u/Cultural-Cream-6859

This is so embarrassing for me to admit but one of the many reasons I love being single is because I use the restroom A LOT (like number 1 x 10 and number 2 x 4 every day and it's only gotten worse with age 😭). Everything is normal, just have a high metabolism and get hungry/thirsty quickly.

I am very shy about toilet stuff and am also audhd so VERY sensitive to smells and I get the ick instantly which makes it hard for me to be attracted to someone once I've smelt them lol.

I just don't want to be perceived or judged for this basically and a relationship would feel too close for comfort 😕

I never used to have this problem when I was younger 😅 but for some reason, I feel that these men are less shy about stuff like this which really pisses me off with how men and women are socialized.

CAN ANYONE ELSE RELATE 🫠

I absolutely fucking adore living alone. I genuinely wouldn’t have it any other way. I’m also happily single and child-free by choice, so this isn’t a post about wanting a partner or regretting living alone.

But recently I’ve had to confront something that I find quite scary: I don’t have an emergency contact.

I come from a very toxic family and am estranged from them. The situation has also resulted in me becoming isolated from family friends and people who used to be part of my wider community. My neighbours don’t really understand or believe what I’ve experienced with my family, so they aren’t people I could rely on either.

I also lived overseas for a long time and spent years coming and going, so I never really built a solid in-person community where I currently live.

The strange thing is that this is completely different from how my life used to be. I used to have so many friends. Over the years, friendships have slowly disappeared one by one, including some incredibly painful betrayals, and I never imagined that I would eventually find myself in this position.

I do have friends, but nobody local who would necessarily notice quickly if something happened to me at home.

Recently I discovered the “Are You Dead?” app, where you regularly check in and it alerts someone if you stop responding. Then I realised…I don’t even know who I would nominate.

I don’t want to make a friend feel responsible for checking whether I’m alive. Someone I considered my best friend also recently told me that she didn’t want to be the executor of my will. I completely understand why someone might not want that responsibility, and I don’t hold it against her, but it forced me to confront just how little practical support I actually have.

I think that’s the part I’m struggling with - I love my independence. I love my home. I love living alone. I travel alone and have built a life where I’m capable of taking care of myself.

But being independent doesn’t change the basic reality that if I fell down the stairs, had a medical emergency, or something happened to me at home, I genuinely don’t know how long it would take before another human being noticed. It’s a horrible and surprisingly lonely thing to realise.

So I’m interested in the practical side rather than being told to find a partner or have children: Has anyone else here lived completely alone without an obvious emergency contact or nearby family/community? What systems did you put in place?

Did you use an app or check-in service? Arrange something with a neighbour? Ask a friend even though they lived elsewhere? Use some kind of professional service? And if you had nobody at all, how did you handle it?

I’m also trying to rebuild an in-person community, but obviously genuine relationships take time. I’m looking for something practical I can put in place in the meantime.

I’d especially love to hear from people who have actually been in this position, because I’m starting to realise there must be more of us than we talk about.

I am so happy putting myself out there online but at home the idea of being perceived by living with another person is terrifying and this is a huge reason why I LOVE being single...

Like having them judge the time I wake up, what I eat, how I look when comfy at home, how I smell (and all of this is vice versa lol).

I want the fantasy of someone always 🫠 and yes I have been in therapy for 10 years, can anyone else relate to this??

For anyone who is tired of the general public parroting "YOU'RE ENTITLED TO A CHILDFREE LIFE NOT A CHILDFREE WORLD" 🤦🏼‍♀️

I travel a lot, so I've accumulated a huge Data Bank.

I can gift up to half of my monthly allowance, but recipients receive my phone number and can't re-gift the data, so I don't feel comfortable donating it to strangers and I can't donate to charities to then regift it.

Optus has an anonymous 'Donate Your Data' program. Does anyone know if Woolworths has considered something similar, or is there a workaround I'm missing?

I'm not offering data here - I'm genuinely interested in whether there's a privacy-preserving way to donate unused data or whether this is just a gap in the product.

Look how angry the audience is, and for what?? For happily living your life and not choosing to be a sheep and have kids?!

Why are people so bitter???

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DZph-cPM-q1/

I was someone who decided VERY early on I wanted to be single, childfree (and in the last five years to decenter men and refuse to get married).

I have faced nothing but anger, confusion, ostracization and demonization from friends, family and complete strangers who have chosen to do those things and as a result, I have very few people in my life (which I see as a blessing tbh!) But the ones that get it, get it. Quality over quantity any day 👏🏽

My point is if you are feeling isolated by others in your decision to be single and childfree, remember it's better to be hated by others than to live a life you hate. 🙏🏽

Also the BEST middle finger to everyone was last week being featured on national TV for my single and childfree stance and then being celebrated for it haha.

It's honestly healed some very deep wounds around belonging and feeling validated because people seem to take your life choices so personally and punish you for daring to choose differently.

Keep shining, Single and Childfree Queens! 👑

I was someone who decided VERY early on I wanted to be childfree (and in the last five years to decenter men and refuse to get married).

I have faced nothing but anger, confusion, ostracization and demonization from friends, family and complete strangers who have chosen to do those things and as a result, I have very few people in my life (which I see as a blessing tbh!) But the ones that get it, get it. Quality over quantity any day! 👏🏽

My point is if you are feeling isolated by others in your decision to be childfree, remember it's better to be hated by others than to live a life you hate. 🙏🏽

Also the BEST middle finger to everyone was last week being featured on national TV for my childfree stance and then being celebrated for it haha.

It's honestly healed some very deep wounds around belonging and feeling validated because people seem to take your life choices so personally and punish you for daring to choose differently.

Keep shining, Childfree Queens! 👑

No snark, just discovered her and am obsessed as am currently on a shopping ban and this scratches the itch haha

This is insane, will you check out the looks of resentment from women who chose to have children?? Like who forced you into this life?

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DZph-cPM-q1/?igsh=dmVlOWNlZ3FhM3Nx