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I’ve noticed a really strange pattern in my life and I’m curious whether other people experience this too.

Whenever I decide that someone is no longer going to be part of my life, they completely disappear from it for good. I always hear stories about old connections randomly returning years later, but that genuinely never happens to me. Once someone is out of my life, it’s like they vanish entirely. I never hear updates about them, never randomly come across them online, nothing.

I’m not upset about it at all, because there’s always a valid reason why the relationship or connection ended in the first place. I just find the pattern itself fascinating.

For example, I ended a relationship almost two years ago, and since then I have heard absolutely nothing about that person. It feels strange knowing we both basically disappeared from each other’s worlds completely.

Same thing happened with a close friendship that naturally faded after graduation. We slowly stopped speaking, and that was it. No reconnecting, no random messages years later, nothing.

I’ve also noticed this with people I briefly crossed paths with and got along with very well. Sometimes you meet someone and think they could end up becoming a significant person in your life, but then life simply moves on and your paths never cross again.

The whole thing makes me wonder whether some people are only meant to exist in our lives for a specific period of time, and once that chapter ends, everything quietly closes with it.

Does anyone else notice this pattern? And is there any psychological or logical explanation for why some connections disappear so completely while others seem to circle back eventually?

Hey guys, i want to talk about a specific pattern that i have noticed in my life for quite some time, just to see if anyone can relate to me.

So i'm 23F, and I have ended a few friendships/ relationships in the past, but one thing that i've always noticed is that the minute i decide to completely get somebody out of my life, they immediately disappear for good. I hear people's stories about an old connection coming back after some time, but that's never been the case with me. No one ever tries to reach out to me again, i never even stumble upon their accounts on social media anymore, i never hear of them from anyone else, just absolute crickets.

Please dont get me wrong, i'm not complaining at all, because i never regret getting someone out of my life, there's always a good reason for it. But what people say about your path no longer meeting another person's path once they are no longer part of your life/ story is sooo true, and i have so many examples of it:

I have not heard not even a whisper about my ex that i ended things with almost two years ago, (thank god), it literally feels so thrilling whenever i think about the fact that he literally has no idea where i'm at in life, and neither do i have a single clue about what he's been up to.

Also, my best friend of two years and i started to grow apart after graduation, and some issues arose so i decided to just stop reaching out until the friendship eventually and naturally ended, have not spoken or heard from her for almost two years now. Truly wish her the best, but it's like she knew not to reach out either, haha.

And then comes another category of people that i guess were just never meant to be a part of my life in the first place, so things never even developed between us even though they could have. Like this one family friend's daughter that i met quite some time ago, and hung out with for just two days, but we hit it off instantly. She lives abroad so she never really visited again, but i checked and she does have an instagram account. I swear all of this is so intriguing to me, because even though i'm not hurt by any of this, i would still love to understand why did she never reach out on insta; we could have been the bestest of friends all these years, so it just feels like maybe it would not have been right, we were not meant to be in eachother's lives i guess.

Anyways, the point i'm trying to make with this post is that i find it soo crazy and weird how people immediately and forever disappear from my life once i decide to cut them off, as if their time's up. I genuinely want to know if any of you guys has a logical explanation to this phenomenon, and if you can relate.

Hey guys, i want to talk about a specific pattern that i have noticed in my life for quite some time, just to see if anyone can relate to me.

So i'm 23F, and I have ended a few friendships/ relationships in the past, but one thing that i've always noticed is that the minute i decide to completely get somebody out of my life, they immediately disappear for good. I hear people's stories about an old connection coming back after some time, but that's never been the case with me. No one ever tries to reach out to me again, i never even stumble upon their accounts on social media anymore, i never hear of them from anyone else, just absolute crickets.

Please dont get me wrong, i'm not complaining at all, because i never regret getting someone out of my life, there's always a good reason for it. But what people say about your path no longer meeting another person's path once they are no longer part of your life/ story is sooo true, and i have so many examples of it:

I have not heard not even a whisper about my ex that i ended things with almost two years ago, (thank god), it literally feels so thrilling whenever i think about the fact that he literally has no idea where i'm at in life, and neither do i have a single clue about what he's been up to.

Also, my best friend of two years and i started to grow apart after graduation, and some issues arose so i decided to just stop reaching out until the friendship eventually and naturally ended, have not spoken or heard from her for almost two years now. Truly wish her the best, but it's like she knew not to reach out either, haha.

