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after being together with my gf for 5 years she broke up for good. she already did this twice before because it became too much for her but we got back together on the same day both times, now its different. this time she broke up with me because: the way we handle conflicts is too different (i agree with her and wanted to work on it), she stopped loving me and didnt really miss me anymore when we didnt talk for a few days (this one hurt alot) and because its all just too much for her (id give her a break if she wanted to). however she still didnt change her mind. she has diagnosed depression and recently hat alot of stress in her life. i always tried to be there for her in all of the 5 years but it seems like she didnt wanna burden anyone in alot of the situations. i feel like its hard to believe that she very quickly fell out of love with me considering we were eachothers most important person. i dont wanna assume anything but ive gone through 2 small break ups with her before and it seems like its too much stress for her at the moment. how can i help her, i stopped contacting her to give her some time to think but im really scared :/

we were dating for 5 years, she has diagnosed depression and her therapist suspected bpd aswell. during those 5 years she broke up twice but only for a day (both times because she got overwhelmed) however this current break up is way more serious. we had a little conflict as we sometimes do and after that she didnt talk to me for 2 weeks (this never happened before) after those 2 weeks we met and she told me she wanted to break up. she thinks our ways of handling conflicts are too different and that the conflict itself wasnt the reason, which is fair, i agree and tried to tell her id love to work on that with her but she didnt want to. she also told me she cant handle a relationship at the moment to which i told her id love to still keep supporting her and give her some space but she didnt want that. however she also said she didnt miss me at all during the 2 weeks of no contact and she fell out of love in those 2 weeks. before those 2 weeks and our conflict, our relationship was honestly fine, she was interested in me and my life, told me how much she loves me etc. so it hurt me alot to hear that she fell out of love that fast. now im wondering, is she emotionally exhausted in general right now? did she really fall out of love in 2 weeks? why doesnt she want to work on it together? i know she has alot going on in her life right now and i always supported her alot but now im being pushed away and im incredibly hurt and sad about it. id love to hear your opinions thank u :)

so after dating for 5 years (with 2 break ups for a day only because of her being overwhelmed) my gf broke up with me for good. she recently started going to therapy and has diagnosed depression. she also has alot of stress in her life in general right now. her reasoning for the break up was that our conflict styles were too different (we often had conflicts about little things and reacted differently) i acknowlodged this and wanted to work on it together, however she didnt want to anymore. another reason was her not being able to handle a relationship at the moment (i told her id still love to support her and give her space but she also didnt want this). her last reason which really suprised and hurt me was that after 2 weeks of no talking (after a conflict we had) she told me she didnt miss me during this time and fell out of love. im certain before those 2 weeks everything was fine, she was interested in me and my life and we were eachothers most important person, however she has alot going on in her life rn and was always a little stressed. now im not sure what to think, i didnt contact her again but i find it hard to believe she just fell out of love like that. idk if shes emotionally exhausted in general at the moment and broke up with me because of that (no energy for feeling love). i dont have diagnosed depression so id love to hear someones opinion on this.

we dated for 5 years, during this time my girlfriends depression got worse over time, a therapist also thought she might have bpd. she broke up with me twice before but only for a day both times the reasoning was that it just gotten too much for her. fast forward to 2026, she has alot of stress currently and started going to therapy. her depression also got way worse this year. we then had a conflict (not because of anything big) and she didnt talk to me for 2 weeks after that. when we met again she broke up with me, saying that she feels like our ways of having a conflict are too different and that she didnt miss me in those 2 weeks and doesnt love me anymore. she also said its gotten too much for her, having a relationship. i told her id love to work on our conflict problems together but she didnt want to, i wouldve given her some space to clear her mind but she also didnt want to. i also know for a fact that before our conflict everything was fine, she really did love me alot and was always interested in me and how my day went etc. so obviously this sudden "i dont love you anymore" reaaally hurt me. what do you guys think the reason was. is she emotionally exhausted in general at the moment and her depression is just too much right now? does she maybe really not love me even tho we were eachothers most important person? or is the bpd thing the therapist said also a factor? im really struggling with emptiness and not having fun doing anything since the break up. thanks for ur answers in advance

after being together with my gf for 5 years she broke up for good. she already did this twice before because it became too much for her but we got back together on the same day both times, now its different. this time she broke up with me because: the way we handle conflicts is too different (i agree with her and wanted to work on it), she stopped loving me and didnt really miss me anymore when we didnt talk for a few days (this one hurt alot) and because its all just too much for her (id give her a break if she wanted to). however she still didnt change her mind. she has diagnosed depression and recently hat alot of stress in her life. i always tried to be there for her in all of the 5 years but it seems like she didnt wanna burden anyone in alot of the situations. i feel like its hard to believe that she very quickly fell out of love with me considering we were eachothers most important person. i dont wanna assume anything but ive gone through 2 small break ups with her before and it seems like its too much stress for her at the moment. how can i help her, i stopped contacting her to give her some time to think but im really scared :/

