u/Fist-of-Doom

Hello everyone, 😊

I'm not exactly sure if this is the correct subreddit, as I am not yet directly seeing someone, but rather working towards it.

Long story short:

I am male, 22 years old, and used the last 5 years since my Abitur to get a bachelor's degree (Business Administration) and build a career (I work as an Inside Sales - Key Account Manager and my team is responsible for our biggest customer). Currently looking for an appartment for myself to move out.

So... not really dating at all the last few years😅 and all the Covid stuff wasn't helpful either.

However, now that the foundations I set for myself are mostly done, I wanted to dip my toes into dating and eventually find a girlfriend.

Now, I work on myself to get rid of my excess body fat (I turned to heavy stress-eating during my studies), so I work out when I find the time after the office. I go swimming for 3 to 4 hours every Sunday, etc.

I also regularly go out partying with my siblings and friends, so I don't stay at home every weekend.

However, I have a problem.😅

When going out (especially during clubbing) I tend to get shy.

For example, when a girl locks eyes with me or smiles, I reflexively look away instead of, well, holding the contact and smiling back.

I also can't bring myself to approach girls because I start overthinking it.

Haven't tried Online-Dating yet, but from the stories my older sister and brother tell me, I'm not sure if that would be anything more than a waste of time.

I'm also not quite there with my own body, my BMI is around 26.6 currently.

I also only get shy in such "private" environments. In my professional one, I have no problems approaching people regardless of gender.

So it's not an inherent issue, "only" regarding to Dating.

So... any advice on how I could build up confidence and stop my overthinking?

Would appreciate honest responses.😊

Hello everyone, 😊

I'm not exactly sure if this is the correct subreddit, as this is indirectly linked to my (lack of) confidence in the dating context.

Long story short:

I am male, 22 years old, and used the last 5 years since my Abitur to get a bachelor's degree (Business Administration) and build a career (I work as an Inside Sales - Key Account Manager and my team is responsible for our biggest customer). Currently looking for an appartment for myself to move out.

So... not really dating at all the last few years😅 and all the Covid stuff wasn't helpful either.

However, now that the foundations I set for myself are mostly done, I wanted to dip my toes into dating and eventually find a girlfriend.

Now, I work on myself to get rid of my excess body fat (I turned to heavy stress-eating during my studies), so I work out when I find the time after the office. I go swimming for 3 to 4 hours every Sunday, etc.

I also regularly go out partying with my siblings and friends, so I don't stay at home every weekend.

However, I have a problem.😅

When going out (especially during clubbing) I tend to get shy.

For example, when a girl locks eyes with me or smiles, I reflexively look away instead of, well, holding the contact and smiling back.

I also can't bring myself to approach girls because I start overthinking it.

Haven't tried Online-Dating yet, but from the stories my older sister and brother tell me, I'm not sure if that would be anything more than a waste of time.

I'm also not quite there with my own body, my BMI is around 26.6 currently.

I also only get shy in such "private" environments. In my professional one, I have no problems approaching people regardless of gender.

So it's not an inherent issue, "only" regarding to Dating.

So... any advice on how I could build up confidence and stop my overthinking?

Would appreciate honest responses.😊

Hello everyone, 😊

I'm not exactly sure if this is the correct subreddit, as I am not yet directly seeing someone, but rather working towards it.

Long story short:

I am male, 22 years old, and used the last 5 years since my Abitur to get a bachelor's degree (Business Administration) and build a career (I work as an Inside Sales - Key Account Manager and my team is responsible for our biggest customer). Currently looking for an appartment for myself to move out.

So... not really dating at all the last few years😅 and all the Covid stuff wasn't helpful either.

However, now that the foundations I set for myself are mostly done, I wanted to dip my toes into dating and eventually find a girlfriend.

Now, I work on myself to get rid of my excess body fat (I turned to heavy stress-eating during my studies), so I work out when I find the time after the office. I go swimming for 3 to 4 hours every Sunday, etc.

