u/Economy_Strawberry89

Hi, everyone. I have an upcoming C&P exam, and it’s actually virtual which I was surprised to have learned is an option for C&P exams.

Anyways, the primary purpose of the exam is for “anxiety” on documentation, but as I was speaking with the contracting agency over the phone to clarify what the purpose was for the exam, they mentioned that it was for multiple things to include MST and depression. Has anyone experienced this where multiple conditions that were claimed are lumped under one condition (re: anxiety)?

Also, any guidance or suggestions on this particular exam? I have already submitted quite a bit of convincing and credible evidence to support my claim, but I am nervous that the provider for whatever reason will deem my claim insignificant or that it does not warrant a %.

Thanks in advance, ladies!

What does a guy mean when he says after finishing, “that was almost TOO good!”? How should a woman interpret that?

From,
An above average late 30’s woman that has had three serious relationships.

Ugh I hate that I am writing this and asking the internet for perspective, but I genuinely am at a loss. I (37F) had a few LTR throughout adulthood that have lasted at most 2.5 years. Those relationships ended for various reasons: disagreeing over wanting kids (I don’t want kids), partner having addiction problems that led him to stealing and then losing his job, and DV. In between these LTRs, I have had short-lived “flings” here and there.

When dating apps came out well over 10 years ago, I used them. Now, I wouldn’t because I feel like it’s so dehumanizing and every time I hop back on I instantly feel even more hopeless. I have tried meeting men IRL, but those connections never go anywhere either.

For example, there was this guy (also 37 y/o) in my neighborhood that I had been crushing on for well over a year. Finally, I was able to go up to him and ask for his number at the beginning of summer. He said he was single and the feeling was mutual, so we started chatting and saw each other pretty consistently (3-4x per week). He even said at one point that he’d love to see me every day. I felt like we clicked, like we just got each other. The chemistry was nothing like I had experienced before, and we seemed to want very similar things. He invested A LOT of time and money in me (e.g. paying for all of our meals together, drove me to work, brought me little treats/desserts) and was just so thoughtful.

BUT after the first 4 weeks, he gradually started to pull away and became more inconsistent with keeping/making plans. He would either cancel on me right before we were supposed to get together (like an hour and a half or less) or he’d invite me to go meet his friends (for the first time), go hiking, or go see a meteor shower together upstate only for him to not confirm plans the day before/day of. I just kept feeling disappointed, because he would get me hyped up for these events, and I’d work to fit whatever he was trying to plan into my schedule (I work two jobs btw)… only to receive radio silence.

He did say that he was “poor with communicating” and that he preferred to talk on the phone. Interestingly, we rarely spoke on the phone, and if we did, I was the one calling him. We haven’t spoken/texted in over two weeks now (three Friday’s ago), because as mentioned above, we were planning a hiking trip (on Friday for Sunday) and he stopped responding after my last text Friday evening. However, he did send me a reel on Instagram almost 24 hours later to which I responded with something superficial like “oh that’s awesome” - he replied to that with another message of “isn’t that so cute.” At that juncture, I didn’t reply because… he still left me hanging with planning the hiking trip that was supposed to occur the following day. Obviously, we never went hiking. I then noticed a couple days later he deleted his Instagram account. To make this all the more awkward, we do see each other in the neighborhood still periodically (we both have dogs and literally live one block from one another).

I am mostly venting here. I have a good, stable career in healthcare; have master-level education; have my own place; not a shit bag, no criminal history; no addiction issues; Army vet. I take great care of myself (regular exercise with weight training, running, cycling or yoga) and am told that I am pretty attractive. I have been in therapy since 2020 and have been, as people like to say, “working on myself.” I have a lot of love to give and am kind, caring, and would give the shirt off my back to anyone that I know. I am too grown to be playing games and don’t understand the flakiness and straight up lack of consideration. I am also tired of being told how amazing and perfect and beautiful I am only for the same man to be disrespectful of my time and my feelings. If I am so amazing and perfect and beautiful, wouldn’t you want to cherish me and treat me well and keep me in your life?

But mostly importantly, I want to know… why can’t men just be upfront and communicate to women about how they feel and where they see things going? If the woman you started to get to know is not who you see yourself with long term, why not just communicate that? For example, one could say, “Hey, it has been great getting to know you but I think we want different things. Best of luck to you.”

Hey, NYCBWT. I am going to the Experts Only Festival 9/19-9/20 and would like to roll up with fun makeup. Anyone in this thread know of a makeup artist that does house calls? And general rates? The booking would be for two women.

For context: I also made a post about this in the /NYCbike sub asking for guidance on what to do in this situation, and it unfortunately resulted in people arguing about who was in the wrong. See remainder of situation in comments.

Hey, everyone. Typing this while I wait for the popo’s to show up. I had someone come up behind me without communicating they were coming around me right as I was turning left at Centre Street and Reade in Fidi. I was turning left and the guy was ?trying to pass me on the left. As I was turning, he ran into me and I fell really fucking hard. Road rash on my left arm, cut up on my left hand oddly, and my lower back and left leg feel pretty fucking terrible.

I think the guy who hit me is visiting and was reluctant to give me his information. Him and the woman he was with initially rode off but a few minutes later they came back.

Aside from calling the cops and submitting a police report, what else should I do? Medical attention, yes. But anything else?

Edit: forgot to mention the jabroni that rear-ended/t-boned me also had one brake on his bike that wasn’t working.

Hey, anyone here use Open Evidence as a resource? I see that physicians and “healthcare providers who have an NPI number” (per their website) can earn CME for their queries. I do have an NPI, BUT I am not sure if these continuing ed credits that I have accumulated would be accepted by CDR. Any insight?

Anyone know of a good group ride this evening in the city? Specifically with a meet up location in Manhattan and/or Bronx.

Hey, I am in the beginning stages (like very beginning) of setting up a time with a broker to see an apartment I am interested in. We’re just messaging back and forth via FB Marketplace (where I found the listing). He asked the basic stuff - income, credit score, and who’s the apartment for. He then asked me to tell him what my occupation is, and I told him in a non descriptive way of what I do for a living (medical provider). He responded with…”Are you a nurse? A doctor? Any specific department you work in?”

I already told him the information he needed, which makes me a qualified tenant for the unit. AITAH for thinking it’s weird to press further for my exact occupation? He’d eventually find out through the application process, and I have omitted sharing it because I feel like brokers/real estate agents do discriminate/judge someone based on one’s source of income.

Hey, everyone. I just discovered my employer is offering Noom benefits as part of their wellness package. Does Noom hire dietitians?

Their home page basically advertises that their platform specializes in weight loss with GLP1’s and that they provide a “psychology-based approach” with AI technology as well as online coaches. Who are these coaches and what type of background do they have? Any insight would be appreciated!