And then comes another category of people that i guess were just never meant to be a part of my life in the first place, so things never even developed between us even though they could have. Like this one family friend's daughter that i met quite some time ago, and hung out with for just two days, but we hit it off instantly. She lives abroad so she never really visited again, but i checked and she does have an instagram account. I swear all of this is so intriguing to me, because even though i'm not hurt by any of this, i would still love to understand why did she never reach out on insta; we could have been the bestest of friends all these years, so it just feels like maybe it would not have been right, we were not meant to be in eachother's lives i guess.

Anyways, the point i'm trying to make with this post is that i find it soo crazy and weird how people immediately and forever disappear from my life once i decide to cut them off, as if their time's up. I genuinely want to know if any of you guys has a logical explanation to this phenomenon, and if you can relate.

I just wanted to express some thoughts that I've been having lately on here, because I really like the reddit community and hope that the people who read this can relate to me.

I'm an introvert (23f) who really doesn't like interacting with people, I find it so draining and I dread it everytime. Recently I've been forced to be in a position where I had to interact for a really long amount of time with some family members that I'm not that comfortable around, and I've been reflecting ever since on so many things.

I realized just how absolutely exhausting and soul draining it is to have to force yourself to deal with people you don't naturally vibe with, for a long amount of time, just to fit the social norms and to not be called a weirdo for not being social. I'm not even exagerating when I say that this whole situation made me make a promiss to myself, to work hard enough in life to be in a position of control and total freedom, to pick and choose the people that I interact with and to stay away from the ones that I dislike.

On the other hand, I had an experience a couple years ago, where i met one of my parents friend's daughter, and an instant connection formed right there and then. I don't think I have felt that instant connection and even fondness and comfort with somebody that fast ever since, and it was mutual. I find myself yearning and longing to feel that way again, with new people, to be in the presence and the company of people who just naturally get me, people that I ever so effortlessly click with, with not a single ounce of effort put into it.

I honestly don't think I was successful in expressing exactly and clearly the way that I feel, so I do apologize in advance if this post is a little bit confusing, but I'm sure that the people who can relate will understand excatly what feelings I'm talking about.

I just want to say to all my fellow introverts, that you should never force yourself to socialize with people who are simply not the right fit for you, it doesn't make either one of you a bad person. And lastly, do you guys understand/ can relate to that feeling of instant connection that I was talking about? I didn't really mean it in a romantic way but it can apply to that too. If so, what was that experience like? I would really like to know!

I just wanted to express some thoughts that I've been having lately on here, because I really like the reddit community and hope that the people who read this can relate to me.

I'm an introvert (23f) who really doesn't like interacting with people, I find it so draining and I dread it everytime. Recently I've been forced to be in a position where I had to interact for a really long amount of time with some family members that I'm not that comfortable around, and I've been reflecting ever since on so many things.

I realized just how absolutely exhausting and soul draining it is to have to force yourself to deal with people you don't naturally vibe with, for a long amount of time, just to fit the social norms and to not be called a weirdo for not being social. I'm not even exagerating when I say that this whole situation made me make a promiss to myself, to work hard enough in life to be in a position of control and total freedom, to pick and choose the people that I interact with and to stay away from the ones that I dislike.

On the other hand, I had an experience a couple years ago, where i met one of my parents friend's daughter, and an instant connection formed right there and then. I don't think I have felt that instant connection and even fondness and comfort with somebody that fast ever since, and it was mutual. I find myself yearning and longing to feel that way again, with new people, to be in the presence and the company of people who just naturally get me, people that I ever so effortlessly click with, with not a single ounce of effort put into it.

I honestly don't think I was successful in expressing exactly and clearly the way that I feel, so I do apologize in advance if this post is a little bit confusing, but I'm sure that the people who can relate will understand excatly what feelings I'm talking about.

I just want to say to all my fellow introverts, that you should never force yourself to socialize with people who are simply not the right fit for you, it doesn't make either one of you a bad person. And lastly, do you guys understand/ can relate to that feeling of instant connection that I was talking about? I didn't really mean it in a romantic way but it can apply to that too. If so, what was that experience like? I would really like to know!

I just wanted to express some thoughts that I've been having lately on here, because I really like the reddit community and hope that the people who read this can relate to me.

I'm an introvert (23f) who really doesn't like interacting with people, I find it so draining and I dread it everytime. Recently I've been forced to be in a position where I had to interact for a really long amount of time with some family members that I'm not that comfortable around, and I've been reflecting ever since on so many things.

