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i am looking for people who had similar experiences to mine and can maybe help me with what the core of the problem was. i am taking cetrizine since a week and my outside vulva pain went away completely. now i'm only left with vaginismus i think? which i'm trying to deal with dilators.

so yesterday, i had piv for the first time with my boyfriend!! just this week, i managed to fit in dilator 6 & 7 and i was like okay lets try piv then (even tho it was probably way to early because 7 still hurt when inserting)!! 6 didn't hurt at all but 7 did hurt quite a lot when i was dilating but i thought maybe a penis would be different so i tried piv with him.
and yes, he went in completely BUT we paused a lot of times and i had to breathe a lot so that the pain would go away/become less, but it never went away wholly and it was not really enjoyable for me, bascially i just breathed through the pain and tried ignoring it.

now i was curious if anyone else had this "problem" that it hurts the deeper he is inside and also that it only hurts when he pushes in, but not if he pulls his penis out a bit? like only the forward movement hurt, but when he pulled out it was completely okay? also i had this weird feeling of fullness in my chest/throat when he went deep which i was wondering where it came from. i also have this sort of pain in my chest when i'm dilating with the biggest dilator which i think is super weird.

if you had this problem too, how did you deal with it? and what was the root of the problem? i was scared that i might have endo or an ovarian cyst?

sometimes i randomly have this sharp pain, like needles or a knife and it is only for seconds or minutes, comes and goes, then it’s gone again? does anyone else experience this too?

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this series changed my life. i can’t believe i have to say goodbye to all the characters i came to love them so dearly!!🥹🥹

what do you mean i can’t be friends with them in real life?? i can’t soar through the skies with manon on abraxos?? i can’t indulge in chocolate cake with aelin or have a girls night with her, yrene and elide?>!i can’t hear fenrys lorcan and rowan bicker and i will never see lysandra and aedion happy together even though they went through so much pain and suffering? they suffered through sooo much in orynth🥹🥹!<

>!i will never know what will become of dorian and manon?? and the thirteen are truly gone forever? !<

truly one of the best series i’ve ever read. how could i ever think it couldn’t get better then acotar and then i was surprised with this?? 😭😭 i will never forgive myself for thinking it can’t get better than acotar, it just pales compared to tog!!!

has anyone else aquagenic pruritus/ cold urticaria and vulvodynia? because i learned yesterday that it’s not normal that your skin burns and itches when you’re in cold water😭? i googled it and this allergy has again to do with histamine intolerance.

has anyone else this weird concidence? im gonna tell my doctor about it and see if he’ll prescribe me anthistamines. i was just curious if anyone else experienced this and if it was connected

he wants to be intimate every time we meet and I am to people pleasing to say no.
we can’t have piv, we just do other things and everytime it comes to that, I think “he can’t even be inside of me, how can I begrudge him the other things that we can do? its the only thing I can offer him” because I don’t wanna disappoint him or make him sad.

I’m so scared he’ll leave me if I tell him i don’t want to have sex with him so often because we can’t even have piv so I can’t even give him “the full experience” and I have to “console” him with other things.

It hurts often, too and I’m in pain a few days after as well. I always tell him he shouldnt touch my vulva because it hurts, but he always seems to forget and then I’m in pain. Plus I can’t feel a lot of pleasure sometimes so I just pretend that it feels good 40% of the time.

how do you guys deal with this? How did you tell your partners?🥲

Note: he’s a great person and very kind and loving and would never do smth I don’t want (if I’d voice it)💀

everyone told me Tower of Dawn is boring and hard to get through and I should just skim it but i just finished it and I thought it was amazing! the beginning was a bit slow and boring but the khagan children are such interesting characters and I loved chaols and nesryns character arcs and love stories. also the valg and Kharankui subplots were so so suspenseful and scary so i have 0 complaints!
Also I loved all the little connections to the other books like >!Falkan appearing again and being lysandras brother!<?! Sarah j Maas is amazing. my favourite scene was when hasar was pushed into the pool hahaha!

hi, my dockt appointment is only next year in february and i wanna see if I can find some relief until then because i can’t take this anymore.

are there any creams you guys can recommend? (available in germany/europe)

thank you!!!

did anyone go there and did they provide good help?
going there this month, driving 3h+, paying train tickets and skipping work for it. I hope it’s gonna be worth it😭🙏

hellu,

ich werde diesen Sommer 7 Wochen Schichtarbeit für einen ferienjob arbeiten und bin eh schon schlecht darin, drauf zu achten dass ich genug esse, und wenn ich jetzt vor allem bei Frühschicht nicht zu Hause bin, werde ich wahrscheinlich bis 14 Uhr hungern.. habt ihr irgendwelche easy mealprep Rezepte die ihr weiterempfehlen könnt die man auch nicht unbedingt kühlen muss? :D ich bin noch nicht so lange vegan :)

did anyone of you just take cetirizine and it helped you? my first appointment at a hospital with a professional is next year feb and i don’t wanna wait so long. has anyone ever done something as a self experiment that helped? i was thinking of just taking cetirizine for one month to see if it helps?

i struggle to feel arousal and lust in the last few weeks. especially being diagnosed with this made me feel less aroused, and everytime i have “sex” with my partner i have to think about this condition and if ill regret having “sex” later because I’m scared ill be in pain (we basically grind against each other since he doesn’t fit in)

i just feel less aroused and less lust when my clitoris is stimulated lately. anyone else have this problem too?

hi!! ich will meinem ebenfalls veganen freund einen kuchen backen und hab jetzt schon ziemlich oft den veganen zitronenkuchen von veggieinhorn gebacken oder variationen davon (mit haselnüssen, marmor, rotwein, ..), ein bananenbrot und einen mürbeteig mit kirschen. ich würde jetzt gerne mal was neues ausprobieren, gerne auch zb ein käsekuchen rezept oder so, empfehlt einfach gerne eure favorite kuchen- oder bananenbrotrezepte die gut schmecken!!

danke :)

hi, did anyone else have problems with latex as well?

I can’t really do condoms because after 10mins, everything starts burning and feeling raw, same thing with when I use durex lube (it includes glycerin); I bought a glycerin free lube and it just burned a tiny bit at the beginning, then nothing.

but when I use the durex lube, it burns like literal hell when only touching the outer part of my vagina (for example when I’m dilating, so no rubbing against my boyfie or anything)

does anyone else have this problem? could this be the cause of this condition? was this the case for anyone and how did you solve it?

i just found a doctor near me that treats vulvodynia with laser and her next free appointment is next week. all of the reviews are so good and stories of success but idk i am not sure if i want to let someone laser down there. does anyone have good experiences with it? does the pain come back?

hi, what the title says. did anyone in germany with this condition get treated well? where did you go? how much was it? do you have any methods of "treating yourself"? i heard taking ceterizin can help because of the histamin, did anyone try this?

hi, what the title says. did anyone in germany with this condition get treated well? where did you go? how much was it? do you have any methods of "treating yourself"? i heard taking ceterizin can help because of the histamin, did anyone try this?