Hey there, I'm 42 and just started BJJ. I love it, but I have long hair and even though I tie it up it often partly falls out and some of it ends up being pulled out while grappling. I don't want to do tiny braids as this definitely would not suit me in day to day life. Any tips/ suggestions for how to limit the damage to my hair? Thanks in advance.
If an account has not been used in 8 years (although still exists) is it possible for the account to have been hacked and for the account to start following random people/ accounts? And really awful accounts at that?
I've (42F) been in a relationship with my partner (42M) for 6 months now and this relationship more than any other I've been in has brought up a whole range of emotions. On one level it is a stable and secure relationship. We have deep conversations, we both try to understand one another and spend quality time together. But on a deeper level, I feel suffocated and scrutinised a lot of the time. My partner acknowledges he has an anxious attachment and this led early in our relationship to me asking for some space (which led ultimately to a two week break after he told me that me have space 'would break him'). He has done some work to better understand his attachment but I still feel very scrutinised in a way I've never felt before in a relationship.
He picks up on the smallest changes in my emotional state and I can tell that he is in a mild panic when this happens. We have a very active sex life, but occasionally if I am not in the mood I can tell he panics about this too. His preference would be for us to be touching in some way 100% of the time. He is very perceptive, but to the point of me feeling like I"m under the microscope. Sometimes, I want to sit and watch a movie and not be all over each other and sometimes I am ok with lots of physical touch while sitting on the couch. It's not one or the other with me, and he finds this odd and confusing. I've think I have avoidant tendencies, in that I need my own space from time to time and don't need or want to analyse every small interaction we have, but I've never been avoidant in previous relationships. If anything, I was the one needing reassurance.
We've just spent the last two days together and I have come home feeling confused. He's is a great guy with great values and lots of physical attraction between us. But I just never feel like I'm giving him enough. And it makes me feel deflated. I guess I' wondering whether I give it another six months and see where we're at by the end of that, or whether this is just not the right match for either of us. OR am I just hopeless at relationships, because finally here is a guy who is emotionally available and I don't know how to handle it?
Hi everyone,
Something I've noticed in therapy is that it is very easy for me to access exiles but very hard for me to access managers. It's like they don't want to be found. When they do appear they appear like translucent shapes that I can't reach for very long. Whereas my exiles always appear as me as a little girl and I can interact with them easily. Why do you think this is?
Is this an ADHD thing? I've heard it is. I'm diagnosed ADHD as of 6 months ago and before this I always just thought I was a bit odd because certain noises irritate the hell out of me. Here they are:
Edit: I just thought of another one --the sound of windscreen wipers...