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Am I 18M being controlling by feeling uncomfortable when my girlfriend 19F compliments people I hate
Pretty much the title, but I'll give a bit more of context.
Yesterday I was feeling pretty mad at a guy (human jealousy, don't judge me) since he's not much better than me but he got into my dream institute.
So I was basically ranting to my girlfriend regarding that, just spewing stuff like oh he's oversmart and this and that, he doesn't know what he's talking about.
Now she says, "but he got into this institute tho". Um okay I didn't get ragebaited even by that but then she says oh he has a nice hairstyle. This is the hairstyle I ask you to do, this is the IT hairstyle.
Like really? I had longer hair about a month ago but due to daily issues with my family I had to make it shorter and she had made it clear then that she hated my haircut and even though that made me a bit insecure, I took it like that, because fair enough ig.
But now this? I felt really bad and just went silent.
After all of this she said you are using your feelings to control me silently. You say you love me but you're not letting me be myself.
I felt really bad but I want to know if I'm wrong over here. If you feel like this is too much of my side, you can ask for details in the comments I'll try to give you more context to understand the issue better.
How do I earn by teaching or any skill without my parents knowing
So I have a 98% in 12th and 95.8% in 10th. My CUET score is 889 and I got a single digit rank in Jadavpur University BA Economics and Presidency University B.Sc. Statistics. On the basis of merit, I got St. Xavier's College BA Economics, Ashutosh College Statistics and so on.
Finally, my parents agreed to send me to Kalyani University (they wanted me to go to RKM, I refused, not eating, etc etc)
Now, I don't wanna be in Kalyani University all my youth so I really need some money so that atleast I have some leverage on them next year.
So can I teach? Is there something else I can do online? I'll do anything that still lets me study for CMI, which is my actual goal.
Also, my parents can't know because then they'll do anything to stop it. They'll be like we are spending so much so that you can study and you're wasting your time for pocket money and all.
What should I do?
Missed the World Cup match last night
Wanna watch the replay of France vs England
Any idea where I can do so?
My father told me to go out because he was mad at me so I need a library to go to
He wants me to go to Kalyani University (which I don't like)
I want to go to Jadavpur University (which is 65 kilometres away)
So till the day of admission he wants me to travel to Jadavpur and stay there till 5:30 and then come back.
Obviously aj Jadavpur bondho.
So I need a library.
Calcutta University er library ba National Library, kothao amay dhuke kono akta boi niye porte debe? Beronor somoy taray boi ante bhule gechi.
You can suggest other libraries in Kolkata too, as I'm at Sealdah now and will be for some time.
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Jadavpur University Economics vs Presidency University Statistics
I wanna study in one of these but college life kinda matters to me just a bit lesser than career as well so what should I go for?
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Presidency Stat Chances
My GMR is 30-40
What are my chances of getting in, since the seats for UR are only 15
My parents aren't even letting me 18 M make my own life decisions
I passed Class 12 this year with 98%. Now, I had dreams, like many people do, of going to a top ranked college and well I don't know, it is still unbelievable to me that I wouldn't be going anywhere this year atleast.
Initially, I had the dream of going to Princeton University in New Jersey, USA but well I couldn't, obviously. I gave 10 SAT mocks online scoring 1550+ in all but when it actually came to the registration I couldn't ask my father for the 16,000 or so it takes to register. I couldn't ask them to send me to the US and take upon them the immaculate financial burden. I was just unlucky and I had to make my peace with it.
Then, I thought maybe I could go to a cheaper place abroad, maybe Germany, maybe Belgium. The living costs of Germany were through the roof and I learnt that they can't afford it halfway through learning German for it. I left that dream as well.
Then, I thought at least I'll go to Delhi University and study there. Their fees aren't THAT high and I can surely go and study there, and they are one of the best in the country, but my father is unwilling to spend even that amount for hostels and everything (since my residence is in Kolkata). Now I don't know whether I should blame them but I really really wanted to go somewhere and now it is all gone. I gave CUET and considering my raw score, unless normalisation completely ruins me, I will get BA Economics without breaking a sweat but both my parents are still not convinced.
Finally, I said, let me go to the best college in the state, in an almost dejected state, that just let me go to Jadavpur University. They refused that as well because it's still a bit far and undertaking such a huge journey by train every day would be bad for my academics and what not.
After rejecting all my plans for my future, my parents brought out the one exam I couldn't crack in 2026, the CMI exam, which I had been preparing for, since 2024. Now, I missed the cutoff by one mark and they keep saying that I couldn't do it because I was "lazy" and "didn't study 16 hours for even a month before the exam" and "indisciplined" because of which I couldn't crack it.
Now, being blamed for my failures day and night and having exhausted all my dreams, I just no longer feel okay. I feel terrible, I am depressed, nothing feels very right anymore.
If I'm alive, it's because of my girlfriend who keeps supporting me but for how long? For how long? I haven't been able to do anything for her in some time and I don't think I can in the near future.
