u/EdieLove

I have noticed in the past few years that people have stopped doing good things because they are tired of being criticized. If you tell someone you will go to the store for them, they will be upset that you are ‘late’ even when you didn’t say what time you’d be doing it. You may clean up for someone but are criticized for ‘not doing it right’ when you were not given the way to do it. But if you just ignore doing things for others no one really mentions it. I don’t understand this, when I was younger whoever did it chose how, when, and where it would be done, unless instructed otherwise. Personally, I am not a mind reader.

Hello all, I have a 92 year old neighbor. She is very sweet and is not taken good care of by her daughters. One lives next door to her, the other 2 miles away. Yet they NEVER take care of her. We (my family) take her food, grab stuff at the grocery store for her, and help when we can.

She loves to sweep her yard. She will be out there in the snow or in the extreme heat sweeping. So for Mother’s Day we got her a mini blower that she could use. Well it’s been 2 months and no one heard it being used. Well I was just over there taking her some fresh baked muffins and saw that the blower is ruined. It is completely rusty. I asked what happened, she didn’t remember but thought her daughter ‘Kathy’ may have borrowed it. We did NOT buy it for her daughter to use!

I got upset that it was ruined and left. I was obviously disappointed, but did not say anything other than warning her to not try to use it.

AITA for getting upset that she ruined it/lowned it to her daughter?

ETA ~

I am gonna respond to a few things here. She does not know I am frustrated. I did not tell her anything. I went to drop off the muffins and had to rush back home to help my dad, who has a broken hip.

I realize that it is a gift and it is hers to do with as she pleases. I do not have a lot of money as I am disabled. So I am frustrated that the money I spent was wasted. Had she told me she didn’t want it, she was actually really excited about it, I would have either returned it or kept it for myself.

She is a tiny frail woman who is NOT supposed to be outside in the heat/cold. And not on her feet for long periods of time. I know she likes sweeping, but her doctors’ actually told her she needs to cut back on her outside chores.

It is a small blower, a little bigger than a hair dryer and it is pretty quiet. There are no passerby’s as she lives on a hill (as do I) and you can’t see her house front he road.

ETA #2 ~

Ok, I am an asshole. I tried to do something nice for a neighbor and it blew up in my face. She does not know I got upset. She wanted the very small, light, reasonably quiet blower. She is free to do with it as she pleases, I agree. But just like some people are saying I don’t know the whole story, neither does anyone else. I guess I will just learn from my mistake. I appreciate everyone’s responses and time. I am just hurt that my money was wasted, as has been my time. I hope ya’ll have a. great week.

My GSP is 8 months, so she has never experienced this before. My older dog (an almost 14 year old rottenwiener) is mostly deaf and doesn’t seem to care. My cats, who usually sit in the windows to watch the fireworks, are huddled under my bed even though they don’t even like one another. My pup followed me into my room for the first time ever and is eating some cat food the cats knocked over when hiding. She is doing much better now, but was trying to jump into my arms.

I have an almost 8 month old GSP (possibly mix) who is constantly running around. I have had her for almost 2 weeks and have no pics of her because I can’t get her to stay still long enough.

Life is really rough right now and will not be getting better anytime soon. I feel like I have lost control of things I never had control over. I am losing my first best friend (my dad) and watching my mom lose the love of her life (they’ve been together for 50 years!). My mom is also in bad shape right now, but can’t get fixed up until my dad gets ‘better’ or passes. I am their caregiver.

Hiow old is your GSP/GSP mix?

How much do they weigh?

What do you feed them?

What is their favorite treat?

Hello all, I am back. I have a 7 month old GSP (possibly a mix). I am worried about her being affected by bloat. She runs constantly. I do not feed her while she is exercising. And I always give her breaks throughout the day by putting her in a kennel with an awesome dog house and bed (why is it I will spend money on this for her, but put off a bed for me for 3 years?). I have read, and been told, that I should not feed her right after she exercises. And not to let her exercise right after eating.

My issue is… if I lock her up 30 minutes to an hour before eating, and then lock her up for an hour or 2 post eating. Is this the best practice? Also, should I be feeding her at night after she “goes to bed” or just during the day? As she is a puppy, I am feeding her Large Breed Puppy Chow and Puppy Pedigree canned food. She also gets chicken and hamburger, with no seasonings, periodically.

