u/Fragrant-Meat-972

I dropped my online friends a couple months ago. I decided to do this because I felt like some of them were crossing the line with my privacy boundaries, and because I felt like I was starting to talk like them irl (which included saying offensive or insensitive things) and I couldn't see the point in continuing the "friendships" if they were just causing me to feel worse than before. Don't get me wrong, of course I appreciated what we had, in fact until now I miss the good times we had and still think of them when something reminds me of them. But ultimately I thought I could do better and be more present in my life away from the internet. We had one last conversation where I explained how I felt and that I was going to just not be online anymore, and turns out some of them didn't even really care about me that much when I logged back into the account one last time, so I saw some of them talking nastily about me on the groupchat.

But even when I thought I had ended things and was starting this new period of my life where I wouldn't feel the need to be dependent on online friends, like I had for almost half of my life, I realised I'm genuinely lonely. I have 2 friends who I don't even speak to that much. And even when I do try to make new friends, such as going to events / socials at my university, talking to more people on my course, etc. nothing much happens because everyone's already found their group of people. All this time I spent on the internet with people I barely know, I feel like it's a reason why I fell behind socially.

And now it's the summer break, I've been seeing old classmates posting all these fun trips, or group hangouts, or friends they made at uni, and it just made me question what's wrong with me. As in, why couldn't I make friends at uni? Why do I find it so hard to maintain close friendships irl? Why did I have to be so painfully socially awkward? I've never had a boyfriend in my life either, so I find it hard to imagine a life where I'm not alone if I can't even maintain friendships, let alone a romantic relationship.

Sorry if it seems stupid that I'm asking this on reddit but it just feels embarrassing to ask anyone I know irl.

Im a 2nd year student and I retook an exam that I failed a couple weeks ago and I'm still waiting on the results. I'm really nervous that I've messed it up again somehow, despite genuinely giving it my all this time.

I'm not sure what I'd do if I did fail this exam again. Would I have to really retake the year like I've heard? I just feel like if I did fail it again then I'm just beyond help.

If anyone has gone through this or knows about the process, your advice would be super appreciated

I had a dream a couple years ago that I was dancing and giggling with a guy that I was really into at a party, possibly a boyfriend, I'm not really sure, but there was definitely some romantic interest involved. I still remember vaguely how he looked.

Fast forward to September of last year, I went clubbing with a friend for the first time (irl, and not gonna lie, it wasn't really my thing lol) but there was this one guy in particular who came up to me, and my friend said he was staring at me and I didn't even realise. When I did see him, he came up to me, asked my name, shook my hand, and he was SO handsome and tall that it got me so nervous I could barely say anything that I reckon the reason he walked away with just a friendly smile was because I probably looked like I was freaking out (and because I was telling my friend he was so handsome that I was freaking out). He was the only guy who approached me who wasn't persistently weird that night. I still regret that moment so much because I think of the countless different ways I could have talked to him, even if it led to nothing, but I let my nerves get the best of me and I couldn't even act like a decent human being.

And now, having just woken up from another dream where I meet a different guy in some sort of alternate reality, I just realised that guy from years ago in my dream, looked exactly like the guy I met at that club. I keep having dreams of meeting a potential boyfriend in some alternate world, and then waking up disappointed to find out that that isn't my reality. So for a dream wayyy back in the past to turn out to be what could have been, is making me feel sorta frustrated lol.

Anyways, I probably sound like a crazy person, but does this have any meaning? I'm not even sure what to take from this, spiritually or practically or whatever. And I'm not really a spiritual or religious person but this whole thing has just weirded me out a little.

I want to lose some of the fat on my body so that I can feel more confident in my clothes, but I don't know how to achieve this sustainably. I'm a 4'11 woman and 52kg at the moment, but ideally I'd like to go down to 45kg.

For context, I gained quite a bit of weight since I first got my period as a teen and then went through some depressive episodes that also contributed to my weight gain. Now that I'm 20 and starting to somewhat recover, I went down from 54kg to 49kg around the period that I had to fully live by myself at college. I had built the habits of going through home workout videos 3-4 times a week and eating less rice at night. Naturally, I had to walk more often too. I had become slightly thinner than before, but I didn't really look "fit" if you get what I mean.

