u/DarkBlueSunshine

I live in a 3 bedroom apartment where my landlord rents out each room. When I first moved in it was me, another girl and Katie (fake name) and the other girl got evicted for being extremely messy and constantly stealing stuff. The next roommate Katie and I got was even worse and she also got booted out for cleanliness. The next one turned out to be a hoarder and refused to follow our cleaning schedule (everyone has their week to clean the common areas and take out trash) and she's getting evicted out soon too because her room ended up bringing roaches in and we had to call pest control.

Katie and I are genuinely wondering if it's this hard to find a clean roommate. We don't have any crazy rules here just to keep the place clean. That's it.

I've been ace for a few years since finding myself and with it I was comfortable to an extent to give sex advice or listen to friends talk about it or write smut fics for fandoms.

But recently in the past year I feel like I've been regressing into becoming more and more uncomfortable with anything sex related whether it be a conversation or reading/watching a scene. I've started identifying as sex-repulsed. It started happening when I became friends with someone who talked about it a lot and I've had to set boundaries.

Is ace regression a thing or has happened to anyone?

I'm one of the autistic ppl who's really bad at confrontation because I've been told I'm too blunt and honest and say things how they are. I live with a few roommates where one is a friend of mine and they're a lot more extroverted than I am. I'm a lot more introverted and I love my alone time and get socially burnt out easily.

Recently I haven't had much alone time because this roommate has been talking to me non-stop or roping me into some activity or not letting me relax for a few minutes on my own by needing something. I do enjoy hanging out with them sometimes but not all the time, because it's genuinely exhausting and my social battery has been gone for days. Whenever they leave the house, I feel relief.

I'm at the point where I'm feeling irritated towards them and I genuinely don't know how to speak up about what's going on without being too blunt and I don't want to hurt their feelings by voicing how I really feel.

What's the best way to speak up about this?