u/CryingBacon96

Hello all, I’m turning 30 in 6 weeks time. I gained weight over the years due to binge eating and since end of June, I have been eating 1,300 calories with no exercise except 6-7K steps and have reduced binge eating. I haven’t binged in a while now and I am proud of that.

I started at 81KG and I am now 78, 5’3, this week scales between 78-79.80. I have been going to the gym twice now this week.

I have social anxiety so I really hope I stick it out. My plan is 4 days strength training and 4 days cardio. By cardio, I am doing like 30 mins of incline walk at 7-8%. My only full rest day is a Friday.

I assume I’d have to up my calorie intake. My maintenance is 1,700. I calculated based on sedentary based on the information that it’s hard to calculate calories burned during exercise.

I have body dysmorphia and I feel ashamed for taking so long to even start working on myself so I have this unreasonable fear that if I up my calories, I’ll just gain the weight.

Thank you all.

I have recently joined a company that is still figuring out their processes in place. Right now it is chaotic because we’re finalising the annual REM review based on employee’s scorecard. One of my responsibility is to make FY27 smooth sailing.

Currently what’s set up is that managers need to determine KPIs for their employees and their ratings is based on each KPI. It does a mid year review and then an end of year review. The HRIS is not the greatest and clanky.

Looking at FY26 employees have rarely put in any comments, and some managers have not. We are in mining so I guess I can understand the lack of action - it’s not always easy to get people to go on work computers etc.

There are some managers who provide us the comments and we enter it for them but this then gets mixed up with mid and end year comments. Employees rate themselves and then the managers rate at the end and it calibrates to an overall score which then reflects potential of salary increase.

I have been privileged to come from companies where there were HR groups who focused on different HR components so I feel like I am drowning myself in this role.

How often should KPIs change each year?

Is there any tips on how you would make the annual reviews better? I’d appreciate anything at this stage.

My goal is to ensure that people understand what they’re doing, know what support we can provide, keep consistency and that if there are performance concerns that they are addressed instead of being a surprise at the end of the year.

Thank you.

Hi all,

So I live in an apartment and had pest control come on the 24 April. I understand that being in an apartment there’s only so much you can do. After pest control was completed I had only seen 1 adult dead.

It’s been two months now and I see baby roaches from time to time. I see like maybe one or two. I am not too sure what to do. Is this sporadic sightings or is there an infestation that the pest control missed?

Thanks.

Hi everyone,

I have a 43SQM apartment and a cat in Aus. I am looking for any recommendations that is budget friendly or if you think I need to spend big on it. I’ve been eyeing the RoboRock Q7B+ but I keep seeing mixed reviews.

Thank you!

I’m still stuck on the whole “but what if it was me that they didn’t want to commit to,” even though they were the only one instigating relationships and running away when it would become a reality.

This whole push-pull behaviour over the last 3 years of dealing with it (my fault for not having self worth/respect and boundaries to walk away - or thinking that things would change when I wanted to walk away and they reeled me back in) really like showed me my abandonment and wanting to be chosen wound. Like I was becoming secure and then got into this entanglement and my secure went out the door.

It’s been nearly a year since the second discard and I think it’s the betrayal that genuinely kills me and it’s like I want closure but I know I will never get it.

Hi all!

I have a pre employment medical and I have started taking 25mg last month for hair loss. I have a drug test this afternoon and I understand that spiro is a diuretic so I was wondering if anyone’s had experience with spiro diluting their samples?

Thanks!

Hi everyone,

A month ago I went to see a dermatologist. She diagnosed me with AGA just looking at my hair. The only concerns with my blood tests is mild deficiency in Vitamin D. She then got me to do a scalp biopsy to confirm AGA or any other form.

We didn’t really talk about my past hair health. The only reason I have gone to a dermatologist is because my hairdresser last year said my hair looked like it was thinning.

My biopsy came back: no extensive scarring/fibrosis. Focal peri-infundibular chronic inflammation is observed without extensive immature concentric perfollicular fibrosis, and review of this the features are not considered diagnostic of lichen planopilaris. It is presumed that the clinical features/pattern of the alopecia is not typical of lichen planopilaris. The number of catagen telogen hairs is not increased. The subjective impression of possible anisotrichosis, in conjunction with the peri-infundibular inflammation could support a clinical diagnosis of androgenic alopecia, however the histopathologic features are not considered diagnostic.

She told me it’s AGA and just to take minoxidil and that was basically it.

Is it worthwhile getting a second opinion or should I take my dermatologist’s word for it. They’re not a dermatologist that specialises in hair, not to say that they’re wrong, but maybe I should have gone to one who does.