u/Crafty-Purpose5540

I really don't like my brother's wife and I don't really have anyone to vent to. She's an absolute drain.

Quick backstreet, my wife and I moved in with my brother and his wife to save some money and have a nicer place. The problem is after almost a year, I can't stand my brother's wife and I really have nobody to really vent to. My wife is understanding but I don't want to overwhelm her with constant complaints.

First, we'll call the wife Sara, doesn't drive so she needs a ride to work every day. My wife agreed to drive Sara to work because their offices are fairly close together. Sara promised, a year ago, she would work on getting her liscense so she wasn't so dependent on us. A year later and she won't get her permit because she's too afraid to drive. Her and my brother's schedules don't line up so even if we're not working, we have to drive her back and forth 60 miles. She doesn't offer gas money either. We always have to ask.

Second, I swear she acts dumb when she doesn't want to do something. She won't vacuum because she says she doesn't understand how to use it. When we do get her to vacuum or wash the floors, it's half assed so we have to go and do it over. Same goes for dishes, wiping the counters, cleaning appliances. Ect ect. If we don't do it, it gets ignored or half done.

She promised us my brother wouldn't be an issue. Now I love my brother but he's messy as hell. Before we all moved in together, I asked if she would be keeping him in check and she promised up and down she'd keep him clean. We'll, there are two bikes, a skateboard, a hover board, and a scooter all sitting in our living room. No matter how many times I've asked for them to be moved, they are gone for *maybe* a day before they get dropped back in the living room.

Their section of the house is another beast. They have two rooms upstairs all to themselves but our bathroom is up there. When I go to take a shower, it looks like the floor in the hallway to the bathroom has not been cleaned in months, the stairs are covered in cat hair and there is stuff everywhere. It's gross as hell and smells like feet up there so I can't comfortably shower.

I will give Sara this, she feeds our cats. That is her only contribution.

Now a lot of this would be tolerable if she was even remotely fun to be around but she's not. Sara won't leave the house unless it's for work or visiting family. Otherwise she is *always* home and always visibly in a bad mood. Constant sighing. Always complaining. It's an absolute drag.

As I said in the beginning, I am fed up. I'm so sick of living with her and she's an absolute mood killer. My brother can be aggravating as hell but he's at least fun to be around, can get himself to and from work, and even though he's messy, he contributes in other ways like fixing appliances, working on my car, and doing really dirty cleaning that the rest of us are more apprehensive to do.

I don't like Sara at all. I am sick of living with her but we really need to stay another year to save money. I'm not really looking for advice. I just *really* needed to rant.

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u/Crafty-Purpose5540 — 1 day ago