ich war mit meiner freundin 5 jahre zusammen und es lief eigentlich alles relativ gut wie in jeder anderen beziehung. dann hatten wir einen kleinen konflikt (nichts großes) aber dieser störte sie sehr und sie schrieb mir danach nicht mehr für 2 wochen. nach den 2 wochen trafen wir uns und sie meinte sie will schluss machen. generell in konflikten haben wir diese anders geführt, dies störte sie seehr aber ich habe zuvor nicht genug dran gearbeitet, wollte ich nun aber. außerdem meinte sie dass ihr die beziehung zuviel wurde (sie hat diagnostizierte depressionen und generell viel stress momentan). allerdings meinte sie auch dass sie mich in den 2 wochen ohne kontakt sie mich nicht vermisst hat und mich auch nicht mehr verliebt, dies hat mich schon sehr verletzt da vor diesem konflikt wirklich alles gut zwischen uns war und wir noch sehr verliebt waren (ja auch von ihrer seite aus). ich meinte zu ihr auch dass ich gerne zusammen mit ihr an den problemen arbeiten würde und ihr auch ruhe geben könnte wenn sie diese brauche aber sie meinte es ist vorbei. ich frage mich wie sie in so einer kurzen zeit mich komplett nicht mehr lieben kann etc. ich finde es auch sehr schade sie nicht mehr unterstützen zu können, sie meinte zwar sie würde weiterhin befreundet sein wollen aber ich habe ihr erstmal nicht mehr geschrieben. was denkt ihr darüber? wenn ihr noch fragen habt fragt gerne, würde gerne mit leuten darüber reden die sowas ähnliches schon durchgemacht haben.

me and my ex were our first relationship. we dated for 4 years, during this time she broke up twice because of mental stuff on her side but we got back together almost instantly. i supported her however much i could and tried my best, i know ive got an anxious attachment style but im working on it. recently she started therapy which made me happy but there was just alot of stuff happening in her life. then we had a conflict, nothing major but it was always a problem that in conflicts we tried to resolve them differently. before this conflict everything was great, the days prior she was telling me how much she loved me and how she wants a future together etc. then the conflict happened and she didnt speak to me for around a week. after that she wanted to meet up and thats where she broke up with me. she told me in that week she realised that she didnt miss me and that she doesnt love me anymore. shes also bothered by the way we try to resolve conflicts in different ways. i told her that i get her point of view and would want to work on that not just for our relationship but also for myself. however she also said she cant handle a relationship right now and that we just arent made for eachother. after 4 years of dating this really shocked me, i mean can someone really fall out of love in such a short timespan? i know she really did love me just 1 week before that, i also know that i was her most important person. i just need some help understanding what happened or how this even makes sense, i cant function the way i could before and i keep overthinking abt stuff. she also said she would want to be friends after some distance between us. i always tried to be a good partner, i was never abusive in any way and did alot for her. now i just keep thinking "will she really find someone that knows how to handle her problems better than me?", "will she soon start seeing other people?". i also did go to a therapist to work on some stuff for myself but i really am in a very depressed state right now and cant turn my brain off. id love some of ur guys opinions on this, ask me anything if you got questions. thank you <3

me and my ex were our first relationship. we dated for 4 years, during this time she broke up twice because of mental stuff on her side but we got back together almost instantly. i supported her however much i could and tried my best, i know ive got an anxious attachment style but im working on it. recently she started therapy which made me happy but there was just alot of stuff happening in her life. then we had a conflict, nothing major but it was always a problem that in conflicts we tried to resolve them differently. before this conflict everything was great, the days prior she was telling me how much she loved me and how she wants a future together etc. then the conflict happened and she didnt speak to me for around a week. after that she wanted to meet up and thats where she broke up with me. she told me in that week she realised that she didnt miss me and that she doesnt love me anymore. shes also bothered by the way we try to resolve conflicts in different ways. i told her that i get her point of view and would want to work on that not just for our relationship but also for myself. however she also said she cant handle a relationship right now and that we just arent made for eachother. after 4 years of dating this really shocked me, i mean can someone really fall out of love in such a short timespan? i know she really did love me just 1 week before that, i also know that i was her most important person. i just need some help understanding what happened or how this even makes sense, i cant function the way i could before and i keep overthinking abt stuff. she also said she would want to be friends after some distance between us. i always tried to be a good partner, i was never abusive in any way and did alot for her. now i just keep thinking "will she really find someone that knows how to handle her problems better than me?", "will she soon start seeing other people?". i also did go to a therapist to work on some stuff for myself but i really am in a very depressed state right now and cant turn my brain off. id love some of ur guys opinions on this, ask me anything if you got questions. thank you <3

me and my ex have been dating for 5 years. in this time she broke up with me 3 times mostly because the relationship was too much for her at the moment. 2 times we reconciled immediately. the 3rd and last time it was different, we had a conflict and after ghosting me for 1 week we waited another week to meet up. she told me in the time we didnt talk she realized that she didnt love me anymore and that we just arent compatible (because of the way we handle conflicts in a different manner) she also added that a relationship is too much for her at the moment, which is understandable. i always tried my best to support her over all the years we have been together, i tried to be there for her and tried to be considerate because of her mental illnesses, she became really depressed over the last few years. but it always seemed like we made eachother happy and i do believe i was her most important person. so now hearing her saying she doesnt love me after thinking about it for such a short time is heartbreaking. i tried to get her to work it out with me, together, but she didnt want to. i also know i was very attached to her, my whole mood pretty much revolved around how shes feeling (i didnt let her know that tho) so now im depressed all the time and im just thinking about what would be on her mind, if shes already moving on, etc. i just wanna know your guys opinions on this, because i have mood changes. one time im thinking its reasonable, she just needs alone time and space. at other times im thinking "if only i learned earlier how to act in conflicts better this wouldnt have happened" (im not abusive or anything in conflicts btw). i just know i tried to do everything for her and now i feel empty and incomplete.