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Was bored at work and recorded this.

'Experimental' it seems Lol :p

May sound tone-deaf, and at the expense of being downvoted or bashed I'm asking this question - Is attachment towards a fetus a real thing?

I come across so many stories of Indian women in pathetic situation post marriage and somehow they get pregnant. But why? why is it even happening? No, these are not stories of under privileged women, but working urban ones. Why don't they abort the fetus right in the beginning?

I know marital rape induced pregnancy happens, but India also has laws where the woman doesn't need to take consent from their spouse to abort the fetus right? Makes me wonder why would someone even want their entire life to be trapped.

I just read a reddit post, where a very young woman in 20s married a spine-less, useless husband, who has lied, financially abused, has huge unpaid loans which was not disclosed before marriage, abusive In-laws, and above anything - it was a high risk pregnancy. I mean, why??

She could have aborted the baby, divorced his ass and could have moved on. After all she was just in her 20s. Yet, chose to be a single mother. I may sound very unempathetic, tone deaf, excuse me. But life in India as a single mother isn't easy either. why would someone want to keep a fetus given by a loser husband?

On the other hand, I've also heard stories of women hating their own child, because they remind them of their ex. Usually, as a burst out, due to the frustration of being a single mom, while the Ex-husband could move on easily. I mean, what even? you could have just aborted the fetus.

Am I wrong to think so? I genuinely don't feel so. I feel kids are a trap, as in - once you have them, you have to strive to give the best for them, thereby sacrificing your life. At least till they become adults. And this sacrifice is not painful, if you have a supportive and a loving spouse beside you. What's even the point of struggling all your life, just because you got pregnant by a loser?

why is moving on difficult? Am I wrong to think like this?

I hate that, once again, my dad was right when he warned me about men.

Growing up, my father used to advise me a lot about men: to stay away, to be vigilant, to be aware, and not to get carried away by any "sweet talks" and everything.

I used to cringe hearing those. I never took them seriously, but it somehow stayed in my mind, as he used to say the same thing almost every single day.

As I've grown up, unfortunately, I can see that he was very right. I used to think my father was just being an overprotective girl dad and that he was amplifying things - but nah!

I've had 3 clear instances.

A) He once warned me about a neighbor uncle. He literally told me not to talk to him. But my naive ass did, and he sexually abused me.

I WAS 7.

B) My father always told me not to get carried away by any "lovey-dovey" sweet talks or appreciation/compliments. And if anyone (any man) compliments you excessively, there's always something fishy.

And that turned out to be true too! Lol, maybe thanks to Dad. I remain unfazed by any compliments.

C)Third, this is in continuation of the above.

He had advised me not to take any gifts or accept any financial help. That nobody in the world gives out their hard-earned money for free, and there's always a hidden cost to it.

Boom! The infamous ₹370 biryani case popped up, and I thought about my dad's words throughout.

What made me write this down at 4 in the morning is -

Once again, my dearest father warned me about a man.

A fund manager. He told me not to give him my number or stay in touch. And, as usual, I thought my dad was overreacting.

The fund manager (M, late 40s) came home this morning, and I was discussing something with him. I was showing him a statement on my mobile, and that's when my dad moved out of sight, and this AH rubbed against my wrist. (He maintained physical distance throughout when my dad was present in the room.)

I brushed it off, thinking it was accidental. In the span of 5 minutes, he constantly did it on the pretext of seeing the data on my phone.

It went from accidental brushes to tapping my elbow and even a small pinch while wishing me the best for the future.

My dad left the living room 3 times during the whole episode, and the stark difference in his behavior when my father was present and when he wasn't was astonishing.

The same guy respected my personal space and took the mobile from me to see the data instead of brushing against me.

So, once again, my dad and his instincts won.

My conviction lost.

Have been trying to learn the Veena interlude sargam and Aakar of Phir se from Dhurandhar 2 and God damn its very tough.

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Did anyone from Reddit community learnt those sargams? How can train my voice to sing super fast? I guess its even more speeder than 3x. I believe so.

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My go to action is to break the sargams and learn it in 1x, and later gradually increase the speed. But as I'm not an experienced singer Its taking me so much time.

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Are there any specific exercises to sing fast and yet in line with shruti. Any inputs are appreciated. Thank you!

Food for thought: Have you ever introspected on what your red flags are, or which habits or ideologies of yours might be perceived as red flags?

Hi, Namaskaram!

I’m a newly appointed moderator of r/tambrahm, and I tried making a few changes around the subreddit.

We’ve updated the banner and icon (lmk how they're), added user flairs (please go pick yours), and introduced multiple post flairs for dedicated discussions and easier navigation.

The goal is for this subreddit to become an all-in-one space for Tambrahms to hang out and share experiences.

You can:
• Post your Diwali/Pongal fits under Fashion & OOTD
• Share your art, music, photography, or creative work
• Use the R4R (Redditor-for-Redditor) flair to find friends/partners, but please don’t turn the subreddit into just another dating app. PLEASE!
• Got any controversial opinions? Shoot them, we can have healthy discussions.
• Learn about traditions, ask endless “why” questions, & understand the meaning behind
• Participate in fun contests and community events as the subreddit grows.

Only non-negotiable is - you've got to be kind and respectful, even if the values don't align. Also, report any inappropriate posts, comments, or DMs you come across so we can keep the space safe.

This subreddit is NOT a place to promote caste superiority, discrimination, or hatred towards any community. We believe everyone deserves equal dignity and respect. r/tambrahm exists as a friendly space for people with shared backgrounds.

Mates, we need more interaction for the community to grow, so please engage and spread the word about the subreddit. Promoting niche communities through other subreddits is difficult for obvious reasons, so word of mouth is the best way to go.

Cheers.

Yes! 03.05.2016 to 03.05.2026 - it’s been 10 years! Why is this not being celebrated?

Despite the general bashing this subreddit has got in the Indian Reddit space, this OG subreddit for Indian women is my all-time favorite subreddit. The OG for a reason!

Reddit has always been a male-dominated space, with substantially more male users and thereby more opinions which fit them, and this is the reason I love having women-only spaces.

This very day, we need to thank the subreddit’s moderators for the thankless job they have been doing. With the amount of hate the subreddit gets in general, I’m sure they must have been subjected to hate on a personal level too, and despite all this, nobody backed off and has kept the show running. Thank you! < 3

Any plans on how we can celebrate this feat? Share how you discovered this subreddit, what you like about this space, and any suggestions to make it even better?

P.s - Am not sure what post flair to choose, hence went with this. Maybe its time to have a new flair where we can share happy and success stories? A flair just for celebration?

Cheers to 10 years of r/TwoXIndia 🤍

Are there any disciples of Ms. Vasanthi Gopalan over here? Looks like she's quite famous in south Chennai, as far as I heard.

Did anyone learnt Music directly under her? Heard she's quite stern..

Any idea on how much do they charge?