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About two days ago I was informed that a distant cousin of mine on my mom's side of the family is visiting later today (he's from the American South I think). I think normies might have a positive attitude towards random family visits and hangouts, but for a NEET like me, I'm filled with dread as I don't really know what to do or say (besides helping to set up a temporary bedroom for him). Has anyone else cringed at the thought or event of family members coming by unexpectedly?

For context, I'm a male in his late twenties living in Southern California. My parents are immigrants from a country in Southeast Asia, and are pretty old relative to my age (dad is in his late 70's and mom is in her late 60's). Recently, after dinner, my mom verbally blew up on me because I apparently told sensitive matters to aunts when they visited. I acknowledge that I perhaps shared too much information involving personal matters, but I don't think anyone or their reputation was seriously hurt by my sharing of events and words and feelings. I do think that sometimes family members argue over legitimate matters, such as the distribution of money, but I didn't really add fuel to any pre-existing fires metaphorically speaking.

Now, things are complicated because I seriously think my mom suffers from Alzheimer's disease or some form of working memory deficit (e.g., forgets her iPhone, keys, small items). She kept repeating her point, and I did eventually apologize for oversharing, but she kept saying things until my dad stepped in and I mentioned my busy life (I struggle with diagnosed disabilities/impairments, so I have had a very difficult time in school and other matters, which I'm currently trying to navigate through).

I'm no angel nor saint when it comes to being a son or student or (hopeful) worker, but I just wonder if Asian parents, or immigrant parents, seemingly make family arguments or problems worse than they need to be. Thanks for reading and take care.

I think small, logistical tasks annoy me much more than "normal," or at least compared to the attitude of neurotypical folks. For instance, I really don't like tying a neck tie, and other common tasks annoy the crap out of me. Other pet peeves would be paying for a parking spot (or buying a parking permit for a certain amount of time for a certain vehicle), cleaning everyday essentials like my glasses and laptop screen, and reading or viewing technical things like tutorials. Perhaps my aversions stated in this post are not even related to lower intelligence, and instead related to some other neurodivergence. Still, I want to ask if anyone here can relate. Take care.

While thinking about all the problems I have faced, and wanting to prevent any more problems from happening if possible, I realized that, at times, life just happens. What I mean is that a lot of situations and variables and overall phenomena in life are not controllable, or perhaps not to the extent desired, and thus many things can happen, often in ways or directions that are not conducive to the desires of humans. For instance, a lot of us may want to succeed in conventional academic paths and requirements, and despite putting in effort, time, and money, we may not get the exact result wanted or even outright just fail. In non-classroom settings, I have experienced cars suffering a major problem on the road, technical issues such as broken WiFi routers, or random events happening that derail my intended plans.

I'm not saying to give up in one's pursuits or to passively let everything crash and burn; I'm just pointing out that the natural world is not aligned with people's plans, and if life is just left to be, a lot of random things will happen frequently. Anyways, rant over and I hope this post made sense. Take care.

Normally, I think that other people do not like being told they can't do something/are limited. However, I think all people have a limit, although the exact ceiling on what someone can do is obviously unique for every person. There's only so much one can read, retain, and analyze; there's only so many things one can carry on themself or their vehicle at any given time; and there's only a certain length one can reach for (I say this as a short person). Being limited sucks, but it's an unavoidable aspect of daily life, at least for me. Can anyone here relate? Although I bring up the very common, painful issue of a limit, I do think working hard as possible and being resourceful are good things to do. I guess some desires/paths are dead-ends and not meant to be. Rant over.

When I mention mental modes, I mean having a specific mindset for a given situation. Like I have read about people talking about going into work mode (or study mode) when their job (or school term) starts. I wonder if people with a lower IQ (or other neurodivergences) switch between modes, almost robotically, to try to finish things as quick and as well as possible. I think that higher IQ people can mentally multitask more (due to higher working memory or brain RAM as I like to call it), and thus do not have to have dramatic shifts in cognition and behavior to get all the needed things done daily (whether it's school, work, or miscellaneous errands). Like I don't handle really complicated, bigger tasks well, and have to cut things down into more doable chunks. Whereas a more talented person is able to get a lot of those things done more smoothly and fluidly.

