u/Elizabeth_Gallows

Hey friends, I am having a really tough time in life.

I have overlapping diagnoses of TBI and CPTSD. As I get healthier and do more work, I am starting to realize that there is no "normal" to return to for me.

I fractured my face as a baby and was not taken to the hospital (learned recently during my last convo with my mother). I had a learning disability / speech problems for several years after a really bad one at 4yo when an adult fell ontop of me on tile floor.

Most of my other injuries have been back of the head and side. I struggle with cervicognic migraines and insomnia, light and smell sensitivity, memory lapses, ringing in the ears, my hearing and audio processing seems to only work right when I am in a fight-or-flight state. have tried really hard over the years to fix my speech and balance. I have been diagnosed with sleep apnea, both non-obstructive and obstructive, but mostly the former (around 8x / hr). Additionally, I cant recognize faces much, i struggle to track with my eyes, I get sporadic lazy eye and unilateral swelling of one eye, and I am still developing enough self awareness to learn about the other symptoms that I was taught to ignore / downplay. Video games and excessive screen use makes me motion sick, gives me a headache, and is no longer fun for me due to so many negative side effects.

My last head injury with extreme symptoms was spring 2025.

I am learning more about the regions of the brain and the effects of hyper/hypo activity. I am also in a brain injury support group.

I was wondering what experiences and treatments have worked and not worked for other TBI survivors.

I recently learned about Biofeedback, light tracking therapy, and EEG imaging. I plan to talk to the neurologist about them but the soonest they can see me is in November.

I would really like to learn more and try to find some things to try and do at home while I wait.

I look forward to learning more from the community.

Hey there,

I have been a guest at an apartment complex near 74th and grover and we keep having an issue with someone coming in with a master key - well after USPS delivers mail - and leaving all of the parcel boxes wide open.

Today it happened between 5p and 10p.

As you may know - Last year a postal worker was robbed and the thieves started going for all the local parcel boxes. It stopped for some time and I was assured they were not going to be back. Turns out my information was inaccurate.

If you notice any suspicious activity or mail theft, please report it to https://www.uspis.gov/report

I had no idea summer was "crime season" and it seems to be in full effect in my area.

TW: Abusive family, no graphic depictions.

I just hit 5 months of No Contact with my N-parents.

Since then, A LOT has changed. I have been going to the hospital / clinic 2-4 times a week after I started receiving healthcare in April or May. I was absolutely dumbfounded this month to realize how many of my health issues come from being taught to ignore myself.

Since 11 years old, I have had unusual symptoms with my groin area. My mom accused me of being sexually active, abused me, and grounded me. I was punished if I didn't like food. I was punished for being malnourished and not allowed to drink water (in FLORIDA). I was punished for being sick or unwell. I was called difficult, and made out to be an attention seeking liar. I was locked in closets all the time for "being difficult". I had chest pains constantly. I had migraines and light sensitivity. I kept getting UTIs and yeast infections. My mom and aunt slutshamed me a lot. My dad would get me high to deal with my problems and shut me up.

At 12, I became an alcoholic. I made multiple attempts to get sober around my parents and they intentionally sabotaged my sobriety so many times, so moving as far away as I could was literally my only hope. It took moving 1500 miles away and getting sober in 2024 to start realizing how delusional I was around them.

This year, I found out I had 2 UTIs, one being antibiotic resistant. It infected my kidneys and caused an Abcess. Now my kidney is not functioning right, with precursors for stage 1 kidney disease. One of the strains has been in my lungs, which is linked to the pneumonia and asthma symptoms I've dealt with for years.

I found out my migraines are from at least 4 traumatic brain injuries, from 2-9 years old, that were passed off and ignored due to concerns with the police getting involved (whole family was on drugs and dealing for most of my childhood).

I found out I am allergic to peanut butter, bread, and citrus - and that I have ignored compounding allergies for so long, it mimicked narcolepsy symptoms and caused malnutrition.

I keep racking my brain, trying to figure out how it all spiraled out this bad for so long. Then it hit me...

The Stages of Grief literally were ruining my life by bringing me back to them.

Denial would keep me there, trying to only see good intentions. Anger would get me away, but I internalized the anger at myself mostly. Bargaining would pull me back, thinking I could fix or change them, but always backfired with me sacrificing more of myself. Depression made me give up, causing the state to step in and hand me back over to my parents like I was still a child. It was a toxic cycle that went on for years.

Now, I am seeking any supportive interventions and help that will bring me closer to the acceptance stage.

I wanted to share this, because I knew there was a loop happening with them but I could not figure out what the loop was. Now I finally know.

If anyone has any similar experiences, I would love to know what helped you the most, as I am trying to do as much work as I can in the next 6 months.