I realized just how absolutely exhausting and soul draining it is to have to force yourself to deal with people you don't naturally vibe with, for a long amount of time, just to fit the social norms and to not be called a weirdo for not being social. I'm not even exagerating when I say that this whole situation made me make a promiss to myself, to work hard enough in life to be in a position of control and total freedom, to pick and choose the people that I interact with and to stay away from the ones that I dislike.

On the other hand, I had an experience a couple years ago, where i met one of my parents friend's daughter, and an instant connection formed right there and then. I don't think I have felt that instant connection and even fondness and comfort with somebody that fast ever since, and it was mutual. I find myself yearning and longing to feel that way again, with new people, to be in the presence and the company of people who just naturally get me, people that I ever so effortlessly click with, with not a single ounce of effort put into it.

I honestly don't think I was successful in expressing exactly and clearly the way that I feel, so I do apologize in advance if this post is a little bit confusing, but I'm sure that the people who can relate will understand excatly what feelings I'm talking about.

I just want to say to all my fellow introverts, that you should never force yourself to socialize with people who are simply not the right fit for you, it doesn't make either one of you a bad person. And lastly, do you guys understand/ can relate to that feeling of instant connection that I was talking about? I didn't really mean it in a romantic way but it can apply to that too. If so, what was that experience like? I would really like to know!

I just wanted to express some thoughts that I've been having lately on here, because I really like the reddit community and hope that the people who read this can relate to me.

I'm an introvert (23f) who really doesn't like interacting with people, I find it so draining and I dread it everytime. Recently I've been forced to be in a position where I had to interact for a really long amount of time with some family members that I'm not that comfortable around, and I've been reflecting ever since on so many things.

I realized just how absolutely exhausting and soul draining it is to have to force yourself to deal with people you don't naturally vibe with, for a long amount of time, just to fit the social norms and to not be called a weirdo for not being social. I'm not even exagerating when I say that this whole situation made me make a promiss to myself, to work hard enough in life to be in a position of control and total freedom, to pick and choose the people that I interact with and to stay away from the ones that I dislike.

On the other hand, I had an experience a couple years ago, where i met one of my parents friend's daughter, and an instant connection formed right there and then. I don't think I have felt that instant connection and even fondness and comfort with somebody that fast ever since, and it was mutual. I find myself yearning and longing to feel that way again, with new people, to be in the presence and the company of people who just naturally get me, people that I ever so effortlessly click with, with not a single ounce of effort put into it.

I honestly don't think I was successful in expressing exactly and clearly the way that I feel, so I do apologize in advance if this post is a little bit confusing, but I'm sure that the people who can relate will understand excatly what feelings I'm talking about.

I just want to say to all my fellow introverts, that you should never force yourself to socialize with people who are simply not the right fit for you, it doesn't make either one of you a bad person. And lastly, do you guys understand/ can relate to that feeling of instant connection that I was talking about? I didn't really mean it in a romantic way but it can apply to that too. If so, what was that experience like? I would really like to know!

Hey everyone, I'm not sure if this is the right sub for me to vent about this but I will post this here anyways.

I'm an introvert, and I don't have any issue with me being an introvert, nor do I ever try to change who I am to please people in any way shape or form.

I genuinely don't care about being disliked or judged for being me, and in my normal life, if I meet somebody new and we don't immediately hit it off or click, I just don't try to force a friendship or connection with that person at all. But sometimes when it's certain family members that you don't necessarily get along with, it hurts to realize that you're not even understood within your own family.

I have a great relationship with my parents and siblings, but when it comes to my sister in law, I don't hate her or anything dramatic like that, we do get along pretty well, but she is soooo extroverted, so being with her ends up draining me so much.

Basically she spent a whole week with us, with her baby, actually 10 days to be exact, and i really tried my best within that week to socialize and stuff, thinking she would leave soon. Unfortunately for me, turns out she will spend almost an extra month with us, and I genuinely have no more social energy left in me for not even an extra day.

So have just been hiding in my room trying to ride this wave. Here's the catch though, all of my family members are homebodies like me, but maybe im the most introverted one. Still, I get along super well with my parents and siblings usually, but whenever she comes to visit, my mom and sister go from being homebodies like me to basically going out every single day to please her. I know for a fact that they only do it out of politeness and that they would much rather stay home like we usually do. So seeing them all leave and basically switch sides just to accomodate her, makes me feel so out of place, and I start questionning if i even belong in this family.

One thought thats been on my mind for the past few days is that these are simply not my people, and I say that because when I am in the company of people that I genuinely like , who don't drain my energy, I never feel this way, I feel like i actually belong with these people, and being all smiley and talkative comes so naturally to me, I don't have to fake anything.

