind of rhetoric? Why is the reaction to criticism always to reinterpret the words instead of acknowledging that maybe the language itself is part of the problem?

I’m an Indian man and I genuinely don’t understand how some people eat food with zero spice. I’m talking food so mild it tastes like it was seasoned by someone afraid of black pepper. Meanwhile I’m over here sweating through my shirt, nose running, eyes watering, questioning every life decision I’ve ever made halfway through lunch and loving it.

The pain is part of the experience. I want the kind of spice where the first bite feels like a warning from God himself. If I’m not pacing around my kitchen chugging water and regretting my arrogance for 15 minutes, the food probably needed more chili. My family will casually eat stuff that would probably qualify as chemical warfare to other people.

And honestly, spicy food just makes eating more exciting. Bland food feels depressing to me. I don’t want a peaceful lunch. I want an adrenaline rush. I want my ancestors watching proudly as I destroy my digestive system for flavor. If I’m not having a minor existential crisis during the meal, the spice level was too low lol.

I mean the more awkward privacy layer: coworkers, mutual friends, family friends, people from the same ethnic community, church/community group, professional circle, suburb, or rural town seeing your profile before you’ve chosen to share anything. Does that actually affect whether you use apps, or is it not a big deal in practice?

If you do care about privacy, how do you handle it today?

Do you use mainstream apps anyway, keep your profile vague, avoid apps, rely on friends/events, or just accept that people might see you?

I’m especially curious whether this feels different in smaller cities/suburbs, diaspora communities, or tight professional circles.

I swear every company’s music on hold sounds like it was specifically engineered to make people slowly lose their sanity.

You call because your internet is down or your bank account got locked, etc and then they hit you with the same distorted jazz loop recorded through a microwave in 1998. Half the time it randomly cuts out too, so you think someone finally picked up, only for the trumpet solo from hell to blast directly into your ear again.

And why is it ALWAYS weird smooth jazz, elevator funk, or some corporate ukulele beat? Nobody has ever sat there thinking "wow this slap bass loop is really improving my customer service experience." It honestly feels like they purposely pick the most mentally exhausting music possible so you hang up before reaching a real person.

I’ve started realizing that some of the stuff I do for fun is probably not considered "normal" by most people. None of it is harmful or anything, but I feel like if I told a girl I’m dating about it she’d think I’m some kind of alien.

For example, sometimes I literally just sit in silence staring at a wall thinking about random stuff for like 30 minutes straight because it relaxes me. I also have a vending machine and I weirdly enjoy refilling it, organizing it, and messing with the coin mechanism even though I could just buy snacks normally. Another thing is I occasionally race my electric scooter around empty parking lots at night while holding a pack of mints because for some reason I think it makes me "more aerodynamic" even though obviously it doesn’t.

I've heard that I’m unintentionally a weird person. I can function normally, have a job, socialize fine, etc. but I’m worried dating wise this stuff crosses the line from quirky to weird?