r/NEET

The reality is for some guys if you come from a rough background, it's like starting your character at level -10 while everyone else starts at level 30. So by the time they're 22 years old they're level 50, and it takes you meanwhile much longer just to reach a similar level. That's how it was for me, and I can only see how damaged and low self esteem I was from my vantage point now. It was impossible to see it then.

Guys, if you have a chance to be a normie, please do it. Please take that chance. If you are not too badly traumatized, and you have a chance at a career and marriage and a family, please do it. Life is a one way thing. I'm working on those things now, and I hope to be a happy normie one day. But yeah. Don't think that being an outcast forever ends well. Eventually you have to pick the pieces off the floor and start building something again. And honestly, normies are so much happier than us; it's like they're completely oblivious to the harder challenges of life that some people have.

Sure, I had abuse and trauma and was unable to normally function in society. That's why. So it's not my fault. It just means I started with a more difficult setting. But if you have the chance I'm telling you, please don't delay. If you are like me and also have a difficult setting, then keep working and keep going. Eventually you'll climb out of the hole, like Batman. Just keep working at it, it doesn't matter what age you are. What matters is you get out of the fucking hole.

As for me, who I would I rather talk to? Someone who's never seen pain, doesn't have any scars? Or someone who, with a broken back, trained until they could climb out of their own hole of desperation? That person, to me, is far more interesting. I could hardly stand the former kind.

I'm one week into my employment and my mental health is in shambles, bros. I quit.

I moved to the city some months ago. Assisted living for people with autism. I have my own apartment but this floor is rented by an organization that helps autistic people. I have made progress as in I am living mostly independently now and I socialize a bit more than I used to, mostly with my neighbors. But what I'm also noticing is that I still stay in my apartment for most of the day everyday. I don't really go outside unless I really have to. I spend most of my time watching Youtube and gaming. I suspect that I am very deeply burnt out, autistic burnout. I am trying to cope with the situation as best I can, but it's so hard to actually rest. The negative emotions just come out as soon as I stop distracting myself and then I spiral. I am 26 now. I have spent the past decade mostly in my room on my computer immersed in games, fantasy, online contacts, alcohol and weed. I have made attempts to be a normal person. I tried school so many times. I worked different jobs. But everything failed eventually. A cycle of buildup, momentum, then followed by a crash and deep isolation and shame. That's the story of my life. I feel very ashamed of myself. Everyone around me has things going on. My neighbors are working jobs, going out and doing stuff. And I'm just here. Existing. Ageing. Vegetating. Maybe I am deep in a burnout. I cannot think straight. I cannot endure social stimuli, lights, sounds for longer than like half an hour before I feel like I will pass out. But how do I come back from that? It's scary. I was smart in the past. I did well in school. Now my cognition is fked. I just want to hangout with friends, socialize, flirt a little. I want to live, damnit. My deepest fear is that I will never be able to come back from this. That this is just who I am. An outcast, weirdo. A could-have-been. But I know that this is a negative thought pattern and could lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy. It's just hard to not believe these thoughts and to fight back against them. I have made small steps in the right direction. I have been making small steps for years now. I managed to move out, I am pretty sociable when I can muster the energy. I am slowly accepting my disability and learning to work with my mind and mental/emotional challenges. Sometimes the world just seems so daunting. People are terrifying. The amount of possibilities is terrifying. What do I even want to do? Where do I even begin? How do I recover? Idk, tonight I am just vulnerable and emotionally raw.

What do you guys do to comfort yourself and to relax when you feel like this? I feel like this feeling of paralyzing fear is pretty universal among us.

Ps. I personally picked up smoking when I still had a job but after I was put in a psychic ward I started smoking more plus when I was locked up they had a smoking room and you where allowed to have cigarettes that where brought by your visitors the smoking room was a little funny because they didn't allow us a lighter they head like a glory hole (cigarette size) where you put a cigaret clicked a button and puff on cigarette to get it started and now that I am out a looking for job I started smoking a lot more. (Hope I die soon) But what is your favourite brand mine is lucky strike red

What does a manager think if he sees a 27 yo who has a CV with a 3 year gap and never had a full time job? What do they think when they ask me "How many interviews have you had so far?" and I answer them with 50+...

Its probably something like "This guy is unsuited for this position" or "How can someone search a job for 3+ years and still be unemployed!"

This has become the reality for me. Im not 18 anymore going unprepaired for my first ever interview. No, Im a seasoned candidate going for entry level jobs and being denied over and over and over again.