One thing that got me thinking about modes of operation and task management is that I recently have been diving into the Resident Evil games, and I noticed how item management is a huge element of the gaming mechanics, as the player must obtain items, discard useless ones, and store backup items (like ammo and herbs). While trying to manage and organize my limited inventory game-wise, I felt that in my personal, real life, I have always had to mentally manage and organize my to-do list and my thought processes for any given endeavor. Thanks for reading and take care.

My question is a bit abstract, so let me explain. It sounds like advanced AI models can replace a lot of white-collar, office jobs (even radiologists may not be needed due to how good AI can detect anomalies on X-ray scans and similar diagnostic tests). However, I did watch a video that mentioned how people will be needed to build AI data centers and other infrastructure. These builders I presume would be tradespeople working more hands-on and intuitively. Generally speaking, I hear about how there's not enough college degree-requiring jobs for college graduates while trade jobs need people but due to social stigma, a lot of people don't go into that route as their parents (or mainstream society) don't want their precious children to go into that line of work.

Now, AI probably won't wipe out all jobs, and there will probably be a need to use AI and regulate AI (I have recently seen and read about new bachelor's degree programs on AI usage). Also, I don't think trade school/vocational school is super easy to understand and do, and trades are notorious for being hard on a practitioner's body. However, if AI does take up a lot of the paperwork-type of jobs, then I wonder if people who are mechanically-inclined or skilled in emotional, psychological relationships will "win" in the job market soon. Let me know if this predicted trajectory might be plausible.

I think normies can be described as holding desires for common life goals/milestones/accomplishments (e.g., earning a college degree, getting a good job, getting married with happy and healthy kids). Although I recently, barely was able to earn a college degree in one of the humanities, I don't hold the same desires like "normal" people do. I remember many years back, while I was hanging out with a friend in a metropolitan area during a school break, I shared with him my lack of desire for traveling and sightseeing, and he had the opposite attitude, wanting to travel as long as he had the time, money, and energy to do so. I mean, I enjoy going on simple walks and nearby sightseeing, but I'm not the type of person to go to Grand Canyon or anything that big. I might be biased since my parents also weren't the type of people to go on outdoors-based adventures or anything worth mentioning to normies. On a logical level, I don't see the point in sightseeing either.

Normies also tend to talk about wanting to have millions in their bank account to go on lavish vacations and be able to afford luxury goods, but I don't see the appeal in those either. At this point, I might be okay, at least physically, if I have stable shelter, food, water, clothes, and other bare essentials (along with a sense of purpose and structure). Admittedly, I'm going a bit crazy due to not knowing what my near future holds, so maybe that's why I have an attitude of near-anhedonia/indifference to a lot of things right now. Can anyone here relate?

In this abstract post, I argue that the universe doesn't have order naturally to begin with. What I mean is most people tend to believe in karma or a just-world, and most people generally try to secure law and order wherever they live, which is probably good. However, living with a low IQ, and enduring bad events, made me realize there's nothing within the laws of nature that ensures people get what they deserve. Common desires like doing well in school in order to get a good job offer or to go onto advanced studies, getting married and having happy and healthy kids, and accumulating wealth to enjoy luxuries like traveling or high-end goods are definitely not something everyone has, and are not a universal experience. While talking with others about life overall, I noticed that people tend to have hope and be optimistic about future prospects for whatever goal they're on. The issue with such hope is that the mere passage of time doesn't lead to desired outcomes.

Despite my argument that the world isn't inherently kind, friendly, or fair, I do think that working hard, being consistent, being reasonable, and being flexible are all actions and traits to hold dear and admire. I guess what I'm feeling is that, at times, my individual efforts to bring about good outcomes are futile in the face of a seemingly amoral universe. I hope what I wrote down makes sense. Take care.

