u/Correct-Tea-5594

Is there an inbetween term for male gaze and female gaze? Like, the gaze is for everyone to enjoy? Gaze for bisexuals if that makes sense?

Are any of my ideas ACTUALLY interesting/is my art good?

Idk, sometimes I get a bit self conscious about what I make because it feels like I’m showing a piece of myself and I do have a hard time separating my creations from me since some aspects of my art and stories are influenced by my real life, whether it’s about mental illness, things I gone through, or even just basing some stuff on what I’m personally scared of, angry about, or what I feel about something.

Especially since I am well aware that I’m not AS skilled at certain things art wise though I am trying to get better (it’s really hard tho). And sometimes I get worried about reception due to RSD and I know I can take things to heart sometimes especially since I don’t like upsetting or angering people and I won’t deny that I had moments where I lost my cool and snapped because I could no longer handle it.

Idk, what do y’all think?

1. People are really fucking weird and puritanical about curvy bodies in art because it’s either called gooner art (even if the body isn’t THAT exaggerated) and treat the artist like a sex maniac or they sexualize the character even if the character wasn’t meant to be viewed sexually (though that isn’t to say you can’t find curviness attractive, just be normal about it and be respectful of boundaries). And tbh it borders on misogyny and, dare I say, racism because black women are constantly oversexualized to the point a black female character can’t wear anything without being treated like a whore.

As a curvy person who has been treated that way, it annoys me when characters like this are treated that way and I even had someone ‘critique’ my characters like this and it still makes me mad when I get reminded of it because of how misogynistic and SWERFy the critique now sounds in hindsight.

And even if the character IS meant to be sexy, WHO CARES? As long as they have personalities, I don’t give a fuck because real women are allowed to be sexy on their terms and still deserve to be treated like human beings.

2. People confuse personal feelings with objective critiques and it’s annoying. Because no, saying that you don’t like my artstyle isn’t a helpful or useful critique.

3. If you are giving a critique and you’re not only being an ass about it, if I don’t see any art in your profile, I’m not gonna listen because you probably got your critique from a YouTuber.

4. Solar Sands did irreparable damage to how we critique others and tbh his art wasn’t good enough for him to have the balzac to make fun of a kid’s oc.

5. Art communities online have a massive racism/bigotry problem, especially against black/creators of color creators and characters, and I’m tired of people coddling white/nonblack artists for being blatantly racist. Like, I’m generally pretty understanding when it comes to kids or people who legit didn’t know any better because they’ll usually learn (and it isn’t always malicious bc I’ve definitely fucked up when drawing POC features or rep), but those who throw fits and cry victim when they are rightfully criticized for antiblackness and general racism get no sympathy from me.

And don’t get me started on those who are actually incredibly racist on purpose for the sake of ragebait by making fun of “forced diversity” (aka a piece of media having more than one POC in the cast or characters having intersecting identities) or complaining that a reboot of a kids show is woke now (seriously why is the monster high fandom so fucking homo/transphobic and fatphobic? Like, I don’t particularly care for the reboot but that’s because I grew out of monster high and the outfits kinda suck, not because Frankie is nonbinary and Catty Noir is fat because I’m not a bigoted lunatic who takes kids shows WAY too seriously).

6. Fellow artists who like to draw cartoony styles, watch more live action stuff. I get the hesitation bc I like animation better and I’m a bit picky about live action stuff that aren’t movies I watched as a kid, but it’ll do you some good and there’s stuff you’ll like.

My most recent live action movies in the past year or more I watched have been Hellraiser, The Substance, one of the VHS films (though I did a marathon on New Year’s Eve of the first three. Yes, even Viral which was so boring that I had a better time unclogging a toilet and didn’t bother pausing it for breaks), and Killer Klowns from Outer Space (sensing a pattern here?)

On the flipside, watch more obscure/lesser known animation (especially foreign and/or adult). My most recent watches (and some of my favorites) are Heavy Metal, Perfect Blue, Rock and Rule, Raggedy Ann and Andy’s Big Musical Adventure (lowkey the gayest movie ever bc have you SEEN the way Ann looks at Babette?), and there are others I plan to watch but haven’t gotten around to (list being Bebe’s Kids, at least one of Ralph Bakshi’s movies bc his artstyle is yummy, Paprika, and probably more I meant to watch but forgot).

Also, any recommendations for movies are greatly appreciated (ideally ones that fit my tastes here and also let me know if there’s anything to be warned about bc I know some older movies can age poorly and obscure cult classics can have that problem too along with disturbing content. Like, I’m not super squeamish or a prude but I have limits. Like, I love Heavy Metal, it’s lowkey my comfort movie, but it was a tad misogynistic except for maybe my beautiful wife Taarna 🩷💜💙. And Perfect Blue was a great movie but I was a tad blindsided by THAT scene and the poor fishies being killed.)

Sorry for getting sidetracked, I’m very stream-of-consciousness when I’m talking about my personal thoughts. If that’s a problem, too bad ig.

7. I think making fun of a kid’s art as an adult is fucking pathetic and immature. Especially if it leads to harassment because why are you as a grown ass adult with a job and bills making fun of a kid’s art and mocking them when they’re upset because kids aren’t always gonna handle stuff maturely? Like, I PRAY people like this never have kids if this is how they treat children they barely know.

That’s about it and btw these are all my opinions, either take it or leave it.

Sometimes I get frustrated when it comes to art whether it’s the pieces themselves, something with art in general that gets on my nerves, or even just other people regardless if they are right or not. It’s even more so the case after my old account got stolen and nuked and the ungodly amount of stress during and even after I took precautions and assured myself that everything was fine (some of which I repressed because I’m trying to do the smart thing when it comes to ocd and just let myself just deal with it without reassurance seeking).

So just know that I apologize if I got snippy with anyone. It’s not your fault, I was just dealing with a lot and not managing my stress properly because what happened was a nightmare and I take responsibility for getting a bit bitchy with people.

With that said, are these frustrations normal or just a me problem?

I’m sorry for getting so aggravated with people from a previous post. I was repressing a lot of stress and anxiety over what happened with my old account and feeling unsafe even after I took the precautions needed to keep my personal information safe.

Just understand it isn’t your fault, I was just handling my feelings poorly and being in a bad mood from poorly managed stress ontop of emotional dysregulation already is prime time for everything and everyone to get on your nerves or hurt your feelings whether it’s unintentional or on purpose.