u/CountyAdmirable936

It's been almost 2 weeks since we had our chat and I admitted to having a serious crush on you because people were running their mouths to you. You made your position very clear that rhere were no feelings on your end outside of genuine friendship and I honestly accept that. I know that no matter how much I wish these feelings coukd be returned that ultimately I cannot make you feel something that is t already there.

There was no written evidence of what I said in relation to it just my words to others so I should have just told you I had no idea what people are talking about. That they are just jealous of how close we have become over the course of the last 2 years and just wanted to drive a wedge between our ffriendship. Because now that my feelings for you are out there and you know I feel like I can no longer be myself and just say what comes to mind like before.

I have never been the kind of person to put thought into my words before saying them and I dont want to.have to start now.but I feel like if I dont start putting serious thoughts into everything I say going forward it could be misinterpreted and I coukd lose you from my life completely and I dont want that.

I would rather spend the rest of my life with my heart aching knowing ny feelings will never be returned than risk losing your friendship forever.

Two years ago we met and my first thoughts were you were mean and rude. But then the wall came down and I got to see that was just your way of protecting yourself and slowly we became close friends.

You made.me laugh when there wasn't a lot to laugh about. You made me cry when realizing how deeply you cared for.me.

I tried my hardest to fight these feeling but I can no longer fight them. Because they are way stronger than I am. I never meant to fall in love with someone 20 years my junior but you made it so hard not to.

You were kind caring sweet and way more beautiful than anything i deserve. I have no doubt that I am falling so deeply in love with you and im so sorry. I never wanted this because I am almost 100% certain those feelings will never be reciprocated on your part.

Please forgive me for not guarding my heart more carefully I don't blame you if you hate me once you figure out that I lied to your face about not having feelings for you. How am I supposed to tell you I am slowly but surely falling in love with you when your own dad is only 5 years older than me and those feelings not coming off a bit creepy since im 20 years older.

Yes it ilsn't like you're 19 and im 39 and having these feelings for you . After all you're a fully grown mature woman at 44 but it still feels weird. Maybe it's just ne overreacting because my previous relationships were with older women. I know having these feelings for you is probably wrong and it has the potential to destroy our friendship if we dar3d to take it to the next level but I can't help myself and hope you can forgive me someday.

I am a white male 64 . Throughout my life I have had crushes on beautiful black women. Usually it ended in rejection for one reason or another and I moved on I have had feelings for women of other races as well so it's not like im exclusively attracted to women of color.

2 years ago I met Dominique a beautiful woman of color who started working at my job. At first i didn't think we would get along. She seemed for lack of a better term kind of a bitch that was until I got to know her better and saw the wonemderful kind woman she was.

About a month and a half ago i finally came to terms with the fact that I have feelings for her. But these feelings are much more intense than anything I have ever felt for another woman of color before or actually any woman period. It's almost as if this is more than just a simple crush.

She's no longer a co worker but we still keep in touch. I have felt at times that there might be mutual feelings but the issue is shes 44 so young enough to be ny daughter and Im scared to say anything to her out of fear of being seen as a creep because im old enough to be her dad.

So can anyone explain why ny feelings for her are so much nore inte se than for anyone else before her?

So I 64m have been really good friends with a co worker (work for the same company just at different locations)! Who is 44f. Yes I am aware that the age gap is significa t but it's not like im in ny 40s falling for someone barely out of high school

My feelings started a few months ago and I've tried to deny they exist because I felt like such a creep for falling for someone who could be my daughter. I finally came ro twena with them early last month when I had a minor procedure that I had to be put to sleep for and when i.came to a couple of hours later the Nurse asked ne who Dom was (short for Dominique) I told her she was a friend and the nurse said she must be some special friend because you called hwr name at least a dozen times

Tldr How do i tell a good friend im falling for her without coming off as a creep because of a 20 year age gap

So I almost 64 caucaisi9n m have known this woman 44 African American f going on 2 years in July. Until recently we worked in the same location but she recently transferred to a different nearby location. Over the last several months there was lots of flirting and teasing initiated by her but I have played along also. Things like she woukd get fake jealous over me looking at or talking to another female referring to me as her work hubby saying things like she needs an older white man to teach her some things

At the beginning of April I asked her out for bowling and drinks at a local bowling Alley. We had such an amazing ans fun time together that we have been going out practically every weekend since. U gave found myself starting to catch some really strong feelings for her but when I asked her last weekend where she saw things going she responded byy saying let's just enjoy each other's company without having to put some label on it. Im starting to wonder if im wasting ny time here or if im starting to take things way more seriously than she is.