Ni Haowdy,

My name is Elizabeth. I moved to Omaha with the intention of it being temporary. Because of this, I didn't anticipate finding friends as abandonment wounds exist in most of us humans and I didn't want to hurt someone if we got close and it was time to move away.

I plan to be here until next spring.

If that is not a problem, I am looking for friends in the area who are interested in doing things revolving around our general interests, hobbies, and lifestyle.

A few things to know:

- I have no contact with any family because they are all addicts and mean. I don't vibe well with either types. If you want a mentor, I can't be that person right now. I am only looking for other people who are presently drug free and on their own healing journey.

- I have complex PTSD that I am healing and doing treatment for. It revolves around extreme trauma with men, so I am not looking for a friendship with straight males. Anyone else is welcome.

- I am anti-religion, so church / Bible study is not an option. I would prefer people who are non-religious as well (pagan, satanic, occult buddies all accepted as well)

- I do not drink or smoke, so no bars and no alcoholics or regular drinkers. Clubs with a dance floor are okay. I love Coven and Breakers. I can handle being around drunk people but I do not want them as a friend.

- I am very physically active, and fitness is a very important factor in my lifestyle. I am a personal trainer and into nutrition coaching as well, but its because it is what has helped me heal from a horrible upbringing. I go to the gym regularly, have a bike, and love to test my strength and stamina in adventurous activities and trips.

- I love learning. Zoos, Aquariums, and Museums are all places I really enjoy visiting. I also enjoy taking local classes, such as Ceramics at True Pottery.

- I love nature. Anything that has to do with being outside and connecting to the natural world is perfect. This includes the outdoor obstacle courses that are popping up.

- I am an adventurous eater and love trying new things. I recently experienced Ethiopian food for the first time at Lalibela and had a great time exploring all of their authentic dishes. I 100% am down to go back or explore more authentic around-the-world cuisine.

- I like to read, listen to audio books, and crochet. I recently learned about a listen and craft group at the library that I am on the waiting list for, and really adore multitasking activities where I can keep my hands busy while continuing to grow.

- I love to travel. Last year I visited ID, MO, VA, TN, WV, GA, SC. This year I visited IL, TX, and OK so far. I love road trips. I love flying. I don't particularly love the bus systems but I will tolerate it if its for a worthy cause.

- I LIVE for music! Concerts are a huge part of my lifestyle. My tastes are very broad - I love Rap, Rock, Metal, Dubstep, Trap, Techno, KPop, Jazz, String symphonies, Piano, a little Country, and everything in-between.

I am looking forward to seeing who this post attracts 💜

Edit- I have a busy day today and will get back to replying in a few hours. I appreciate all the awesome people messaging me and commenting here 💜💜💜

Edit #2 (7/15) - Medical procedures and medication trials have been kicking my @$$ all week. I should be caught up on my inbox and post comments by the weekend. I am also compiling a calendar full of dates for a lot of the events and gathers happening in the area. I appreciate your wisdom, insight, and patience 💜

I have had it with Google. I was already annoyed when they started pestering me for money for email space without providing a means to filter all emails for mass deletion on the app.

Now, Maps is virtually useless - constantly shows areas that I am not in, confuses direction and roads, tells me to drive into places that are part of an airport or private property.

Google search is useless for me as well as the results tend to be sketchy and "whoever pays the most to be seen" is a horrible business platform.

With that being said...

I am looking to replace all Google (and Microsoft) apps and programs on all devices.

I have a Samsung Galaxy and 2 home devices.

I need GPS navigation, Email, and File-sharing to start.

I have Duck Duck Go as a browser. I don't mind paying if the company is morally aligned (pro planet earth / pro human rights).

I am considering switching to Apple but would prefer to not go that route if there is a way to still use my Android.

Please let me know what has worked for you, and if there is a master list of replacement apps.

Hello - recurring BDD girly here.

Single source bright lighting that is directly above you is one of the most unflattering inventions for beauty. It was a common trigger for me this year.

I replaced all of my bathroom lighting with smart bulbs that can be adjusted in temp and brightness and I have noticed much more pleasant experiences in front of the mirror.

I hope this helps 🫶🏻

Fellow Kinky Omahanians,

I am looking for spicy rentals to explore with my BF.

I seek private rooms / condos / houses that have any of the following:

- A Dungeon

- Sex Furniture

- Kink / Role-playing Themes

- XLarge glass showers

- Showers with a pole

- Indoor Jacuzzis or Whirlpool tubs

We can go through AirBnB or a private rental source, cash / direct payments are also okay for us.

I am not looking for group or public suggestions at this time.

We have mixed feelings about sharing a space with a host on this one but not a hard limit.

Thanks in advance!