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Bg: partner has had sudden onset severe chronic pain since getting a random literal cold in Feb. I got sick as well but was only sick for like a day or two. She has literally been in basically constant pain since then. We have been trying to get it diagnosed and treated since then.

My partner has been dx'd with fibromyalgia. Recently her knee had given out on her when walking around the house.This prompted the Dr to order an MRI.

Her pain has been nearly constant with occasional good (low pain) days. Shes passively suicidal from how constant and awful it is. Wtf even.

This seems like it can't be the answer, or if it is, how can she be expected to live like this?

The experience of what the Dr was describing when he was explaining what living w fibro is like, did not feel like what she is going through honestly. If she has been in a flare up since February with little to no let up (like maybe a handful of actually good days where she could function normally.

Our next step is to try Cymbalta in addition w the lyrica. (Lyrica is like a drop in the bucket re: the pain, gabapentin had side effects of worsening depression)

The nurse also let us know the local Y has a day pass though which might be helpful. She has very little energy but weve gotta start somewhere. We tried PT but she said it made things worse enough that she ended it after 3 sessions.

The Drs explanation of fibro felt like almost as big of a shrug as not having any explanation to me.

Discussion of chronic pain, job stress, death of loved ones, vent

Trying to get (almost there) FMLA so I don't lose my God forsaken job.

Because their attendance policy is strict and in one year my mom died and my wife suddenly got severe chronic pain that is now diagnosed as fibromyalgia, so I ended up using more time off than I had available, because I misunderstood how it worked for 2 years 🫩 I had FMLA for them but only short term previously for prior, unrelated, events.

We are about to try a new med as her pain is severe and hasn't really responded much to the meds that have been tried. And as is to be expected, IMO, her depression has been pretty much worse all the time due to the fact shes in horrible, barely treated, pain, and she's exhausted, etc etc.

Yeah so my burn out is burnt out but I'm trying lol

My moms funeral (Momorial) is tomorrow. It's going to be literally me, my dad, and my uncle. My wife is feeling extra depressed recently so opted out and obviously I'm likes yes babe please stay home if it feels like you shouldnt go. Also if anyone is local if you could come so it won't be awkward if appreciate it.

But yeah Jesus fuck... Will Wood voice: "Somebody help me!" 💀

I also have comprbidies (OCD, the most Anxiety ever, prob others lmao)

Thanks 4 reading, feel free 2 comisserate or whatever in the comments the healthcare system is a literal dumpster fire but I guess thank fuck for the folks working in it with good intent. Shout-out to the nurse that let us know the local Y apparently has day passes. (PT seemed to only make things worse so she was suggesting perhaps water exercise could help it be more bearable which I think is a great idea).

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Hi i hope someone knows wtf I mean lol

There's a shirt, iirc from the revenge era, that in my mind is like the precursor to the current version w the roses that says "let's all be friends". Like the logo text and graphic are similar so Ive always felt like they go together

I don't recall but I think it had bullets instead and had some sort of nihilistic/revenge vibe to the text? Cannot for the life of me recall enough text to search for it 😅😅

Love, elder emo creature