Any other recommendations? I am trying to give her the best life I can. She was a shelter dog. Also, how do I keep her from digging out of her kennel? I am afraid that she is going to eat and then escape. I have a fully fenced property, so she isn’t gonna escape that.

I have a 7 month old puppy who I got about a month ago from a shelter. They say she is GSP mixed. I have never had a GSP, but have had a lot of other dogs. Some purebreds (like St. Bernards), others mutts (a mixture of a couple of breeds all the way up to a ‘Heinz 57’ dog whose great grandparents were mutts).

Is it ‘normal’ for my GSP to LOVE the rain? She will run and play in the rain, and gets so excited she won’t really listen. She just prances around. She gets so excited I can’t get her to take her normal breaks/naps or even eat. She just wants to play. Whether it is a few minutes or HOURS, she just loses her mind. I am worried that she is going to get cold. I bought her a raincoat, as I had been told they don’t like the rain, but I can’t get her to hold still long enough to put it on her.

OMG, I cannot believe I am writing this out.

About 6 or 7 years ago, my dad started to get sick. He was having issues breathing. He was physically getting weak, he was having a hard time talking and was just not himself. It took 2 years to get him to the doctor, after he was rushed to the ER.

While hospitalized, he was diagnosed with many ailments. Most notably congestive heart failure, COPD, emphysema, and a couple other heart issues. While having a procedure done, he passed. TWICE. They were able to revive him. He was eventually sent home. I slept on the couch at my parents’ house for over 3 months helping out.

I went home and was only home for a couple of weeks when my mom asked me to move home to help out. My partner wanted to move to be closer to their mom who was also very ill. We made the decision to do what was best for our families, he moved 1000 miles away to be with his mom. I moved in with my parents.

My partner and I stayed together through distance. But our families were burning to the ground. His siblings were no help, neither was mine.

December 2024, my partner’s mom passed. She just seemed to fall asleep. It was horrible! I was 1000 miles away and couldn’t be there for him. His mental health took a dump. He knew he’d die if he didn’t get out of there. He couldn’t look at her things. The house was not the same.

He visited me in May 2025. He couldn’t be there for Mother‘s Day. He decided he needs to be closer to me again. In December 2025, he moved back to try to help us out.

It has now been 4 years since I moved back. My dad has gotten weaker and weaker. He is hooked up to oxygen 24/7. He can no longer stand without help. He is either in his chair or wheelchair. Just moving from chair to chair, or chair to toilet, he is out of breath and has to take a break. He is barely eating.

My mom tries to take care of him, but she has TWO torn rotator cuffs. She needs surgery, but can’t have it done because my dad needs her help, but she can’t help him without crying out in pain. They have been together for 50 years (that we know of). I know that it is hard to watch him deteriorate for me, I cannot imagine what it like for her.

I have found that I am getting angry that my dad is still alive. I love him so much and it is killing me to watch him die. I wish he’d fall asleep and not wake up. I know it is going to be hard, really hard. But I also know that my mom’s life, my life, and even my partner’s life are on hold. We are all stuck. No one can ‘move on’ while he is still here. He is not going to recover.

I feel horrible about it. But I just don’t want him to be in pain and scared. I want my mom to get her surgeries. I want to be able to move away. I want my partner not to have to deal with the drama that is going on here, as my mom is often angry.

thanks if you read all of this. I am sorry for it being a rambling mess, but this is something I cannot even admit this to m partner and I needed to vent. If it wasn’t for him, my cats, and dogs I would be in a hospital.

Hello all,

Three weeks ago I got a 6 month old puppy from the shelter. She is at least part GSP (they say she is GSP mix), I have never had a GSP (that I know of, as I had a dog when I was younger who I was told was part Dalmatian but she is SOOO much like this dog). She, Sassy, is so sweet and I fell for her right after I saw that sweet face. As I am sure you know, GSPs have a great learning curve. We are doing well with training and she loves me (almost as much as she does my dad, lol).

My question is ~ is it normal to have to put her in time out so she will sleep? I have her in a kennel at night and let her out first thing in the morning. HOURS later, I have to lock her up again because she hasn’t stopped running. She will take a nap and an hour or two later I let her out to run again. Then I lock her back up when I go to bed. I have a big yard, a little over an acre and a half, and she has seen more of this property than I have. She also plays with my 14 year old dog and cats.

I am worried that she is eating her breakfast and then running around and have tummy issues.

She never seems like she is tired, well at bedtime she does. But during the day she is constantly going!

Also, any advice for a new GSP owner?