I also regularly go out partying with my siblings and friends, so I don't stay at home every weekend.

However, I have a problem.😅

When going out (especially during clubbing) I tend to get shy.

For example, when a girl locks eyes with me or smiles, I reflexively look away instead of, well, holding the contact and smiling back.

I also can't bring myself to approach girls because I start overthinking it.

Haven't tried Online-Dating yet, but from the stories my older sister and brother tell me, I'm not sure if that would be anything more than a waste of time.

I'm also not quite there with my own body, my BMI is around 26.6 currently.

I also only get shy in such "private" environments. In my professional one, I have no problems approaching people regardless of gender.

So it's not an inherent issue, "only" regarding to Dating.

So... any advice on how I could build up confidence and stop my overthinking?

Would appreciate honest responses.😊

Hello everyone, 😊

I'm not exactly sure if this is the correct subreddit, as I am not yet directly seeing someone, but rather working towards it.

Long story short:

I am male, 22 years old, and used the last 5 years since my Abitur to get a bachelor's degree (Business Administration) and build a career (I work as an Inside Sales - Key Account Manager and my team is responsible for our biggest customer). Currently looking for an appartment for myself to move out.

So... not really dating at all the last few years😅 and all the Covid stuff wasn't helpful either.

However, now that the foundations I set for myself are mostly done, I wanted to dip my toes into dating and eventually find a girlfriend.

Now, I work on myself to get rid of my excess body fat (I turned to heavy stress-eating during my studies), so I work out when I find the time after the office. I go swimming for 3 to 4 hours every Sunday, etc.

I also regularly go out partying with my siblings and friends, so I don't stay at home every weekend.

However, I have a problem.😅

When going out (especially during clubbing) I tend to get shy.

For example, when a girl locks eyes with me or smiles, I reflexively look away instead of, well, holding the contact and smiling back.

I also can't bring myself to approach girls because I start overthinking it.

Haven't tried Online-Dating yet, but from the stories my older sister and brother tell me, I'm not sure if that would be anything more than a waste of time.

I'm also not quite there with my own body, my BMI is around 26.6 currently.

I also only get shy in such "private" environments. In my professional one, I have no problems approaching people regardless of gender.

So it's not an inherent issue, "only" regarding to Dating.

So... any advice on how I could build up confidence and stop my overthinking?

Would appreciate honest responses.😊

Hello everyone, 😊

I'm not exactly sure if this is the correct subreddit, as I am not yet directly seeing someone, but rather working towards it.

Long story short:

I am male, 22 years old, and used the last 5 years since my Abitur to get a bachelor's degree (Business Administration) and build a career (I work as an Inside Sales - Key Account Manager and my team is responsible for our biggest customer). Currently looking for an appartment for myself to move out.

So... not really dating at all the last few years😅 and all the Covid stuff wasn't helpful either.

However, now that the foundations I set for myself are mostly done, I wanted to dip my toes into dating and eventually find a girlfriend.

Now, I work on myself to get rid of my excess body fat (I turned to heavy stress-eating during my studies), so I work out when I find the time after the office. I go swimming for 3 to 4 hours every Sunday, etc.

I also regularly go out partying with my siblings and friends, so I don't stay at home every weekend.

However, I have a problem.😅

When going out (especially during clubbing) I tend to get shy.

For example, when a girl locks eyes with me or smiles, I reflexively look away instead of, well, holding the contact and smiling back.

I also can't bring myself to approach girls because I start overthinking it.

Haven't tried Online-Dating yet, but from the stories my older sister and brother tell me, I'm not sure if that would be anything more than a waste of time.

I'm also not quite there with my own body, my BMI is around 26.6 currently.

I also only get shy in such "private" environments. In my professional one, I have no problems approaching people regardless of gender.

So it's not an inherent issue, "only" regarding to Dating.

So... any advice on how I could build up confidence and stop my overthinking?

Would appreciate honest responses.😊