Now they want me to go to a Tier 2 residential college because they think it's "disciplined" and all.
I'm just done with my life I'm not gonna lie.
My parents are crushing all my dreams one by one
I passed Class 12 this year with 98%. Now, I had dreams, like many people do, of going to a top ranked college and well I don't know, it is still unbelievable to me that I wouldn't be going anywhere this year atleast.
Initially, I had the dream of going to Princeton University in New Jersey, USA but well I couldn't, obviously. I gave 10 SAT mocks online scoring 1550+ in all but when it actually came to the registration I couldn't ask my father for the 16,000 or so it takes to register. I couldn't ask them to send me to the US and take upon them the immaculate financial burden. I was just unlucky and I had to make my peace with it.
Then, I thought maybe I could go to a cheaper place abroad, maybe Germany, maybe Belgium. The living costs of Germany were through the roof and I learnt that they can't afford it halfway through learning German for it. I left that dream as well.
Then, I thought at least I'll go to Delhi University and study there. Their fees aren't THAT high and I can surely go and study there, and they are one of the best in the country, but my father is unwilling to spend even that amount for hostels and everything (since my residence is in Kolkata). Now I don't know whether I should blame them but I really really wanted to go somewhere and now it is all gone. I gave CUET and considering my raw score, unless normalisation completely ruins me, I will get BA Economics without breaking a sweat but both my parents are still not convinced.
Finally, I said, let me go to the best college in the state, in an almost dejected state, that just let me go to Jadavpur University. They refused that as well because it's still a bit far and undertaking such a huge journey by train every day would be bad for my academics and what not.
After rejecting all my plans for my future, my parents brought out the one exam I couldn't crack in 2026, the CMI exam, which I had been preparing for, since 2024. Now, I missed the cutoff by one mark and they keep saying that I couldn't do it because I was "lazy" and "didn't study 16 hours for even a month before the exam" and "indisciplined" because of which I couldn't crack it.
Now, being blamed for my failures day and night and having exhausted all my dreams, I just no longer feel okay. I feel terrible, I am depressed, nothing feels very right anymore.
If I'm alive, it's because of my girlfriend who keeps supporting me but for how long? For how long? I haven't been able to do anything for her in some time and I don't think I can in the near future.
Now they want me to go to a Tier 2 residential college because they think it's "disciplined" and all.
I'm just done with my life I'm not gonna lie.
My parents (55M and 45F) aren't even letting me 18M make my own life decisions
I passed Class 12 this year with 98%. Now, I had dreams, like many people do, of going to a top ranked college and well I don't know, it is still unbelievable to me that I wouldn't be going anywhere this year atleast.
Initially, I had the dream of going to Princeton University in New Jersey, USA but well I couldn't, obviously. I gave 10 SAT mocks online scoring 1550+ in all but when it actually came to the registration I couldn't ask my father for the 16,000 or so it takes to register. I couldn't ask them to send me to the US and take upon them the immaculate financial burden. I was just unlucky and I had to make my peace with it.
Then, I thought maybe I could go to a cheaper place abroad, maybe Germany, maybe Belgium. The living costs of Germany were through the roof and I learnt that they can't afford it halfway through learning German for it. I left that dream as well.
Then, I thought at least I'll go to Delhi University and study there. Their fees aren't THAT high and I can surely go and study there, and they are one of the best in the country, but my father is unwilling to spend even that amount for hostels and everything (since my residence is in Kolkata). Now I don't know whether I should blame them but I really really wanted to go somewhere and now it is all gone. I gave CUET and considering my raw score, unless normalisation completely ruins me, I will get BA Economics without breaking a sweat but both my parents are still not convinced.
Finally, I said, let me go to the best college in the state, in an almost dejected state, that just let me go to Jadavpur University. They refused that as well because it's still a bit far and undertaking such a huge journey by train every day would be bad for my academics and what not.
After rejecting all my plans for my future, my parents brought out the one exam I couldn't crack in 2026, the CMI exam, which I had been preparing for, since 2024. Now, I missed the cutoff by one mark and they keep saying that I couldn't do it because I was "lazy" and "didn't study 16 hours for even a month before the exam" and "indisciplined" because of which I couldn't crack it.
Now, being blamed for my failures day and night and having exhausted all my dreams, I just no longer feel okay. I feel terrible, I am depressed, nothing feels very right anymore.
If I'm alive, it's because of my girlfriend who keeps supporting me but for how long? For how long? I haven't been able to do anything for her in some time and I don't think I can in the near future.
Now they want me to go to a Tier 2 residential college because they think it's "disciplined" and all.
I'm just done with my life I'm not gonna lie.
Accomodation near the university
Any proper accomodation (1RK/PG/hostel) near the university for a first year student.
I don't really wanna be cramped in a room so I prefer a 1RK but the other two options will be fine as well.