But my old habits seem to be coming back now that I'm in my hometown more often. I've been exercising less now that I'm back to working rather than just studying, and I've probably resorted back to overeating in compensation for the stress and fatigue at work. It's pretty much just work, eat, or lay around when there's nothing else to do at home. I've gone back up to 52kg since I came back in May.

When I read advice online on how to lose weight, it's always go on a calorie deficit, get your steps in, and do weight training. But how do you maintain this when life actually gets real without feeling so fatigued? And what weight training can I start out with at home if I've never done any before?

Advice or even your own experiences would be helpful!!!

Every guy I know, whether it be a friend, a family member, a guy that's potentially pursuing their interest in me, a guy I'm interested in etc... they all are so bad at sending reels. They send reels that I've already clearly liked or stuff that happened months ago. Sometimes they'll send reels I'm not even interested in/have nothing to do with me. Some reels they send aren't even my humor.

I remember seeing a post that said something along the lines of women sending reels that remind them of the other person or something the other person would care about, whilst men just send whatever they themselves like. Not a fan of stereotypes but unfortunately in my case I think that's true. And it's somewhat upsetting when it is a guy I sort of liked and then I find out his humor is unattractive haha

Anyway I know it's not that serious, but I just thought it was a funny/minor annoyance that I've noticed for the past few years.

I only really have 2 friends (as in friends that I actually spend time with, not just acquaintances I guess). One of them I just don't really see as often anymore so that makes sense, but the other friend I hung out with regularly at college for the past two years. I don't know if it's because I'm seeming too overbearing or something..? Like, we used to just talk about anything really. But ever since she started talking to a new SO it feels like I'm not needed anymore. It's like I'm the only one starting conversations nowadays. Sometimes I don't even hear a reply, just left on read or not read at all. But I'm also wondering if maybe there's a reason I barely have any friends / find it so hard to maintain friendships.
Idk I'm just trying to wrap my head around things.

I'm a 1st year student that's been on clinical placement a few months throughout this year. Naturally, I'm a quiet and shy person and I've been trying to come out of my shell as time has gone on and seem less reserved since it's become a reoccurring critique of staff in my feedback. And just when I thought I was starting to sort out my attitude, another issue pops up.

I keep saying "ok" to everything and sometimes I feel like an idiot for not questioning things before I agree to them. Sometimes I'll be asked to run errands, like passing on messages/demands between staff that feel awkward, sometimes I'll be told to do something during the x-ray that turns out to be wrong and that I should have questioned before doing it, sometimes the other students will take over the x-ray that I was meant to do and I don't know what to say without seeming argumentative... I mean, the list can go on, but a lot of the times I just feel like a stupid kid that doesn't know what they're meant to do or meant to say.

I don't really know where I'm going with this. I don't even know what to do since it just feels like a me skill issue. But with clinical placement coming up again, I want to fix it by the time I'm there, since I know I can't be like this forever but I don't know how I'm meant to fix it as a student who has little authority.

I have a friend (let's call her Friend A) that I've been friends with for several years and now that I've moved away I only get to see her every few months every time I come back to visit my hometown. But nowadays she never posts pictures of us together.

She has another friend (Friend B) that we both met during our time in college, and I used to be friends with Friend B too until we fell out, and Friend A is well aware of this. With Friend B, she always posts their pictures together almost immediately.

I don't know what to think of it. Every time we're together, it's fun and I don't see anything wrong. Like, maybe it feels a little awkward when we take photos together, but the photos come out decently and she even takes her own, which come out nicely too. She never sends those to me either even when I ask for them since they're on a separate digicam.

Throughout my life, I've never really been someone's "favorite" friend - that I can accept. But when I see friends treat other friends differently from me, it just makes me feel like something's wrong with me and I don't know what. A lot of the times it feels like friends eventually become ashamed of being friends with me, until they eventually distance themselves. I'm probably being dramatic idk, I just can't get my head around it.

I've been using Nivea mattifying shine control spf 50, and while it's less greasy than other sunscreens that I've used, it makes my skin feel like it stings.

I'm guessing my skin doesn't like the alcohol in it? And just as a side note, I also don't buy products with niacinamide in them as it breaks me out.

Please recommend products that have a mattifying / semi-mattifying effect, for oily/sensitive skin, and around £10!

I'm considering House of Hur Weightless Sun Fluid because it seems to fit this criteria, but I'd like to know if there are downsides to this product, or if there are better products out there.