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Lol. Just lol. I told him if he wanted that then he should have worn a condom or got his dick snipped. I haven't been alone or had a break since our son was born.

Keep in mind, he literally has been sitting at his computer for roughly 3 hours. Since coming home from work all he's done is play with our son while I cooked for about an hour, then I resumed baby care, got him to bed, and cleaned up. I don't mind because I'm home with the baby all day, but I'm kind of enraged that he thinks he can just hole away in his computer room all night and not be interacted with, because getting to sit on your ass apparently isn't enough. It's also just an unreasonable fucking request when you have a baby.

He said this because I told him to get off of this one video game that he rages at whenever he plays (punching shit etc). Then he complained that I nag him, take up all of his free time and that he doesn't even like me. Keep in mind, this man also has gone out the last 3 nights with friends.

He's just mad he's not unemployed any more and I'm not paying his way anymore, like I did for over a year before I gave birth 😂 yeah, now you have a big boy job and don't get to sit on your ass all day while I do everything. Yeah, you don't get to sit and play videogames for 8 hours while I work. Poor you!

No mention of why Lorelai is their only child comes up in the show, but I've personally always wondered why.

They definitely had the means, to provide for them and have hired nannies as help if they were worried about the work load. It seems like having several children would be something at least socially desirable? A lot of families like that would also want a son. I know people are one and done for many reasons. It's definitely not because of money. I don't think it's because they wanted to focus on Lorelai, they were not very attentive to begin with. I wonder if they struggled with fertility, or maybe after having Lorelai they realized they weren't great parents (but they struggle with that self awareness all throughout the show so I don't know about that either).

Whats your head canon?

He never gets up with the baby. He usually wakes up at 8 am and sleeps pretty good, but my ass was dragging this morning. I didn't ask him to get the baby but he just did. Aw, how sweet.

He changes him, dresses him, starts his bottle. But before baby finishes he gets me because he has to go to work.

I'm feeding baby and notice that the milk is leaving a greasy residue on the side. Huh, that's weird, I figured it might be the fat because sometimes defrosted milk looks greasy, but this was just pumped and refrigerated the night before. Baby finishes his bottle and I look over and notice the vitamin d supplement is out. I have 2 bottles, 1 with a built in dropper and one you need a syringe to draw up the fluid with. The one that needs a syringe I had not been using because I lost the syringe, and it's the one sitting out. So I'm wondering how tf my husband gave him his drops because surely he did not look for and find it. I text him, he says he used the syringe, it's in the sink. I look. He used a 5 ml medicine syringe (the one that came with is a .5 syringe that you fill to .25 ml). My husband "gave him 3/4 of the syringe because he was having trouble filling it up all the way" (because this big ass syringe doesn't even fit in the bottle).

So our child got probably 15x the daily dose of vitamin D. I call poison control, all is OK, she says it shouldnt hurt him and to just stop the vitamin d for a week so he can process the excess.

I get over it, even though I'm just baffled with the stupidity. It's only a 14 ml bottle. You have him a third of the bottle and couldn't even fit the syringe in and didn't think to ask me or that "hmm, something isn't right here"?? AND he THOUGHT baby was supposed to get a full syringe, but only gave him 3/4 because he couldn't draw it up, and was just ok giving our child below his recommended dose?? The commitment to the LAZINESS is what gets me.

Then I go to change baby's diaper after my husband. Y'all, his diaper is on fucking BACKWARDS. Yes my husband knows how to change a diaper and has done it correctly many times, he knows the side with the tabs goes in the back and he is supposed to stick them to the front. But occasionally for some reason, he has trouble telling which side is which and will put it on backwards, then subsequently bitch about how confusing diapers are and how he hates changing them. So instead of just repositioning the diaper, he puts it on backwards. It was fucking falling off of him and loose, I'm surprised it didn't leak.

I know none of these are a big deal, but just the laziness of it ENRAGES me. Any time I ask him to do anything something on par with this happens. And what's funny is, I didn't ask! If you're not gonna do it right, why did you offer! I try so hard not to let it bother me but I just can't! He's just so committed to being so lazy and stupid it drives me fucking insane!!! I just can NOT LET IT GO! It eats and eats and eats at me because how can you be so lazy and dumb!

I will be having to return to work at 4 months postpartum and I'm really struggling with it. He will be looked after by relatives of mine available and my husband. I haven't been away from him more than 2 or 3 hours since he was born, and I'm so scared. I'm scared he won't love me as much. I'm scared no one will take care of him as good as I would. I'm scared of missing him grow up. Unfortunately I don't have a choice but to return to work, but I feel so sick and leaving him feels like the most unnatural thing I will ever have to do. My heart is just crushed and it feels so unfair.

Look, she shouldn't have done it. But I can never get over the sexism of placing so much blame on the "other woman".

The only person with an obligation to Lindsay was Dean. Dean stood up on that altar and made vows to her, not Rory. It seems in media (and real life) the other woman is always held to an equal or even higher standard than the married man she cheated with. But other men who sleep with married women are not nearly held to such a high standard. She was wrong, she is not without blame, but come on. People act like she is the Literal Devil and that this mistake from when she was still very young is evidence of her complete and utter moral bankruptcy. People make mistakes, especially when they're young. I think in terms of selfish and bad people, she's still pretty low on the list despite this 🤷‍♀️ real people are a whole lot messier.

Also, Dean literally led her to believe things were over/ending with Lindsay. Maybe she believed it because she wanted to, and maybe she would have done it anyway, but it was really shitty and manipulative of Dean.

No one told me my bits would smell like pennies!

If I put my baby's 4 inch crib mattress beside our 8 inch queen mattress on the floor, will the high difference be unsafe? Right now we bedshare in the queen but with dad it's very tight on space and I worry about him rolling off. I'm thinking of putting his crib mattress beside ours but worry that the height difference will be unsafe in case his face gets smooshed into the side of the queen? Should I try to elevate the crib mattress to the queen mattress with some sort of frame or sidecar situation? Or is that scenario unlikely? He is 12 weeks.

My 12 week old used to take bottles very well and preferred them to the boob, in fact it was really hard to get him back to nursing. We mostly used Dr browns, wide and narrow, and some mam bottles. I went like a month or so without giving any bottles because nursing was going so well and I didn't feel a need to.

Now when I try to give him a bottle, he struggles. I increased the nipple size because my letdown is very fast. He did a little better but not much better. I've tried the Dr browns (size 1 and 2) and mam he used to take. I tried Lansinoh medium flow nipples and evenflo slow flow. I tried pointing the nipple toward the roof of his mouth, sitting him up while he eats or holding him in a cradle. Ive tried fresh milk, frozen milk, warm milk, cold milk.

He seems disinterested, even when I know he's hungry, and he will often take the boob after I try the bottle. He doesn't completely refuse it but will often lose interest after 1.5 to 2 oz when I know he used to take 3 and takes 3 from the breast. He seems distracted, looks around, turns his head back and forth away from the bottle, etc. He struggles to keep suction on the bottle weirdly, that was not a problem before. It's not just clicking but completely popping off and losing suction. He does that at the boob occasionally too but not nearly as much when I give him a bottle (he has no oral ties and the LC said his latch looks good, fyi).

I don't know. What else could I try? Does he just need more practice to get good at it again.

And how did it happen? What was it like? How many feeds were you at per day before weaning? Did you know the last time you nursed it would be their last? How did you feel nursing beyond 1 year and when you weaned?