As a recent college grad in one of the humanities, I'm looking for a suitable career or next steps in career exploration or relevant, further schooling. When I was looking at the requirements, qualifications, and competencies required for various career paths, I get the impression that certain people were meant to fulfill certain roles due to having the right traits and circumstances (by chance) to fit a certain path (hard work, self-discipline, and organizational skills matter too). For me personally, I was never good at advanced STEM courses and don't think I can handle any STEM-related career that requires deep, advanced STEM knowledge or degrees. I ask the question above since a good amount of people say and believe that almost anything is possible if one sets their mind to it, but I think such an optimistic attitude can only get one so far on a particular path.

Although I think some people are not meant for certain lines of work, I'm not advocating for not trying at all or doing nothing productivity-wise. It's just that based on my experience and observations of others, I conclude some people were meant to specialize in certain activities and contribute to the world with a path that aligns with their strengths, and one trying to do something one can't do well in leads to failure, chaos, and disorder in the workplace.

While thinking about my painful past and hoping to avoid any preventable problems in the future, I realized that in a way, I came to terms/made peace with my academic failures and cognitive capacity problems, at least to an extent. When I thought about how a mental trait like one's maximum IQ is almost certainly fixed after adolescence, I noticed that there are other unchangeable traits fixed after a certain age (e.g., height) that greatly affect one's life trajectory and other outcomes. I might be stating the obvious about the experience of the human condition, but I guess it's just terrifying to think that a person's immutable traits like IQ influences a lot of outcomes, if not all, and there doesn't seem to be much that can be done about the immutability. The idea of doing hard work (whether mentally or physically) to secure good outcomes is almost rendered moot by the existence of immutable traits because it's very possible to work really hard and put in valuables resources (e.g., time, money) and still not achieve the desired result.

Besides one's personal traits, immutable events/phenomena like the particular weather in a particular geographical area also mess with people's lives, and that also can be quite a challenge to defend against. The past is another immutable phenomenon that psychologically haunts people like me. I hope this post wasn't too disorganized. Thanks for reading and take care.

I know the above question is broad, but let me explain. Lately, my parents have been telling me to find a way to have a career in the field of healthcare providers, and now one option they want me to try is applying to the Caribbean medical schools. I'm aware that these schools are considered inferior in quality to that of U.S. and Canadian medical schools, but they may be better than nothing. I'm also aware that hurricanes can happen near the equator, but I live in Southern California so there are possible earthquakes. Anyways, while considering such an option, I wondered if relatively low IQ people are destined for such "bad" schools, as elite colleges and universities have elite students in terms of potential and talent (perhaps money-wise as well). A poor education may be better than none whatsoever, but I wonder what do the people here think and feel about worse schools and whether or not you have attended one such school. If anyone here attended a relatively bad school, would you recommend it for any purpose? Do people sometimes attend a school with a bad reputation just to fulfill their needed educational requirements and thus advance their livelihood and career prospects? Take care.

At this point in the summer, I’m a NEET, but I do plan on getting a job or going to school for a path that suits me and my interests. For context, I have always dealt with disabilities/impairments, so college was a challenge to do (I recently earned a bachelor’s degree in one of the humanities). I didn’t have anything lined up this summer because I was very focused on finishing up my remaining classes this past spring semester. Additionally, last summer I signed up for too many things and ended up failing hard, so I avoided overloading myself responsibility-wise this summer. With all that said, my parents, in particular my mom, have not been happy with a lack of tangible, physical, and obvious success/next steps forward. My mom wants me to try to get into a healthcare job, which I might be able to do if it’s non-competitive with a low barrier to entry, but she’s adamant on more difficult, prestigious jobs like physician and dentistry, which I’m just not cut out for (very low science GPA and other poor stats).

Now, I think that a lot of people, Asian or not, don’t approve of someone not in education, employment, nor training (e.g., seeing the unemployed as bums and such). In my case, I can’t control my weaknesses or a lack of opportunities or a lack of interest in what’s available where I live. I just wonder if n-parents really mistreat an unemployed child harshly, or if I just have really demanding, stubborn parents when it comes to deciding what schooling or career their child should have. Thanks for reading and take care.

