r/hopelessromantic

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lustfully conflicted

I do not want you —
my body does.

It betrays me in cruel, manipulative ways,
blinding me from my worth
and from the damage you are capable of.

Stay away.
This cannot happen.
I do not want you.

My body shivers at your touch.
My eyes sparkle when you arrive.
But I am not the one who needs you.

My body craves every inch of you,
yet I cannot stand the sight of you.

-imprisoned angel

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u/Miss-HoneySweets7 — 1 day ago

Looking for a genuine connection 24F

Not here for games or ghosting. I’m 24, latina, and looking to build a real connection with a kind, emotionally available guy who’s actually open to getting close over time. I tend to get along with men in law enforcement because I come from a family of LE so I’d definitely prefer someone in LE.

I’d love to start as friends and see where it goes. I’m drawn to masculine energy, effort, and people who care as much as I do.

Some things I love:

• Deep conversations that go late into the night

• Music (anything from rock to pop)

• Anime and cosplay (I love cosplaying!)

• Movie nights! I heard super troopers 3 is coming out soon.

If you’re looking for something that actually means something, shoot me a message.

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u/thealbatross3 — 4 days ago

A romantic who is hopeless

All i have ever wanted in this life is to be loved and to love. I have seemed to chase this feeling since i was born. I dont want a hook up or a basic relationship. Im talking a love story everyone talks about, a love story where it feels magical and fairytales and butterflies. A love story like the ones in books and movies, one that they write songs about. One that you feel with every part of your soul body and mind. Where your minds can telepathically communicate, your soul deeply connects and bodies passionately merge. One that is pure of societal views and opinions, and standards. It doesn’t make sense to anyone but you. A myth that will be talked about in a couple centuries later. (Okay maybe that’s an exaggeration). But one that isn’t just “oh i need a boyfriend because everyone around me has one” or an “oh she is hot let me try to hit”. And it feels like nowadays it’s kind of impossible to have that. Every person i talk to has a million walls i have to break to get through the real deal. It seems like everyone scared of being themselves, of being fragile or possible heartbreak in future that they don’t open up entirely.
Also , another thing. I feel like I want this love so badly that I think about it all the time. Which makes me question every person I meet like “Oh could this be my soulmate?” Which makes it less magical and genuine. I tried to let go and add hobbies into my life and added more hours at my job lol,to distract myself. But the idea doesn’t leave my mind.
What do you think? What would you do in my shoes?
(Please be kind, I’m sensitive to hate lol)

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u/kitty_chicha — 5 days ago
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a man in love

Have you ever loved someone so much in your life that you loved them past the point it made sense?

So

double text them, call them multiple times, write them paragraphs, write them handwritten letters, get them flowers, get them gifts, make their day, do what make them happy.

I don't know who taught us that being nonchalant is cool or whatever, i don't know who taught us being cold is cool. I think if you love someone and that dynamics is healthy, you should be desperate to see them, you should be desperate to hang out with them, you should be desperate to talk to them, you should be desperate to hear their voice. And if you're not then I'm actually questioning your choices.

See love is all about excitement, love is all about being excited to be with each other. And if you're not excited, I fear that this is not love.

So think about it.

I really love my girl to the point where it doesn't make any sense. I love her so much i could never tell her with my actions or words. I am so grateful and lucky to have her in my life. I can't imagine my life without her.

So guys please love your girl/man. Be grateful to god everyday for giving us the life and loving partner and family. Don't let ego ever come in between the relationship. Be chalant, be annoying but in a good way, tell them you love them everyday and please be grateful.

Thank you!!

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u/ssandeepp___ — 8 days ago
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The Joys and Pain of Being an Empath

I love being able to look my romantic partner in the eye and see her for who she wants to be. Being able to accommodate her needs and to to talk plainly in a language she understands. I love being told that I touch her deep inside her soul and my touch leaves her craving. I love how I feel when we match energy together and the want I feel is equal to hers for me.

But it's not all happiness and sunshine. I can also feel her doubt, her uncertainty. I can tell when she has fallen out of love with me. When I don't fulfill her needs. And I keep telling myself that I could be wrong this time. And it hurts a lot worse, but I try again. And I keep trying because I keep believing that one day, she'll stay in my arms. One day, it'll be perfect.

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u/Fickle-Key9456 — 5 days ago

Looking for a genuine connection 24F

Not here for games or ghosting. I’m 24, latina, and looking to build a real connection with a kind, emotionally available guy who’s actually open to getting close over time. I tend to get along with men in law enforcement because I come from a family of LE so I’d definitely prefer someone in LE.

I’d love to start as friends and see where it goes. I’m drawn to masculine energy, effort, and people who care as much as I do.

Some things I love:

• Deep conversations that go late into the night

• Music (anything from rock to pop)

• Anime and cosplay (I love cosplaying!)

• Movie nights! I heard super troopers 3 is coming out soon.

