u/Empty-Operation569

Hey everyone, looking for some advice on a delicate situation.
My girlfriend (23F) recently went to a concert and met a guitarist from one of the bands. They hit it off, and fast forward to now this guy literally gifted her a guitar. For free. On top of that he’s been giving her free guitar lessons at his place that last for hours. She told me she’s really tryharding the guitar right now and that they spend a lot of time just talking during these sessions.
I trust my girlfriend completely and I know she’s just genuinely excited about learning music. However this guy’s behavior feels incredibly sketchy to me. A musician giving away free gear and hours of his personal time to a female fan he just met? I'm worried he has predatory intentions.
How do I bring this up to her without sounding making her defensive?

TLDR; I am with my fiance for 4 years, and engaged last year. Things started to get worse and worse after that (had huge fights) I always thought it was the stress of marriage preparetions but I am feeling depressed and feel like I'm being emotionally abused by her. Today was the last straw for me but I am not sure if I really should cancel the wedding and if i WIBTAH.

Todays fight was about how to go to the venue. (From directly the hairdresser or from my parents home) She accused me of being a mommys boy, accused my mom making me fight her wars?, called my mom idiot and said she wanted to break up (even after I said I didnt know this was a big issue for her and we can do whatever she wants) Then I said its a big desicion to make just days before the marriage, she was talking hurtful and I didnt want to talk to her right now.

We didnt talk for 5-6 hours. After I called her she said she talked with her family about breaking up with me, also talked with couple of friends, since it took so long for me to call her and apologize. I said that she is out of her mind and I wanted to think whether I really want to go through with this and wanted time to think about all. I dont have much time lol so I want to have others opinions.

I made what turned out to be the tragic mistake of logging into AA.com with my VPN turned on.

ETA: I should have made it clear that it was a new browser too. It all happened in real time, got a message to call to reset my password as soon as I hit return.

It triggered a fraud investigation. It told me to call to reset my password. This was the day Spirit Airlines ended so it took three days to get through to customer service. They gave me another number that nobody ever answered and or called back when I hit #1 for a call back.

I finally talked to someone. My account is "under investigation" and I can't log in or use my miles until the investigation is finished, and that could be 30 days. I can't use AA Shopping, AA Dining, or Simply Miles. I can't change a flight I booked for July. I can't even see the reservation. I need to send someone flowers but I can't earn loyalty points.

I told them I have lots of travel to book and I'm overdue and they are leaving me no choice but to fly other airlines and that makes no sense. Especially because I know exactly what happened. I was almost weeping with frustration. She left me on hold for 20 more minutes, then came back and said basically "tough sh*t."

(She did say I was welcome to pay with a credit card over the phone, but if I have to pay cash instead of miles, I'm sure as hell not giving it to them.)

I am Executive Platinum with 3 AA credit cards. Some loyalty program. This is crazy.

Update: Okay, from the comments it sounds like it's not the VPN and maybe there was fraud or some kind of attack that has nothing to do with me logging in. So I guess I have to wait until they resolve it.

Update 2: I love how y'all think I'm some kind of mastermind trying to scam AA out of a trip to Key West or something. I'm just some girl trying to plan her summer. They specifically said someone tried to access my account. There's no reason to question my loyalty status after 20 years.

Update 3: Someone IRL just pointed out that me not calling immediately when it happened was probably sus too. I mean, I did call immediately, but it took me several days to connect. There's only so long you can sit on hold until you have to get on with your life.