u/Familiar-Attempt-489

Don’t know if this is the right sub for this but… my friend posted a picture today.
We became friends during undergrad.
She completed her masters in London last year (very random course) and got high pay job there.
She has all that I’ve ever wanted. Proud parents, a home & a car, friends she parties and travels with, luxury stuff, a very happening life!
And I’m here sitting and cursing my life because I have none of this. Don’t want to question her hard work, but seems like she has got great luck too.
Now everyone here would ask me to focus on myself and my growth, but I am jealous and I can’t help it!
Life turned out way better for her being an average student.
Her street smartness took her places, and I feel like a loser here. At nights it makes me so anxious thinking how our mutuals would think she killed it in life and I didn’t.
I feel like I’m left behind.

Reddit is full of negative stories when it comes to cosmetic surgeons in India, particularly for nose jobs.

I understand the procedure isn’t as common here as it is in some other countries, but is there no one who can say THIS IS THE DOCTOR I WENT TO AND HAD AN AMAZING EXPERIENCE WITH, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND THEM!

There are only stories about botched noses by Indian doctors all over. Im tired!

Reddit is full of negative stories when it comes to cosmetic surgeons in India, particularly for nose jobs.

I understand the procedure isn’t as common here as it is in some other countries, but is there no one who can say THIS IS THE DOCTOR I WENT TO AND HAD AN AMAZING EXPERIENCE WITH, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND THEM!

There are only stories about botched noses by Indian doctors all over. Im tired!

If you’re a therapist and reading this, please don’t ignore.
I can’t afford professional help since Im unemployed and am dealing with anxiety.

I don’t think I can share what’s going on with me to a known person, and I fear people would call me stupid for feeling this way which is why Im not sharing anything publicly on this post.

My life is slipping out of my hands and I feel so helpless. I need help. Can someone please talk to me? 🙏

27F. I met this guy at a house party, and there was an instant spark. He was charming, persuasive… and flirty ofc. At first, I kept my guards up, but after talking for a few months, I slowly opened up.

We had insane chemistry!
At another house party, he pulled me into the hallway and kissed me after an intense eye contact. That was steamy tbh.
I probably mistook that chemistry for genuine feelings on his part. It was beyond attraction for me fs.

A few months later, a so-called friend started hitting on him, fully aware that he was my weak spot.
She wanted to make me jealous and wanted his attention, one 🏹 two 🐦‍⬛🐦‍⬛.

He entertained it. She got what she wanted.
I had no right to question him because we were never in a relationship, but him moving away was killing me each passing day.
Everyone around us could tell how much I liked him. It was humiliating to be dumped in public.
To add onto this, she’d constantly bring him up in conversations just to see how I react.

I still remember sitting alone at dinner while the two of them laughed together right in front of me, and I could tell that was on purpose.
I never expected any better from her, she’s a b*tch (excuse my language but obv I hate her)
But I can’t seem to let go of him.

It’s been a year.
I’ve had other men approach me since then, but my heart has never really been available, and I didn’t want to hurt anyone the way I was.

If I say I wanted to manifest him back, that would honestly feel like putting my self-respect to trash.
I know he’s a walking red flag and I have no delusions that he’ll change.

But if I’m being completely honest, there’s still a part of me that wants him to regret walking away. I want him to want me but being inaccessible to him.

I know people will say, “Don’t seek validation from someone who didn’t value you,” or “Focus on yourself.” I understand that advice, and logically I agree with it. But I want to cater to my emotions too.

I’m very clear about what I want.

I don’t wish him or the other girl any harm. I genuinely don’t.
I just want him to realize what he lost and that he made a wrong choice by not choosing me.
Maybe that’s my version of a harmless revenge.

I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s gone through this. I’ve come across so many posts saying ‘I want this person to be obsessed with me.’ Well, I’m here for exactly that.

Help your girl and please share any tips that you have!

Thanks. 🤍

I know people often say making friends/building network is one of the easiest things, but I’ve been genuinely struggling… and I’m tired.

For context: I moved to the UK in my late 20s, stepping out of my comfort zone to pursue higher studies. I built some really close connections there which faded away just in a few months.

I began to feel ignored and left out, but didn’t want to come across as desperate.

Deep down, I was craving meaningful connections. Friends that I could share life with, laugh with, and truly enjoy moments with.

But eventually, I made peace with the idea that all I really had was myself.

Today, I noticed that two of them have blocked me, and for a moment, it completely shattered me.

I had always doubted everyone’s’ intentions towards me which is why I distanced myself from them. I still feel they talk at my back but… okay… I have 0 friends from there now.

Life then bought me back to my home country but I feel stuck. Like I don’t belong anywhere.

There was a time when life felt like it was finally falling into place, and now it feels like I’ve hit my lowest point. I feel alone.

I’ve always been a fun, bubbly, all-heart kind of person, but lately it feels like I’ve lost that spark. Somewhere inside, I feel deeply hurt and betrayed.

Can someone help me understand how to shift my perspective on friendships after going through something like this?

I’d appreciate any kind of help at the point. Please. 🙏