If you’re looking for something that actually means something, shoot me a message.

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u/thealbatross3 — 5 days ago
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I think I found my soulmate!

My dating life has been one train wreck after another that has left me rather traumatized. I felt like I was never going to find someone for me, until recently. I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 months now and it has been the most magical experience. The one thing that really solidified that for me was the other day when we were play fighting. I grew up with 3 brothers and he grew up fighting so roughhousing is basically foreplay for us.

However this time he had me in some wrestling move that had me completely pinned and for some reason every traumatic thing I’ve been through surfaced so quickly my body went into panic mode. He noticed and immediately let me go. I couldn’t even formulate the words to describe how I was feeling because it came on so strong and I truly couldn’t understand why I felt the way I did. He didn’t question me, didn’t get angry at me for stopping the “fun”. Just sat with me, comforted me, and calmed me down. While this may seem like the bare minimum to some, it means the world to me, as someone who usually ends up with jerks who don’t care how I’m feeling.

He was so patient and caring and loving and I fell even deeper in love with him.
This also isn’t his first time dealing with my traumatic emotions and handling them with so much patience and tenderness. I’m in therapy and on medications so I can have a better control over my anxiety and emotions and not trauma dumping on him, but I’m so happy to know that it’s not a burden on him and he truly does care about me.

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u/Melodic-Heat-9021 — 6 days ago

I’m in love with my friends cousin and nobody will properly help me!

It’s so annoying honestly at this point how unhelpful people are in my life who know her and know someone who knows her and it’s driving me crazy! This is a girl that I could legitimately see being my future wife if only someone would throw me a bone and help me out so I’m just going to put this out in the universe and honestly hope for the best! Thanks for listening to my vent and everyone else on here be well!

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u/PowersUnleashed — 8 days ago
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please love me..

Sometimes I wonder what bothered you so much. Was it my smile every morning, my laughter at every stupid thing, or my inability to stay quiet because of all the questions I had?

I don’t understand. Did it really bother you that I woke up happy, so you made sure I went to bed crying? Did my laughter become such a nuisance to you that you felt the need to silence me? Did my curiosity about a world I had never explored become too overwhelming, so you dimmed my light?

Was I simply too full of life for you?

-imprisoned angel

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u/Miss-HoneySweets7 — 8 days ago
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Do I actually like my crush ?!!

Soo I m almost 20 and I have never had a bf . It’s always been a dream of mine to be in a relationship and love in love like everyone else . Lately my childhood family has been popping up in mind . I would say day dream sometimes thinking ‘oh what If we were to date or fall in love’ . It just sounded like something that is illegal cuz I have known him since I was 4 or 5 . It was just a harmless dream, just for fun . But now I can’t stop thinking abt him .
I have dreamt abt him several times and when I see him real life , I keep thinking abt it .
Even tho I have known him all my life I was way closer to his younger brother and this dude is older to me by 3yrs . Hence we didn’t really spend much them together anyways and I don’t see why should like him. Now that I m back home from college cuz we have vacations , I keep on waiting to see him and annoyed my mom by asking when we were going to his house . I always talk him when our whole family is there never alone and it’s never really taking per se it’s usually him saying a joke and me laughing . Only this Dec when I came for winter vacations , he came to ask how was my college and the gossip of ppl dating n all . This I think he came just to hear the tea not to talk n shit .
Later we went for a movie as well my siblings and his younger brother all together (nothing spl) . But my stupid Brain is like there’s something and I know he can never like me .He sees me as the kid he grow up with and am not even his type or can be seen the prettiest. I am just a normal dark skinned girl which is often considered ‘not attractive’. What do I do ?!? Do I actually like him or am tooo desperate that my brain is just forcing itself to like someone ?! Cuz i badly crave for love and relationships?!

Sorry it’s too long 😭😭

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u/nobodyknowsikr — 10 days ago
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I am 26 years old. I can't find a way out of this. I have ADHD. With every breath I take, every day I wake up, I feel the need for someone I can dedicate my life to, and it has been this way since a very young age. However, my hope is gradually fading, and the weight of what this makes me feel is getting heavier. I know it has nothing to do with self-love . Also, regardless of their physical appearance or status, I can very easily forget people who show interest in me within a single day; yet, I long for and desire someone I have created in my imagination. Watching funny things, traveling, or engaging in things I enjoy (except for my pets) doesn't feel appealing to me at all. But they all turn into things I yearn to experience when I imagine them with my future wife (who doesn't exist). When I experience something bad, I avoid my feelings and go numb, and I wait for that person to share my pain; when something good happens, I wait for them to share my joy. And i haven't had anybody to do any of this all these years..Telling my friends things or sharing with them doesn't feel appealing to me either. It feels as if struggling and living will only be meaningful if i find "the one" Is there anyone who experiences or feels something similar?

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u/NeurergusCrocatus — 14 days ago