u/Count_Dongula

Abstinence-only education is not a good idea. Teenagers are by their nature dumb and impulsive, and they will not adhere to promises to abstain. It is important to understand that safe sex can be had, and the methods which can be practiced. That said, people who blame abstinence-only education for their pregnancies are either stupid or looking to shift the blame for their impulsive sexual activity. No amount of sex education is going to stop these idiots from teenage pregnancy.

Abstinence-only education teaches you that most basic concept: having sex causes pregnancy. It gives you all the basis you need to do some independent research and figure out the rest. Since 1998, Google has existed and it has been very easy to just ask "how do I not get pregant" on the internet. Once you understand that having sex causes pregnancy, you are maybe three minutes away from knowing at least two methods to avoid pregnancy. If somebody claims that they did not know about birth control, they are either impossibly stupid, or they're lying because they can't take accountability for their actions.

The only way you can actually not know about birth control is if you are completely non-curious about the world. In an era of smart phones and pervasive internet culture, if you never googled "what is a condom" then you have to be either operating at an extremely low level to begin with, or you have never been on the internet before--which means statistically you were just released from somebody's basement or were in some sort of Encino Man-like situation, in which case congratulations on finally escaping captivity. Welcome to the modern world. It's incredible but everybody complains constantly. Including me. Especially me.

Brendan Fraser movie plots notwithstanding, if you don't figure out birth control within twenty minutes of discovering that sex causes pregnancy, it's because you didn't even try, which means that either you lack intelligence or you are obscenely lazy. And if anybody was THAT lazy, they're not having sex.

And if they aren't stupid, then it's because they disregarded what they learned the instant they googled "how am babby formed?" And can't admit they did something impulsive. It's the kind of person who looks at warning labels once, and then does exactly the thing it warns against doing, and then calls customer service blaming the product for catching fire because nobody told him he wasn't supposed to dip it in gasoline. The information was clear and obvious to everybody, and that subnormal couldn't be assed to follow basic instructions and warnings and doesn't want to blame himself for the tragic consequences of his own actions. That person wasn't betrayed by the system; that person could know how to prevent pregnancy and had all the ability to do so, and couldn't be assed, but he also doesn't want to be culpable, so he scapegoated the system.

Unfortunately, it turns out most zombies ate brains as humans and now they're brain-eating zombies!

I have a $35 legacy plan. I get 10 GB of high speed data with that each month. For the last few months, it hasn't renewed. Customer service keeps telling me inaccurate information. How do I get my data to renew each month?

I have a divorce case involving a pro se litigant. The parties have little to fight over. She keeps filing motions and papers. The court heard one, ruled against her, and issued swift rulings on the remaining papers. (Two were improper peremptory challenges to bump the judge after he ruled against her). During the hearing, he threatened to have her removed from the court room.

The last two orders have come down before she could file a reply. They each include some variation of "the motion is frivolous" and "if petitioner believes the repeated motions are unreasonable, he may file a motion to seek recovery for attorneys' fees."

I feel like the judge is perhaps hinting that I should ask for my fees. Am I reading too much into this?

Edit: apparently not. Little context: the action is now in the post-divorce state. In every response to the pro se's motions, I ask for attorneys fees, and that's why I am a little confused. But I think you all are right.

I [32M] am the primary earner in my household. My wife [33F] does not work, but gets a small amount of child support from a previous marriage. She is supposed to pay the utilities and I handle everything else, and we both do grocery shopping as needed.

I learned that, for about six months, my wife had been spending a lot of money on her credit card, such that it had been maxed out. This happened because I never looked at her credit card statements and I only passingly paid attention to our bank accounts. She had hidden her spending from me by lying about it. She also hadn't consistently been paying the utility bill, so that I was basically shouldering every bill and most of the groceries. Most of what she bought was stuff off the internet. When I found out, I waited for the kids to go off to bed and then we had a big fight, she cried and promised she wouldn't lie to me about her spending anymore or hide it from me.

I started working extra hours to fill the hole and paid off the credit card from savings. We cut up her card and cancelled it. We decided she would only use cash from then on, and she would have to get it from me or the bank, such that I would know about it. I became paranoid after that. Any time I saw her with something I didn't recognize, I asked her how she got it. (She hid a lot of her spending by telling me they were gifts from friends and family). Yesterday, during a lunch date with her, I noticed a sandwich in her truck and became suspicious. A freaking peanut butter and jelly sandwich. I started asking her pointed questions over it, because she should have run out of cash for anything by that point, and it turned out she had actually been selling things to get cash. Mostly the junk jewelry she had bought off the internet. But she lied at first about where it came from and I finally got her to tell the truth. Again, big fight and then she cried and promised not to lie to me or hide her spending from me anymore. Four hours later, she lied again.

I doubt she spent much money that I don't know about, and certainly not on anything inappropriate. Mostly, she was buying fucking coffee, something we'd agreed she wouldn't do anymore after the maxed out credit card, especially since we have a very good coffee maker. But the problem is the lying. She keeps lying to me about the money, and I'm now keeping a grip on my wallet that feels unfair and wrong, and I'm getting suspicious over sandwiches, and that suspicion is being validated.

I think she knows enough by now that I am at my limit with her, so I think she is actually trying to be truthful, but I don't believe her at all anymore. How do I get past this and restore a little trust?