I usually have to write 10 applications to get to 1 single interview, theres some companies I have applied to for 4 to 5 times and was ALWAYS rejected.

I hate HR, I seemingly cannot get a good run with a single job interview. I think the problem is that Im anti social or have anxiety in most interviews.

Regardless of what it is, im now at the point a manager MUST think that Im some sort of dumbass.

I'm so tired of this. Like my life is nothing much but boring so I spent a lot of time in my phone. But lately I can't even doomscroll in peace because everything I see is either some repetitive stuff or just plainly boring. And I really try something interesting because my attention span is like of an iPad kid and I can't focus on anything without something else playing in the background.

I feel like with the growth of entertainment industry content lost it's soul.

Anyway, what stuff are you watching and find interesting? I really seeking some recommendations on some interesting shows/anime or YouTube channels.

if you are long term neet do you think you got brain damage? how would a long term neet with neet brain go about finding a wife who would want to nurse him back to normie brain?

Been a NEET for several years, and things were pretty lonely back when I was in school as well, so I've never had a genuine experience of a real relation (romantic or otherwise) with anyone besides my toxic and insufferable family.

It was nearly three years ago, when I started actively using discord and I was around 21 back then. It felt like getting exposed to an entirely different world of "my people" that I had no clue about for so long, until time passed and I started to understand the "reality" of online world.

It's nearly impossible to maintain a genuine and consistent online relation with anyone. Most servers are utter cesspools, dead or way too big for socialising; and don't let me start on the Neet and hikikomori servers. I've met some really nice folks but there's always an unseen barrier when I talk to them and I can't get over that. Most of them live in other side of the world, and the ones that are actually close to me, put me in inexplicable kind of stress maybe because they remind me of miserable real life.

Then there are a few folks with whom I get obsessed over a persona of theirs that might be completely made up, and I feel like an idiot for developing emotional attachment with them. It feels even more pathetic that not only it's one-sided, but will never actually go anywhere.

I'm self-aware of all this, yet I find myself falling to this trap over and over again. I've forgotten how many times I've deleted and recreated made my discord out of frustration or crippling loneliness.

So holy fucking shit here we go

I went shopping at the nearby store today except no the fuck I didn’t

A guy got to the stores door before me and he held the door open for me while staring at me and I felt nervous and scared so I kept walking straight away from the store, just to avoid him

I felt like a fucking dumbass so I just went home, and later I told my parents to go buy the stuff for me when they got back from work

Every time I try to think of an answer to this question, I can never find an one.

The normie answer seems to be: get a career, start a family, build a good social circle, and ride it out until the end. But I'm not sure my neurodivergent ass could handle all of that.

So what do you guys actually want out of life?

I already posted today but im neurotic so I'll be posting again. I want to get a job. But i need help. And I might be getting said help. Living off welfare sounds like a dream come true. But its not. It gives you just enough money to survive but not enough to actually enjoy your life. Im thinking of getting into landscaping since im low iq and I've done it before and its really fuckin easy mentally speaking. Plus I get out of the house and get fresh air, I also get all the smoke breaks I want as long as I get the job done. And to top it off, more money. Worst case scenario is a have a shit day and go back to doing what im doing now. After seeing some of your guys stories. Especially the people in their 30s say they regret literally everything. I dont want to become that. I told my parents I'm ready to work and that I might need some help and they've always been very supported. Ill still be a NEET until then but I want a better life and im gonna give it a shot.

Makes life way harder when basically almost everyone is a bad person...

I am of the opinion that the most humiliating experience one can have on this planet is not only possessing a body but simultaneously being human. Unlike other animals, which depend on their species and possess a more limited consciousness that enables them to understand their situation and role in it, the human experience is invariably worse. This is due to the single fact that we possess a faculty of consciousness that is entirely in a league of its own compared to that of other animals on this planet.

We understand our needs and can perceive the changes occurring in our bodies in real time throughout the years. These changes are exemplified by the gradual loss of vision, muscle mass, back pain, chronic diseases, and tooth loss. Moreover, these afflictions are not even guaranteed to appear only in one’s later years of life, as many young people suffer from them as well.

If one wishes to secure some false sense of protection from them, one may attempt to adopt a healthier lifestyle and undergo periodic medical examinations. However, to afford this, one must work extremely hard and essentially suffer in the present so as to potentially avoid suffering in the future. Despite doing one’s utmost, it is still possible to end up soaked in one’s own urine and feces while confined to a wheelchair.