r/LifeAfterSchool

TL;DR:Should I follow my passion and go do online college for cybersecurity, or do what my parent suggest to join the military?

Hey reddit, im a 26 year old male and i graduated trade school doing hvac. I really didn't want to do it but I chased the money cause my family suggested I should. I went along and of course, I didn't like it. I told them that my heart really isn't into this and I want to do cybersecurity cause I was genuinely into it. Now my folks

Are giving me a ultimatum,I'd either join the military and then after 6 years in, I study cybersecurity, or do hvac and study it while working in that field. My thought is that why would I do something I know I'd be miserable in, and keep pushing back my passion? I dont know what to do and any advice would be appreciated.

Man 24, Engineer, grad in 26 , not placed, no offers, no replies from companies, Haven't touched a single girl in my life ..leave that barely talked with any (entire life).... No trips in college, no 'good' friends just WhatsApp ones, no daaru- cigarette, no clubbing, dj nights, keep sitting at home day night , sleep is fcked 4-5 am to 12-2 pm, religious but in own ways, slightly hopeless‌, motivation less and Fully - Stuck rn.

Dated 8oct2026, time 15.42.

Graduated. Have a good job. Woop!

But I’m bored. So bored. I don’t crave stability, I crave the stress and chaos even though it’s bad for me and NOT good for my adult life.

The things I did in undergrad are not sustainable for a working professional. I partied, drank, went out on weekdays, did drugs, etc.

But still I crave it. It’s the feelings of “I want this out of my system” versus “yeah but if I do it, and too much of it, I’m putting my professional reputation at danger”

Did I just grow a mental addiction to that lifestyle?

I think about it often and crave it and miss it but it’s NOT good for me. Baaaah. Maybe I just need more hobbies or should’ve allowed myself to travel. Maybe the world just sucks and I’m stressed. Not sure!

Well hey at least I have means of income and some stability

But goddamnit …..

Doesn’t help I’m not in a big city and all the ppl going out and being irresponsible are sub-21 most likely 😢 like fuck, I miss it, wish I could turn the clock back already even tho ik there’s so much more to live and do, and I hated school while in it LOL

Maybe it’s just an unfulfilling location??? BaAaahhhhhhhhh

Did an assessment for a tutor job. Even though, I’m a first year uni student, I got really low marks in it and they didn’t hire me. I couldn’t even explain basic math in simple terms. I tell myself it’s because I was tired that day from another job assessment but I don’t know how to move past that since, I did Alevel maths and got a good grade. So, how couldn’t I do 11+ maths? I might just be stupid.

I am 22 years old. I'm going to explain my situation.

I am studying two bachelor's degrees, which I finish next year. One in Marketing and another in Strategic, Corporate Communication, etc.

I am an excellent student, I was on the Dean's List twice, I won a scholarship, I am at a good university in my country (Uruguay). I have a decent job. I work 4 hours a day at a Bank, mostly within my field. They don't pay me a crazy amount, but it's fine for now. (I started two years ago, and in December I reach 1.5 years of work experience in this role).

I come from a well-off family. We are not millionaires, but we are upper-middle class (I know I have a safety net). They cared a lot about my education, I went to a bilingual school, I did the International Baccalaureate, etc.

Last year I went on an exchange program and it was the best experience of my life. I learned a lot. I was very happy. This year I came back and came back with everything. I took a lot of courses, I was the project manager for my thesis (a final project with a huge company in my country), it was a success. While doing that, I also worked 20 hours a week. In addition, I moved out on my own and started dating an incredible girl. The combination of everything didn't leave me time for much. I feel like I've been living in a state of burnout. Compared to the exchange program, it was insane.

I feel like I am changing, I am questioning everything. I don't know what to do.

Next year I have 14 subjects left to graduate with both degrees: fourteen.

I don't know what to do. Working and taking 14 subjects feels like it would be a repetition of this year, which wouldn't be ideal, because it feels like I didn't live.

Another thing I want to take into account is my desire to do a Working Holiday in Australia in 2028, after graduating, whether for 6 months or a year.

Next year I don't know what to do. Fortunately, I have money and I don't spend much. I want to keep having it to go to Australia. I also want to graduate. I'm thinking about quitting my job and dedicating myself only to studying (doing specific freelance jobs just to maintain my money, I would earn much more unsteadily than the Bank salary). Adding, for example, being a teaching assistant in some subject, launching my own venture, specific jobs, etc. Or simply taking on personal projects.

What frightens me is quitting my job; on one hand, I feel like I'm killing my career and losing an income. I don't know if it's going to destroy my resume. I think it's all in my head. I also start to doubt my studies, although I think it's because of my insecurity and excess of comparison. I feel like all options are wrong, but when I analyze it, I know I'm fine, at least on paper.

What do you think?

Everything helps me. Experiences, references, opinions, hate comments, bullying, recommendations, etc.

Thanks for everything, I'm simply a kid who is a bit lost.

This feels dumb...But I'm in my first year of college at my cc. I'm majoring in early childhood education (P-3), partially because I like working with children enough. I feel like it's a job that would actually keep me engaged. But I also only chose it because I struggle a lot as a student in maths and sciences, and so I wouldn't be teaching algebra to kindergarteners...Most days I really just feel like I'm choosing the wrong thing for myself, yet I have no other option. My other friends seem to know exactly what they're doing in school and have an idea for after. I guess I just wanna know if other people felt like a headless chicken during university too, and what they did to gain a little direction. :)

Guys i need your help,am a campus student only in the in the next 3 months and i will be done with my campus life after doing my final qualification exam in february,,how did you guys survived in this streets after campus,especially those who were in Nairobi,i don't think going back to my village is the best decision now,