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I recently learned about the historical origin of the practice where the bride sits on her father’s lap during kanyadanam, and it’s really changed how I view it.
From what I understand, this custom is believed to date back to very ancient times when girls were sometimes married off as children. In that context, the father took his child in his lap for the duration of the ceremony. Knowing this history, I personally find it difficult to see the practice in the same light anymore.
I’m curious if there are any women here who, because of this (or for any other reason—please do share), decided not to sit on their father’s lap during their kanyadanam. If so, how did you approach the conversation with your family, and what did you do instead?
u/Big-Brocoli — 1 day ago