u/DeathToTheMosquito

Hopefully this reaches out to people in sensitive times when they feel the social life is difficult to navigate. Here are some words of advice for coping with this feeling:

"Don't drown them with attention. Let them miss you."

Often times when we meet someone new or a potential friend, we try to seize them as soon as possible through an avalanche of words and feelings. This can be overwhelming. To anyone in broad daylight, they would run away.

You don't want people to feel like they're held hostage, they have full lives just like you (**Yes, you have a life too, remember that.)** The people who are unafraid of losing you are the ones that think they have you figured out.

So leave them wondering. For a day, two days, half a week, 14 days, any long enough time. Let yours or theirs be the last message for a while. Life will naturally compel you both to reach out and want to keep the ball rolling. If you respond too soon, it will look overly eager and desperate for a response, and everyone is already getting a lot of attention nowadays anyway. Just give it a try.

"You cannot give your best to the world if you do not take the time to care for yourself"

It is unfair to lean on others to engage in activities, passions and events all the time. You have to have some willpower to do the things that help you flourish in life by yourself, so you can have a healthier distance and balance of someone's influence in your life. People will check in on you if they want to, but that should not be the expectation; **it should be the exception.**

While you let the message simmer, or you put some physical time between seeing people, take a walk somewhere you haven't gone yet. Try a new meal that you've been meaning to try soon. Read that book you've been meaning to finish. Hell, even spend a little time reflecting on your circle and your contributions to the circle. But don't linger on others to give you purpose. That is for you to discover and take full control of. You are capable of great things, so take the time to realize them as perfectly as possible.

Hope this helps! Maybe I can give more wise words, but this is all that came to mind for now ✌🏼 Ciao!!!

Hopefully this reaches out to people in sensitive times when they feel the social life is difficult to navigate. Here are some words of advice for coping with this feeling:

"Don't drown them with attention. Let them miss you."

Often times when we meet someone new or a potential friend, we try to seize them as soon as possible through an avalanche of words and feelings. This can be overwhelming. To anyone in broad daylight, they would run away.

You don't want people to feel like they're held hostage, they have full lives just like you (Yes, you have a life too, remember that.) The people who are unafraid of losing you are the ones that think they have you figured out.

So leave them wondering. For a day, two days, half a week, 14 days, any long enough time. Let yours or theirs be the last message for a while. Life will naturally compel you both to reach out and want to keep the ball rolling. If you respond too soon, it will look overly eager and desperate for a response, and everyone is already getting a lot of attention nowadays anyway. Just give it a try.

"You cannot give your best to the world if you do not take the time to care for yourself"

It is unfair to lean on others to engage in activities, passions and events all the time. You have to have some willpower to do the things that help you flourish in life by yourself, so you can have a healthier distance and balance of someone's influence in your life. People will check in on you if they want to, but that should not be the expectation; it should be the exception.

While you let the message simmer, or you put some physical time between seeing people, take a walk somewhere you haven't gone yet. Try a new meal that you've been meaning to try soon. Read that book you've been meaning to finish. Hell, even spend a little time reflecting on your circle and your contributions to the circle. But don't linger on others to give you purpose. That is for you to discover and take full control of. You are capable of great things, so take the time to realize them as perfectly as possible.

Hope this helps! Maybe I can give more wise words, but this is all that came to mind for now ✌🏼 Ciao!!!

Yo Windy City Woke Minds, it's the Nightfly of Chicago happy to lend an ear for the music aficionatos, people with deep difficult questions, or maybe you just want some affirmation that this particular person you're concerned with is frankly on some weird shit (let's face it, they probably are if you're thinking about them this much).

Whether it's on here or in person or I dunno, carrier pigeon I guess, I'm happy to be an audience, a support, a second opinion. Your call 🤷🏽‍♂️

Anyway thank you all, you have been a wonderful audience, peace! ✌️