Çalışma hayatına atılacağım, ne önerirsiniz?

25 yaşındayım ve hayatımda hiç çalışmadım.

Size geçmişimden kısaca bahsedeyim. Kötü bir ortaöğretim hayatım oldu, buna rağmen köklü bir üniversitede bir bölüm kazanmayı başardım. Fakat Almanca hazırlığı geçemediğim için bölümden atıldım, nedeni ise kardeşime araba çarpması ve buna bağlı olarak derslerime odaklanamadım. O yıl Hatay depremi olduğu için yaz okulu açılmadı, ben de dımdızlak kaldım. Sonra da YKS'ye tekrar girdim.

Bu sefer bir vakıf üniversitesi tutturdum. Biz öyle çok varlıklı bir aile değiliz, ama ailemin ısrarları üzerine kaydımı yaptım. O sıralar zor zamanlardan geçiyordum - hala da geçiyorum, üstüne bir de bir vakıf üniversitesinde okumanın baskısı binince yapmamam gereken bir şey yaptım; ¡nt¡har etmeye çalıştım ve on gün yoğun bakımda, bir ay da akıl hastanesinde yattım. Yardımı oldu mu? Tabii ki hayır.

Bu sene kardeşim de bir vakıf üniversitesine yerleşti. Hem benim, hem de onun okul mastaflarını ailem karşılayamayacağı için okulu bırakma kararı aldım. Yakın zamanda eski üniversiteme af başvurusunda bulundum, ancak anladığım kadarıyla af çıksa bile bir sene daha hazırlık okuyamıyormuşum - yalnızca bir sene daha yeterlilik sınavına girebiliyormuşum. Ben de okulu bırakıp bir işe girmeye karar verdim.

Dediğim gibi, 25 yıllık hayatımda hiç çalışmadım ve ne yapacağımı bilmiyorum. Ömrümün sonuna kadar NEET kalamayacağım için bir yerden başlamam gerekiyor, ama nereden ve nasıl başlayacağımı hiç bilmiyorum. Ciddi anksiyete sorunlarım var, tabi bu da hiç yardımcı olmuyor. Üzerine bir de aile baskısı eklenince işler iyice zorlaşıyor. Ben de artık bir işin ucundan tutmak istiyorum, ama yapamıyorum işte…

Sonuç olarak şu an buradayım, önerilerinize açığım.

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u/Espeon06 — 1 day ago

Can you suggest me some German speaking streamers?

I'm learning German. Streamers like Vinny and Joel from Vinesauce helped me learn English back in the day, as well as Jerma. I'd like to do the same with German. I'd really appreciate if you'd suggest me some German speaking streamers similar to them.

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u/Espeon06 — 19 days ago
▲ 2 r/German

Can you suggest me some German speaking streamers?

I'm learning German. Streamers like Vinny and Joel from Vinesauce helped me learn English back in the day, as well as Jerma. I'd like to do the same with German. I'd really appreciate if you'd suggest me some German speaking streamers similar to them.

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u/Espeon06 — 20 days ago

Hayaller Anbernic, hayatlar Polosmart.

Bim'den 649 TL'ye aldım.

Cihazın içinde sadece NES oyunları var, bazıları orijinal bazıları bootleg. Kontroller berbat, tuşlar yerinden çıkacakmış gibi hissettiriyor. Oyunlar olması gerektiğinden daha hızlı çalışıyor, bu da kas hafızasıyla çakışıyor. Ayrıca cihazın içinde 500 tane oyun falan yok, listede ilerledikçe oyunlar birbirini tekrar etmeye başlıyor. SD kart ile kendi ROMlarımı eklerim diye aldım, ama öyle bir özellik de yokmuş.

Kısacası tavsiye etmiyorum. Almayın, aldırmayın.

u/Espeon06 — 28 days ago
▲ 8 r/NEET

I blew it.

My YKS results came in today. It was my fourth attempt, and the worst one yet. I dropped out of the previous two universities, and got dispelled from one for failing to learn B2 German. This was my last chance to exit NEETdom, and I completely blew it.

All I ever wanted was to leave Turkey and make a fresh start in some other, possibly better country. For that, I need a successful educational life and I don't have that. Today I learned that something like that will never, ever happen. I'll rot in Turkey forever.

