Has anyone here used BetBlocker? My husband has a gambling issue and just want to make sure he’s not betting on sports behind my back.
Does the software slow down your phone a lot? And does it actually work or were you guys able to find a loophole around it? Any reviews help!
Honestly enmeshment is a new term to me. I’ve always just thought my husband’s family had a really oddly close relationship and that my husband is just a good son and brother. But I constantly feel like I’m competing with the other two women in his life and it’s a bizarre feeling because one is his mom and the other is his sister.
EXAMPLE: Instead of going to my FIL for emotional support and hugs, my MIL will literally guilt trip my husband into going over to her in the middle of the night to hold her and let her cry on his shoulder.
Recently my husband and I have been having issues. Found out that my husband would give my SIL detailed information about our marital issues and conversations. When my MIL and FIL found out about our issues, instead of encouraging us to work it out, they’ve actually told him “love should be easy and you shouldn’t try to fix it, just separate”.
Now my husband and I have had conversations and have came to the conclusion that our issues are not big enough to separate and that we just need to work through them. But it’s just bizarre to me how enmeshed their family is. I feel like an outsider in my marriage sometimes because of how close my husband is with his family. Am I crazy?
Honestly enmeshment is a new term to me. I’ve always just thought my husband’s family had a really oddly close relationship and that my husband is just a good son and brother. But I constantly feel like I’m competing with the other two women in his life and it’s a bizarre feeling because one is his mom and the other is his sister.
EXAMPLE: Instead of going to my FIL for emotional support and hugs, my MIL will literally guilt trip my husband into going over to her in the middle of the night to hold her and let her cry on his shoulder.
Recently my husband and I have been having issues. Found out that my husband would give my SIL detailed information about our marital issues and conversations. When my MIL and FIL found out about our issues, instead of encouraging us to work it out, they’ve actually told him “love should be easy and you shouldn’t try to fix it, just separate”.
Now my husband and I have had conversations and have came to the conclusion that our issues are not big enough to separate and that we just need to work through them. But it’s just bizarre to me how enmeshed their family is. I feel like an outsider in my marriage sometimes because of how close my husband is with his family. Am I crazy?
My (30f) husband (31M) lost over $100k in crypto and is currently $20k in debt. I’m scared for my future and feel like divorce is something I’m considering as a way to cut myself off before worse things happen. But the thing is, I love my husband and really want it to work out. I just don’t have confidence that he’s gonna be able to squabble is crypto addiction once and for all.
My (30M) husband (31M) used to only bet a maximum amount of $400 and will continue using only that in his wallet. Back in 2024 he divulged to me that he lost over $40k. He vowed to never do any kind of “investing” again. Flash forward to January if this year he’s worked hard and saved up $40k just to lose it all again to crypto. Not only that but he also went and borrowed $20k from MoneyMart and lost that too. He’s officially $100k down, $20k in debt. I’m at a loss and I don’t know what I should do or how our marriage will survive this. He’s lied to me time and time again.
He has agreed to have a “joint” account with me for financial transparency (all his paychecks are going into that account, mine of course are in my personal account).
SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO
I love him and I’m really hoping that by being in charge of all his finances and watching him like a hawk will be sufficient. But on the other hand, there’s nothing stopping him from borrowing more money to gamble it away again and I’m scared for myself. At the same time, how do you divorce someone you love?