u/Consistent_Goose8181

i’ve been thinking about starting a blog to share my thoughts, particularly fashion and beauty. but I’m curious if anyone would read it. im not big on short form content like TikTok for me it takes too long to produce. It’s easier for me to write and get my thoughts out as soon as possible. I also feel like i flow better with writing vs making videos

I’m going to a concert this week at iron city both my friend and I are disabled and have had a hard time contacting the venue about seating I know the concert is standing room but they claim to have accommodations. can anyone tell me if they offer any ada seating outside of the tables in vip. We both have a hard time with stairs This is my first time going and I just want to be prepared if I need to bring a walker or my own seat

A couple years ago, my friend hooked with someone she met on a dating app. Shortly after the encounter they decided to ghost her. This was her first time trying something casual so I checked to see if she was OK at first everything was fine and she reassured me that she understood it was a hook up. However as time passed She became more upset and was trying to understand what went wrong. She couldn’t understand if they had a good time why would they go ghost out of nowhere. She became very depressed, insecure about herself, and continued to mull over what she could’ve done wrong.

I reassured her that there was nothing wrong with her that this is the risk that comes with hooking up with someone. our conversations have become a continuous cycle of me Reassuring her feelings about the hook up. Ever since she met this person all she ever talks about Is them. I have yet to have a conversation with her that didn’t involve the hookup in the past two years, at one point she would send me photos of them on dates with other women. at that point, I thought she was taking it way too far because she only met up with them once and even before they met, they had only been talking for a few weeks. I continue to give her the typical peptalk, there’s other people out there, you’re beautiful, you can do better, bad hookups happen to everybody etc…

A year and a half after the hook up, my friend found out They had a girlfriend. whom they shared a house with She was upset and vowed this was the last straw for her and she was finally going to move on. I thought finally she can go on with her life and get back to normal. I was wrong six months after she found out about the girlfriend they popped back up, DM her on insta. Originally she told me she was only going to respond to get closure. she starts getting comfortable with them and she decides she wants to have sex with them again. I told her what about the girlfriend. she exclaimed I don’t think they would be talking to me if they were not single. 😐 I told her you just found out about the girlfiend a few months prior I don’t think they would just break up like that especially if they live together. She ignored me and slept with them again. And shocker she was blocked and ghosted once again. Angrier than she was the first time she was in shock of how they could do this to her. At this point, even some of our other friends were hinting to her that she should’ve known better considering she knew they weren’t single. She tried to play it off saying how was I supposed to know? They kept telling me they were single and anything could’ve happened between now and when I found out about the girlfriend.

For me, it’s getting to the point now. I don’t know what else to tell her. I find myself constantly repeating myself about her, needing to move on. I’m trying to be a good friend and reassure her feelings but honestly, I don’t know what else to say and whenever I do give her advice she ignores it or makes it seem like I’m ignorant to what she’s going through whats annoying me the most about the situation is now whenever I speak to her, she always turns the conversation to them. To the point where we can’t even talk about anything else even when I’m trying to get advice from her she always turns the conversation to her old hook up. I want to be a good friend, but I honestly don’t know what else to do.

Watching this year‘s Met Gala, I was excited seeing this year‘s exhibit include disabled bodies, and  seeing the gala finally included disabled people. I was especially excited to see the first person with cerebral palsy on the carpet however, I was a little shocked at the world’s reaction seeing Ariana’ Philip. I have seen absolute vitriol and so much ableism from her appearing on the carpet it is disgusting . As a woman of color with cerebral palsy so much of my life experience has been spent trying to make myself palatable for others. As a disabled person so much of your time is spent making yourself digestible to the world around you; putting everyone at ease to your mere existence. However, in doing so you end up making yourself smaller piece by piece, little by little until there’s almost nothing left. If you cannot stomach my existence, well then go choke.