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I stayed present, kind and boundaried and eventually realised I couldn’t keep shrinking myself to maintain the connection.

I’ve noticed a pattern: the relationship felt meaningful and destabilising for them at the same time. It’s left me wondering if some relationships function more as a turning point or mirror for one person rather than something that can actually be sustained.

If you’ve been on either side of this (the one who stayed grounded, or the one who left) I’d love to hear how it played out over time and how you made sense of it later.

Not looking for blame or diagnoses, just real experiences.

I’m curious about anyone else’s lived experiences.

I was in a relationship that ended not because of a big conflict or lack of care, but because intimacy and being truly seen seemed to overwhelm my ex. I stayed present, kind and boundaried and eventually realised I couldn’t keep shrinking myself to maintain the connection. Them ghosting and reappearing.

Since the breakup I’ve noticed a pattern: the relationship felt meaningful and destabilising for them at the same time. It’s left me wondering if some relationships function more as a turning point or mirror for one person rather than something that can actually be sustained.

If you’ve been on either side of this (the one who stayed grounded, or the one who left) I’d love to hear how it played out over time and how you made sense of it later.

Not looking for blame or diagnoses, just real experiences.

I’m curious about anyone else’s lived experiences.

I was in a relationship that ended not because of a big conflict or lack of care, but because intimacy and being truly seen seemed to overwhelm my ex. I stayed present, kind and boundaried and eventually realised I couldn’t keep shrinking myself to maintain the connection.

Since the breakup I’ve noticed a pattern: the relationship felt meaningful and destabilising for them at the same time. It’s left me wondering if some relationships function more as a turning point or mirror for one person rather than something that can actually be sustained.

If you’ve been on either side of this (the one who stayed grounded, or the one who left) I’d love to hear how it played out over time and how you made sense of it later.

Not looking for blame or diagnoses, just real experiences.

I am part of a few midlife crisis support groups on Facebook and I see a lot people referring to their MLC spouse and/or partner as avoidant.

Jacinto Arderns documentary got me thinking.

I’d like to understand the perspective of someone who may have immediately jumped into another relationship straight after a breakup.

Did you regret it? Did it actually help you to move on or did it make it worse? Did it last? Would love to hear what some people say.

I’d like to understand the perspective of someone who may have immediately jumped into another relationship straight after a breakup.

Did you regret it? Did it actually help you to move on or did it make it worse? Did it last? Would love to hear what some people say.

I’d like to understand the perspective of someone who may have immediately jumped into another relationship straight after a breakup.

Did you regret it? Did it actually help you to move on or did it make it worse? Did it last? Would love to hear what some people say.