Recently, I had pneumonia and was hospitalized for a month. I thought I was going to die, but I didn't. It was the moment that I decided to exit NEETdom and become a productive individual, but I failed. You know what they say; once a NEET, always a NEET.

Starting from tomorrow, I'll be looking for some job applications. Both my family and myself are sick of my NEET life. If I can't achieve my dreams, I might as well start working in a job and supporting my family. It's the least I can do to be somewhat useful.

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u/Espeon06 — 1 month ago

How do I tell my family that I don't want to be an extrovert without being a jerk?

I'm an almost 25 year old introvert. I like to spend my time playing video games, watching movies, reading books, and playing with my cat. I don't like any outdoor activities other than going for a walk every now and then. That is, if the weather is nice.

Here's the thing; my family is the exact opposite of me. They're super-extroverted, they go outside every weekend and are almost never home during Summer. The problem here is that they want me to be just like them. Throughout the years, I've been trying SO HARD to convince them about what kind of a person I am, yet they still manage to ignore my rants and drag me along with them wherever they go. When I was younger, they even roughed me up a little bit for not wanting to go outside. Luckily, that's not the case anymore. Though their insistence is still here. It's always the same scenario; they're planning to go somewhere, I don't want to go, they tell me to shut up and forcefully bring me with them.

Don't get me wrong, my parents are good people. They just can't handle the truth than I'm different. Now, how exactly do I tell them about my situation?

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u/Espeon06 — 1 month ago

I hate being the only introvert in a super extroverted family.

For almost 25 years, my family has been trying to turn me into an extrovert. I'm a grown man being forced to change, and I'm sick of it. I don't want to go outside unless I have to, I don't want to socialize, I don't want any friends or a girlfriend. All I want is to be left alone in peace, is it too much to ask for?

Right now, I'm in a hotel room thousands of miles away from home. Because once again, my lovely family is trying to bring out the extrovert inside me. I told them countless times that I don't want to go to vacation, yet they still managed to drag me along with them. They just can't take "no" for an answer. The hotel internet is paid and I don't have a lot of data on my phone, so I can't keep myself busy for long. I'm losing my patience, and there's a limit to how much Bram Stoker's Dracula can keep me busy. I want to go home and continue my American Dad marathon, but nope! I'm here for an entire week.

I'm really, REALLY tired. I'm tired of being forced to change by the people I'm supposed to love, and having to be a jerk to them as a result. Everything would've been better if they did take "no" for an answer, but they're not planning to do that anytime soon. In the meantime, I'll just keep on suffering…

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u/Espeon06 — 1 month ago
▲ 18 r/AITAH

AITAH for not wanting to spend time with my family?

I have a very extroverted family. They go outside pretty much every weekend, dragging me with them. Here's the thing; I'm the exact opposite of them. I'm a super-introvert. I like to spend my free time at home, playing video games or watching movies and sometimes reading or writing books.

My family is planning to go to vacation out of town and they, once again, want me to go with them. I really, really don't like going to the beach. It's the single most thing I hate. I don't like hot weather and I'm insecure about my body, so I don't swim either.

I get what my family is trying to do, they want me to socialize. The problem is, I don't want to socialize. Whenever I try to talk to them about this topic, they guilt trip me into thinking they’re doing me a favor and I'm just being an asshole. Every. Single. Time.

So, what do you think? Am I the asshole or not?

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u/Espeon06 — 2 months ago
▲ 63 r/NoRules

I just want a FUCKING Green Card.

You all are complaining about living in the US, while I'm tearing my ass cheeks apart to live there.

I'm from Turkey/Türkiye, which is objectively worse than the US. I'm honestly ready to dedicate my life to the US government if I ever get the chance to live there. I speak fluent English, at least I think I do. All my limbs are intact, so I can work in literally any job. My only obstacle is a Green Card, which is pretty much impossible to get in today’s world. The DV lotteries are terminated marriage is just a no-go.

I know that the US isn't the best place to live, but it's still my dream. Am I ever going to live there? Probably not. Am I trying? Kind of. Will this post magically solve all of my problems? I don't think so.

To all the Americans reading this; be grateful for what you have. You could've been born in Turkey.

Peace.

