Inclusion as an option not default; failures and success in volunteer organizations
Cis people feel so mighty when they believe they are more tolerant than someone else.
But never recognize how low that bar is.
I kinda volunteer at a Christian operated food pantry, or have for the past 6+ months. It was kinda okay ish.
But even with the lead operator being lightly supportive and understanding of transness, she views my inclusion as an option. That being she knows volunteers who misgender or say worse about me being trans behind my back. And she has plenty of power.
A separate place I occasionally volunteer at, the volunteer code and culture at the gay community resource would never, never let transphobic volunteer conduct occur.
But I'm the lone trans woman, so enforcing on their largely local churches originating volunteers isn't a effect way to maintain a supply of labor.
There are more transphobes than us, so we can be supported™ and disrespected by institutions unwilling to eject transphobia from their cultures. And unwilling to maintain basic inter-worker respect standards.
Moral of the story, if you can leave the places you have doubts of do. Trust the early warning signs. Fuck them there's someone, and ideally multiple people willing to be better somewhere else