I've just been going through the motions of realizing that my family as i used to know it will no longer be the same, and unfortunately, and i say this with a very sad heart, even though i love my parents and siblings, but i guess im gonna have to visit less and see them less, so that i don't have to be put in thsese situations as often, cause this lifestyle is truly not for me. It's really so sad how she changes our dynamic even though she is a good person.

Sorry for this long post, i hope some of you could relate to me, and please tell me what other sub is a better fit for this post if this is not the right one.

Hey everyone, I'm not sure if this is the right sub for me to vent about this but I will post this here anyways.

I'm an introvert, and I don't have any issue with me being an introvert, nor do I ever try to change who I am to please people in any way shape or form.

I genuinely don't care about being disliked or judged for being me, and in my normal life, if I meet somebody new and we don't immediately hit it off or click, I just don't try to force a friendship or connection with that person at all. But sometimes when it's certain family members that you don't necessarily get along with, it hurts to realize that you're not even understood within your own family.

I have a great relationship with my parents and siblings, but when it comes to my sister in law, I don't hate her or anything dramatic like that, we do get along pretty well, but she is soooo extroverted, so being with her ends up draining me so much.

Basically she spent a whole week with us, with her baby, actually 10 days to be exact, and i really tried my best within that week to socialize and stuff, thinking she would leave soon. Unfortunately for me, turns out she will spend almost an extra month with us, and I genuinely have no more social energy left in me for not even an extra day.

So have just been hiding in my room trying to ride this wave. Here's the catch though, all of my family members are homebodies like me, but maybe im the most introverted one. Still, I get along super well with my parents and siblings usually, but whenever she comes to visit, my mom and sister go from being homebodies like me to basically going out every single day to please her. I know for a fact that they only do it out of politeness and that they would much rather stay home like we usually do. So seeing them all leave and basically switch sides just to accomodate her, makes me feel so out of place, and I start questionning if i even belong in this family.

One thought thats been on my mind for the past few days is that these are simply not my people, and I say that because when I am in the company of people that I genuinely like , who don't drain my energy, I never feel this way, I feel like i actually belong with these people, and being all smiley and talkative comes so naturally to me, I don't have to fake anything.

I've just been going through the motions of realizing that my family as i used to know it will no longer be the same, and unfortunately, and i say this with a very sad heart, even though i love my parents and siblings, but i guess im gonna have to visit less and see them less, so that i don't have to be put in thsese situations as often, cause this lifestyle is truly not for me. It's really so sad how she changes our dynamic even though she is a good person.

Sorry for this long post, i hope some of you could relate to me, and please tell me what other sub is a better fit for this post if this is not the right one.

Hey everyone, this is my first time writing in this sub, so please be kind.

I'm an introvert, and i've always loved that about myself, and I wouldn't change it for the world. I don't have energy for people, i don't like people but i don't hate them either, I just prefer to be alone than to be with anybody really. Of course I have "my people" that I click with without making any effort at all, the people with whom that connection is just so natural.

I'm not a mean person, but I'm also not a hypocrite, so when i don't really vibe with somebody, or when I'm tired of being with somebody, you can see it all over my face.

I struggle with my mind being mean to me, giving me bad thoughts about how i come off as very rude or whatever.

My issue is not with strangers, my issue is when the person I don't really vibe with is part of my family and someone that I have to see a few times a year, and in my case it's my sister in law. She's really nice, and we don't have any beef going on between us or anything, but she's a biiiiiig extrovert, like at the very end of the spectrum kind of extrovert, and that absolutely tires me out, I genuinely cannot interact with her or be with her for longer than a few days/ a week tops, because she genuinely drains my social battery to an all time low.

Again, I can't hide it when I'm tired of somebody, and I just hide in my room and don't come out until her and my brother and their baby are gone, whebever they come to visit, and I've never been confronted by her or anyone in the family but i do know that deep down they do sense the shift in my energy, and it just hurts me that no one gets this side of me, and that my family that once was an exception to my introvercy, my family that was once a source of comfort and peace to me, now got bigger and became something that i want to run away from, to find my said peace and comfort.

I'm currently in a very bad state because I am stuck at home where my sister in law and her baby will be staying with us for a pretty long time, and this genuinely got me thinking that i need to move out and be in a position where I can control how often I have to see the people that I'm just not that comfortable with.

I'm sorry that this is all over the place and too long, but i just wanted to hear your guys's opinions on this. Can anybaody relate with the feelings that I wrote? Am I actually being rude without noticing it?