u/DancingWithDumplings

G'day, gentlemen. I hope I can receive some food for thought, support, or advice.

I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now and we never had PIV. I'm 30F, he's 41M and I suspect I'm his first relationship, though it sounds like he had sex before.

Whenever we try, he goes soft, and suspects it's performance anxiety. I love that man, he's the sweetest boyfriend I've had, and we talked numerous times about how we'll navigate it together.

He started and ended therapy, we read books and discussed psychological factors around our sex life, at some point I told him to just get Cialis (he bough Viagra but never used it), I asked to check with doctor if it can be due to medical issue but instead he jus went and got vasectomy?!!!!!

I want to be delicate about this subject because I know men associate their value with their penis, but when I reflect on it, no matter how sweet he is, he's not addressing this fast enough or without me pressuring him. Like I don't care about PIV, I'd be perfectly fine if he focused on my pleasure, but where we are, is that any time one of us initiates, we both end up deflated.

He talks about moving in together and making future plans, but I don't even know if we're compatible sexually, because all I got from him was going down on me 3 times in 8 months. He's the sweetest romantic partner, but I feel like I'm reaching my breaking point. Is there any hope?

In 3 weeks time I'll be hosting a watch party for Designers, PMs, engineers and execs.

My moderated interviews with existing users happened to touch on insights relevant to every squad.

I haven't hosted watch parties before, but the previous UXR did. The feedback I got was that they loved it but were too long - he didn't edit the snippets, and that stakeholders would like an agenda so they can dip in and out. They also loved popcorn.

Has anyone here organised watch parties and could share more tips? I would also love to know what the flow of 1.5h should best look like.

How are you all navigating PMDD (hardcore PMD) when in a relationship?

I'm telling my bf that I turn into a blood thirsty werewolf who wants to hide in their werewolf layer for a week and to seek no contact 🤣 During this time I sleep a lot and try not to pick up arguments. And don't worry about having guests so I can keep my flat messy if I'm too weak to clean up.

But I can see us moving in one day and bloody hell (literally) I find human interactions too exhausting (I have to control myself not to fight people) and can't picture this for one week every month.

FEBU with DNAse is out STOP

I am in the UK STOP

Amazon US doesn't ship it here STOP

I shall curl under my imperfectly washed bedding and cry myself to sleep 30