Catholic priest trying to block my re-marriage?
So this is a bit of an odd situation. So basically my ex (who I have gotten back together with) and I were married in the Catholic Church. We were pretty active members of our congregation. Long story short, things between us became difficult due to some personal issues and money issues and we drifted and eventually got divorced. Our Catholic priest was devastated, he broke down crying even when I told him. He said he would try to find a way to support us though. We applied for na annulment, which was initially denied. After the denial, the priest sent both of us this very long winded email stating we were making a mistake and needed to get back together and that God had spoken to him in a dream and that we were in danger of adultery. 😱
There was a lot of back and forth, but I basically told the priest no, we are in fact not getting back together, and that is that. I was going to just close the book and accept the difference of opinion at that point. I was also thinking if he was going to refuse communion to me, so be it, I’ll find a different church. Weeks later without a response, he replied to me stating he would revisit the annulment. This went on for a couple of years. There was another denial and then him approaching me after mass in person begging me to find a way to get back with my ex who I was separated with for about a year at that point. At this point, I was pretty sure the priest had some serious mental issues. So anyway continued back and forth and I decided I’m done, I want to find a more accepting church that is more open and get away from this drama. I also found myself starting to drift with the church hardline stance on queer issues. So I found the episcopal church and it was amazing! What came to my surprise is that a year ago, I found my ex at church. I sat next to them a year ago, and we started a new path to make amends.
A couple of months ago, I got a random email from the Catholic priest stating that my ex’s and my annulment was approved?! My ex and I read this together, and we just laughed. We have rediscovered our love and have recently met with our episcopal priest to discuss getting remarried.
Then I made an error, I decided to send a friendly email to our Catholic priest as I was pretty good friends with him (he was sad after I left but we emailed every couple of months) and figured he’d at least be happy to hear this. How wrong I was. He was livid. Basically saying after all this time and energy and now we want to get married again….he didn’t use any profanity but his email back to me a couple of weeks ago felt like a big f*** you basically.
This past weekend, my now soon to be spouse again and I went to our local pub for dinner (we live in a small town) and saw the Catholic and episcopal priest eating together and talking very conspicuously. The episcopal priest waved but the Catholic priest stared at us with fury. He then stood up suddenly and left… the episcopal priest came over to us and basically we will discuss at our next appointment and have a good evening.
I’m just so confused and feeling uncertain how we should move forward here…