As I explore careers and read up on miscellaneous but potentially useful things, it sucks that I'm not as fluid in my learning or attempts at doing things. Like when I read a science book just out of curiosity, I recognize some ideas, concepts, and definitions, but a lot of details don't click with me. Now, such technical, reference books may not be intended to be read cover-to-cover, and should be used strategically and precisely for the needed ideas and numerical values. It's just that despite all the problems in my life, I was able to pass introductory, lower-division classes in STEM such as general chemistry and physics. I suspect that sometimes academia-related knowledge and skill are short-lived for the time period of a semester (or a quarter if one's school is on that system), and triggered by the presence of a classroom or an educator. Can anyone here relate to this type of incompetence? Take care.

For context, my family is religious (Catholic), and we all think about faith in regular matters, including academics. Like my parents pray for me to do well in school and get into a good program or career (or anything of that nature). When I end up not doing well or failing to get into a specific program or career, naturally everyone is upset and in disbelief. Now, I'm not stirring up a debate on the validity of faith or the existence of higher powers. I'm more specifically asking if anyone has seen or heard their parents having high hopes or even praying to a higher power for earthly success and accomplishment, only then to witness the absolute shock and horror that things didn't go according to plan. I hope this post doesn't invoke any bad memories. Thanks for reading and take care.

Looking back at all the crazy failures and painful moments throughout my past, I like to reframe my failures in school as "experiments." What I mean is that although I spent a lot of money and time and sanity at previous schools only to end up failing in my goals, at least I know what doesn't work for me and what does and can tell myself I tried. This isn't the best reframing of past events, but it helps me to be a bit more positive? Can anyone here relate to changing one's perspective and attitude to one's past traumas? Take care.

As someone who recently graduated college in one of the humanities, I have been looking for employment. For more context, I deal with disabilities/impairments that negatively impact my performance, so I took way longer than the "normal" 4 years to complete a bachelor degree. I just learned about the existence of the Ticket to Work Program for folks on SSDI and Schedule A hiring within USAJOBS (https://www.eeoc.gov/careers/schedule-disability-hiring). I'm wondering if anyone found a career that fits them with these websites, and if so, what exact steps did you take to secure gainful employment? Thanks for reading and take care.

While browsing subreddits relating to jobs and similar matters, I stumbled upon a resource called USAJOBS, which includes a filter for government jobs under Schedule A Hiring Authority, which is a designation for a special (excepted) hiring authority for people with a severe physical disability, a psychiatric disability or an intellectual disability. Now, with a quick glance at the jobs near where I live, I don't qualify for them due to a lack of experience. However, I'm hoping that at least someone here has tried this resource and luckily found a job that works for you? Thanks for reading and take care.

I have previously said on this sub that I recently graduated in one of the humanities this past May after many years in college. As someone who isn't too interested in the typical options within my major, I have decided to test the waters in a different field (Allied Health) by signing up for community college courses in the fall. The complicated part of my near future is that my dad wants me to try to study accounting since the field is financially rewarding and accountants are in need by most organizations, if my knowledge is correct. Thus, all in all, I wonder if it's common to explore/try-out two or more separate, relatively demanding paths in the year after college? I know that everyone and their life situation are different, and I think I know my limits; I just would appreciate any perspective or applicable advice so I don't end up crashing and burning in any of my near future endeavors.

Recently, my dad has heavily suggested to me to try to study accounting, and perhaps even to earn a CPA license, so I can become an accountant. Although I have heard that it's a boring job, it's known to be needed by just about any organization and pays well if my knowledge is correct. The issue is that when I tried taking an accounting class a couple of years back, I wasn't able to do well (I dropped the course). Now, given that I finally finished a bachelor's degree program in my late 20's in one of the humanities, I have some mental freedom to try different things. However, I don't want to simply jump into the field of accounting without a full understanding of what it entails. Thus, I ask if anyone here was able to do accounting? Or just any field that is reasonable stable and financially rewarding? Take care.