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u/Espeon06 — 2 months ago

My dreams are nothing but a mere fantasy…

Every night while I'm trying to sleep, I dream of a peaceful life; a fresh start in some other country.

It's not exactly an impossible dream for the average Joe. For someone like me, however, it pretty much is impossible. I'm what one might call a NEET. Not by choice, but by obligation. I failed university not once, not twice, but three times over the past years. I've always been a terrible student, I wasted my school years playing video games like a moron and not studying. As a result, I couldn't be successful.

No one, absolutely nobody would want a university dropout immigrant in their country. Maybe if I was a doctor or an engineer, I could have a chance. That ship has sailed now. I had a chance, and I blew it.

I want to make a fresh start in some other country, because my life has been nothing but depression here in Turkey. I just want to be away from all the negativity and start over, and maybe make some new friends along the way as well. In a way, you can say that I want to play New Game Plus in real life.

I'm lost. I don't know what I'm going to do with my life, I really don't. The fact that my one and only dream will never come true is too much to handle. I guess I'll do what I always do; play video games.

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u/Espeon06 — 3 months ago
▲ 59 r/NEET

I wasted my life.

I'm a 24 year old NEET, I'll be 25 in a few months. I failed university not once, not twice, but three times over the past years. All because I wasted my school years not studying and being an idiot. You know what's worse? I wasn't even the class clown, I was just that one weird kid no one wants to be friends with. Maybe if I actually studied and focused on my classes, I could've graduated university by now.

My biggest dream is to make a fresh start in some other country. However, it's never going to happen because I'm an idiot. Unless there's a time machine available, I don't think I'll ever be successful in life.

What awaits me in the future? I don't know. One thing I know for sure is that I'll always be a lost cause and none of my dreams will ever come true.

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u/Espeon06 — 3 months ago

Should I sell my Switch 2 to buy a handheld PC?

I recently bought a Switch 2 and honestly, I'm not satisfied with this purchase. First of all, the games are overpriced. Second of all, I'm not interested in most first party Nintendo games - I was overhyped for Tomodachi Life. Third of all, I don't want to buy a ridiculously expensive controller just for a d-pad.

I want something that'll last at least half a decade. Nintendo consoles usually last for a decent amount of time, but I'm assuming handheld PCs don't really live that long. That's why I'm a little hesitant.

Any suggestions?

Edit: I decided to keep my Switch 2, thank y'all for your comments. Also, I bought a Switch 2 because it was a pretty good deal. That's why I bought it despite not liking Nintendo games, to use it as an indie machine. I hope this'll answer your questions.

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u/Espeon06 — 3 months ago

What should I get for watching Netflix and playing Balatro?

It's been more than a decade since I used Android. iOS is good and all, but I really miss the freedom of Android. After a long research - literally half an hour, I decided to get a Galaxy. I'm looking for something to watch stuff and play lightweight games on. I was thinking about getting a Z Flip, but I guess those don't live that long. I need it to last at least 3 years.

So, what do you think I should get?

Edit: 5 years was a little crazy, so I changed it to 3.

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u/Espeon06 — 3 months ago

Selamlar.

Ben Agnostiğim. İslam beni dinlerden soğuttu, bu yüzden dinlere karşı hep mesafeli davrandım. Son zamanlarda Hristiyanlığı araştırıyorum ve açık konuşmak gerekirse dininize biraz ısındım. Zor zamanlardan geçiyorum, dolayısıyla sığınacağım bir gücün olmaması beni epey yıpratıyor. Fakat tam anlamıyla Hristiyan olmadan önce merak ettiğim bir şey var; milyonlarca din varken neden Hristiyanlık? Buradaki çoğu kişi sonradan Hristiyan olduğu için bu soruyu burada sormaya karar verdim. Fikirlerinizi ve görüşlerinizi merak ediyorum, lütfen beni aydınlatın.

Barış.

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u/Espeon06 — 4 months ago

So I'm from Turkey/Türkiye and I'm not a big fan of my country. I've been searching for a way out and moving to Svalbard seemed like my only chance to leave this country. The other two options were the French Foreign Legion and the DV Lottery, both of which aren't likely to happen. I'm not a military person and the DV Lotteries were terminated.

My question is; how long can I possibly stay in Svalbard if I ever get the chance to move there?

Thank you.

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u/Espeon06 — 4 months ago