u/Front-Policy2549

Hi! I’m at around A1 level and looking for an experienced teacher for regular lessons. What I’m after:

- Structured lessons, ideally following the MagyarOK textbooks, with homework between sessions
- Two 1.5-hour lessons per week, on Tuesdays and Thursdays
- A fixed recurring slot starting in September

If this is how you teach (or you can recommend someone), please drop a comment or DM

When I got pregnant she was thrilled. She even forced her way into visiting me at the hospital against my wishes. I think she has this romantic fantasy of being a grandma, all the big beautiful moments without any of the actual work or trust it takes to get there.

Our baby was born small (IUGR), so for the first two months we kept things to short visits only while we figured out life as first time parents. At the 2 month checkup, our doctor told us that anyone close to the baby should be vaccinated against whooping cough, which can be deadly for infants. I asked my mom right away to get the shot.

Baby is now 3.5 months old. Mom is still not vaccinated. Her reasons are a rotating mix of: she's anti-vax since covid, she suddenly has a fear of needles I've never once heard about in my life, she doesn't have time (she works part time), and she's "not sure she'd even be granted access to the baby" if she got it.

I've told her repeatedly that I desperately need help and I'm just waiting on her. She could still visit and hang out, just not hold the baby. She'd bring a meal maybe once every two weeks, which was nice, but that was it.

So I hired a nanny, because clearly this was going nowhere. She was hurt by that. I reassured her she can absolutely still babysit, she just needs the vaccine and to actually show up regularly.

A week later, one day before her vaccine appointment, I mentioned my MIL was flying in from abroad and staying a week. For context, my MIL has helped me about ten times more than my own mother despite living in another country. Mom was hurt by this too, but instead of saying so, she sent dramatic texts like "I'm not feeling well" and "I'm glad you have good family."

I called her and asked directly what was wrong. She said she needs distance from us and because she is feeling unwell, she will not be getting the vaccine. Her reasons, in order:

• I never call (I send daily photos, always pick up, and do call sometimes, I've just never been a phone person)
• I asked her to get vaccinated over text
• She couldn't hug me on my birthday because she wasn't vaccinated
• I don't take the baby to the lake (I take her to the forest every morning, and evenings when it's not too hot. There was literally a heatwave)
• She's "not allowed to say what she wants" (she has repeated the same criticisms a hundred times and I finally told her I'll parent the way I think is best)
• I hired a nanny (again: she can still do baby care, she just has to get vaccinated and actually come)

I'm deeply hurt that she communicates this badly and needs "distance" from me and her granddaughter during the most vulnerable time of my life. It's bringing back all the powerlessness I felt as a teenager. I'm looking for a therapist but finding one covered by insurance here is hard.

I keep reaching out even after that conversation, but the rage and sadness are piling up. From where I stand, if anyone has the right to be angry, it's me. I've gotten almost no support, and on top of that I'm constantly managing her erratic emotions like she's the one who just had a baby.

I want my daughter to have a grandmother. But I am this close to telling her to fuck off.

My mom was really pushy to come see me in the hospital after I initially asked them not to come but then gave in. After that she was pretty silent and has helped me out with the occasional meal and a bit of house chores (3-4 times in 3 months).

At the same time she is constantly “hurt” because of this or the other. I don’t have time and energy to manage her emotions in this season of my life.

I asked her to get vaccinated for whooping cough. It’s been over a month (a third of my child’s life) and she still hasn’t done it.

I don’t want to cut ties cause that will just create more drama. Is there a way to set boundaries? How can I detatch emotionally and focus on my family?

For context we are in Europe and my oldest daughter’s name is Teodora.

Which of these do you like?

Ida (ee-da)
Willa
Isla
Alma
Eleanor
Vilma

Also if you get the vibe of names I like, and have other suggestions, please let me know!

My husband speaks the community language with our baby, and I speak English with her even though it’s not my native tongue. It’s simply the language I feel most comfortable in, as I don’t have a clear native language (long story). That said, I do speak German at a native level, and I’d love for her to pick that up too.

My plan is to stick with English as my primary language with her for the majority of day-to-day interaction. But I don’t want German to fall away entirely.

How could I tie in German? My idea was to read her German books and sing German songs. Will that be enough?

Edit: the goal would be for her to be able to speak and understand the language, my mom would also be speaking German to her although she lives abroad. She will eventually go to bilingual school (community language + German)

My 7-week-old falls asleep nursing after about 10-20 minutes, making it really hard to know if she’s actually full. It’s manageable in the morning when my supply is high, but gets tricky as the day goes on.

When did things click for you. Did your baby naturally become a more alert, efficient feeder at some point? When did it generally improve?

I’m 7w postpartum and so far have been really liking my EP journey. It’s my first baby, so I really have nothing to compare it to. But I always hear that BF is easier longterm.

My pros:

- I can feed her on an exact schedule
- I have data and assurance
- she eats super efficiently every 3h
- she has no witching hour
- my husband can partake
- I can leave and go out and about

Cons:
- when she increases her demand, I have to pump 6-7 times for multiple days, it’s stressful. Then i can usually go back to 4-5 to maintain.

Did anyone find it relatively easy to pump longterm? Or is it like a marathon for everyone?