u/ConversationFew3126

I left marital home due to abuse and I was afraid all the time due to threats.
Post that I filed for divorce but opposing counsel seems to delay the process.
They are not answering emails etc for final agreement.
I have not contacted my spouse. One of my friend suggested you should try to build talking terms with spouse without discussing legal paperwork, but stuff like bills of other logistics.
Now most of the bills were in my name which I am paying selling my assets every month, my STBX does have 2 utility bill in her name which she is not paying. She also has not renewed car tabs.
Should I reach out to her. I know the utilities company will call if bill not paid for months but should I ask her if she needs to build talking terms and make divorce more amicable.

Earlier I made no contact as I was super scared of fake threats she use to give. But I am much more confident now.

Location: WA

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I left home due to abuse and filed for divorce, my spouse sent me "I love you letter everyday" and begged that I should go back, and following email used to be threatening or dragging the case etc.

Now, finally she retained attorney, and now my attorney mentioned, that she has told her attorney that I took a large sum of cash from her when I left.

Wow! I have no words. True picture of saying "I love you". I have never taken a dollar cash from her, but I am just amazed. She cannot prove, hence "large sum of cash".

Someone tried to break into my car, I am filing an incident report, is it easy to replace? Can I do it myself? Dealership appointment is available after a month, and I cannot get in the car from driver side door.