Presently, NCP is fighting hard for 50/50 (despite not using his parenting time). He asked child support magistrate if he still has to pay child support if he gets 50/50. She said yes because he’s the higher earner. Our pro-rata breakdown is 58% for him and 42% for me.
How will child support decrease if he gets 50/50?
is anyone else coparenting with their rapist (because family court doesn’t care about your experiences) and you have joint legal custody that allows your rapist to be in the same room as you for medical appointments?
I was raped multiple times and abused continuously by the father of my child with one incident resulting in the conception of our child. Our child is almost 2 years old and my body feels so uncomfortable around him but we share joint legal custody thanks to our family law judge who is ignorant of the history of his abuse of me. The judge says “you two have to figure out a way to be near each other and get along.” Tell that to my body that was violated by this person!!!
Any tips? I go to therapy and ptsd/sexual assault support groups, but all the coping strategy does not keep me at ease when I have to physically be in a tiny doctor’s room with him.
Note: I’m in the process of formally reporting my rapist, tho I know that convictions are almost impossible, but I’m hoping that will at least allow me to have more safeguads?
Just finalized child support order, where my coparent is ordered to pay me. Coparent makes six figures and was hiding over 20k in additional income from capital gains from digital assets by not supplying tax returns for our first three hearings. He finally supplied the tax return he filed in 2025 and said he filed an extension this year. So, our order is based on his income from 2024. He made more money in 2025, so he was fortunate. Since we reached the cap, we settled on an amount that benefits my coparent.
Yet, my coparent, who was already upset that I "inflicted" child support on him, is still very upset about the child support obligation. He claims not to be able to pay his rent and his bills (despite having close to a million in digital assets (which generate taxable income beyond his six-figure W-2 job)).
He asked the support magistrate if the order can change if he gets 50-50 custody (currently, he has 16 hours of visitation a week and no overnights). The support magistrate said no because he is the higher earner, so the law says he has to pay me child support as long as he is the higher earner and our child is under my care the majority of the time.
I know he will try to get the amount modified, but when he does, I will be adamant about adjourning any hearings until he supplies tax returns, and once we do have a hearing, I will be pushing for a full discovery of his capital gains. What else should I prepare for? Is he able to request a modification before 3 years? Should I request a modification since our current order is based on our 2024 finances?
Should I be concerned?
Here’s a zoomed in version of the one on my sole: https://kommodo.ai/i/djX61LiMJDcXnqKyf8s0
Can someone explain what child support trial looks like? I have had three conferences for child support, where a temporary order was issued. I’ve submitted every document the court requested. NCP only submitted W2 from 2025 and has not submitted any other documents the court requested. Magistrate said if we don’t settle this by upcoming July hearing we will be going to trial. How will trial be different from the conferences we have been having?
TIA.
NCP says he will be losing his job soon due to layoffs (though I suspect he is going to be fired because of his conduct, as his job requires a security clearance which he was in the process of acquiring, except the clearance process required background interviews from me and his ex (both of us were severely abused by him (I’ve learned about his past after my experiences with him)). Not sure if it even matters is he’s going to be laid off or fired, but case in point: he will be unemployed.
He has also been complaining about the amount of child support he has been ordered to pay since the order was issued last month. He himself claims he is financially stable with over half a million in digital assets alone and a lot of other assets (savings and other forms of retirement investments). He did not submit his tax returns to the court (which the magistrate requested). Any ideas what he could be hiding by not submitting his tax returns (e.g., do you think he’s not reporting capital gains)? What can be done if he continues to avoid submitting his tax returns?
Also, when he loses his job (again, he said it’s very likely and he even told me to add our child’s insurance to my plan, as our child is currently under his plan), any chance his assets can serve as proof that he has the means to pay child support?
TIA.
Seeking advice — trying to replace the vinyl gate myself. The one sold in Home Depot is wider than what I need. Tips on what to do?
Anyone know the average monthly cost of daycare in the 518 area? Or, if you’ve utilized daycare services, how much did you pay? Thanks in advance!
NCP is upset about child support obligation that is being garnished from his paycheck, which he claims that he is “overpaying.” He currently is granted visits every weekend, 5 hours on Saturday and 7 hours on Sunday. He kept inviting me to join him and our 17 month old child during his visits/parenting time, stating it is good for the child to see us together. I always decline. After every visit, he complains how overwhelmed/exhausted he is and tells me “here, the child is yours - I had the child all day.” For this upcoming weekend, he is shortening his hours for one of the days because of “personal matters.”
Yet, this week, he said he is fighting for 50/50.
Also, in case this is relevant, I take care of our child while working from home, which is saving us thousands of dollars. He doesn’t realize the cost of childcare, which he will need to seek if he did get 50/50 and he will need to contribute a larger portion of the costs.
Additional information: he also claims he will be losing his job soon.
Background: NCP was not an active parental figure prior to court, prioritizing his own life over parenting and often needing breaks in the little time he helped parent (i.e., he never parented on his own prior to issuance of temporary court order).
Thoughts on likelihood or intentions?
Are non-custodial parents allowed to determine how excess CS funds are spent? I have primary custody and I take care of our baby while working. He says the amount he pays far exceeds what the baby needs and that we should open a joint bank account for our child and put extra child support money in it. He also doesn’t understand that any funds spent on medical bills for the baby and extracurriculars are outside of the scope of child support.