u/GoDavyGo

I was just looking up a business and reading reviews, and I couldn’t help but notice that all the 5 star and 1 star reviews were made over a year ago, some 5-6 years ago! I don’t think this is relevant to the business and how it operates today.

I don’t think 1 star or 5 star ratings are all that genuine anyways, even less so if they’re years old. There’s just no reason for me to see them and even less of a reason for it to count for or against them.

So I’ve got a bit of a weird one and I’d love some outside perspective.

I’ve put together a solution to a major issue where I work. Low cost, effective, a little outside the box, and exactly what we need. It’s fully written out, backed with data, implementation plan and everything. All it needs is to be pitched and it’ll probably get green lighted pretty fast.

Here’s the kicker though. I love my job, I’m good at it, I make good money and I’m genuinely happy where I’m at. For years there’s been pressure on me to move up but honestly I don’t see a lot of good reasons to! Everyone above me is miserable and they don’t make that much more than I do. I’m not naive enough to think I’d do it any better than them either. But because I haven’t moved up it’s bred a little resentment, some gossip, the occasional inconsideration. Not enough to really bother me but enough that I notice it. So delivering this idea would basically be a social win for me. A boost I could use but definitely don’t need. It might even reignite the push to promote me, which again, I do not want.

Now here’s the other side. There’s a guy I work with who is crazy smart, great work ethic, and hungry! He wants to move up and honestly he should. He’s the right person for it. If HE delivered this idea he’s a shoe in for a promotion he’s currently going for.

So I’m torn. If I pitch it myself, my only real reasons are pride and buying stock in a ladder I don’t even believe in. If I give it to him, it changes his career. But part of me wonders if I’m overthinking it, or if handing it off is somehow dishonest, or if I’d regret it later.

What would you do? Is there something I’m not seeing here?

TL;DR I have a ready to pitch solution to a big problem at work. Pitching it myself would only boost my social standing, which I don’t really need or want. A talented coworker who’s gunning for a promotion could deliver it instead and it would basically lock it in for him. Do I keep it or give it away?

So I’ve got a bit of a weird one and I’d love some outside perspective.

I’ve put together a solution to a major issue where I work. Low cost, effective, a little outside the box, and exactly what we need. It’s fully written out, backed with data, implementation plan and everything. All it needs is to be pitched and it’ll probably get green lighted pretty fast.

Here’s the kicker though. I love my job, I’m good at it, I make good money and I’m genuinely happy where I’m at. For years there’s been pressure on me to move up but honestly I don’t see a lot of good reasons to! Everyone above me is miserable and they don’t make that much more than I do. I’m not naive enough to think I’d do it any better than them either. But because I haven’t moved up it’s bred a little resentment, some gossip, the occasional inconsideration. Not enough to really bother me but enough that I notice it. So delivering this idea would basically be a social win for me. A boost I could use but definitely don’t need. It might even reignite the push to promote me, which again, I do not want.

Now here’s the other side. There’s a guy I work with who is crazy smart, great work ethic, and hungry! He wants to move up and honestly he should. He’s the right person for it. If HE delivered this idea he’s a shoe in for a promotion he’s currently going for.

So I’m torn. If I pitch it myself, my only real reasons are pride and buying stock in a ladder I don’t even believe in. If I give it to him, it changes his career. But part of me wonders if I’m overthinking it, or if handing it off is somehow dishonest, or if I’d regret it later.

What would you do? Is there something I’m not seeing here?

TL;DR: I have a ready to pitch solution to a big problem at work. Pitching it myself would only boost my social standing, which I don’t really need or want. A talented coworker who’s gunning for a promotion could deliver it instead and it would basically lock it in for him. Do I keep it or give it away?

My last pastor encouraged me to continue to tithe during my in between church phase. He advised me to open a tithing account and contribute my ten percent to it. And whenever the Lord put it on my heart, to use the money in the account to do His work. And what a blessing this has been! I’ve paid people’s rent, delivered meals, repaired cars, paid medical bills, and even bought some people their first Bibles. I’ve paid for travel expenses after an unexpected death, sponsored missions, paid for an ADA ramp into a woman’s home, donated to causes, and so many more random acts of kindness. I don’t ever ask for anything in return. I’m firm about not being publicly acknowledged for these things, and I always bring it back to Jesus. I’ve had some very powerful encounters with the Lord and my brothers and sisters doing this.

I know, like I know I have breath in my chest, that the Lord has put all of this on my heart. He has moved me. He has used me as His instrument.

The thing is, I don’t want to stop. even if I find another church. This isn’t pride or ego either. This is the Spirit. I find so much peace in service to God doing this. It has truly become part of how I worship. I know it’s going to be an issue when I find a new church. How do I broach this? Any guidance is welcome.

This isn’t a callout, it’s not a rant. It is something that needs to be said and this is the biggest audience I have.

I’m a volunteer coach for my son’s team. This is my first year coaching, they didn’t have a coach available, so me and a couple of the other dads jumped in the night before our first practice. I LOVED coaching these kids! They inspired the crap out of me! They made me fall in love with the game again!

Tonight was our last game and there was a disagreement at the end over the score. The refs called for OT and we sent our captains out, and the other coaches came onto the field and yelled at my players and the refs. The refs are TEENAGERS, by the way. I had to run out and confront them and basically tell them to grow up and let the kids play! It’s 3rd/4th grade! The stakes aren’t that high! I tell my kids every game that the number one rule is to have fun! it’s the only rule we can’t break! If they get five more minutes of play on their last game of the season, everyone wins!

After the coaches relented and we agreed to play, the parents from the other team came onto the field and accosted me and my players! I had to use my big voice to get them off the field! I told them they were acting worse than the kids and embarrassing themselves!

I’m pretty sure some of the parents were drinking too. And honestly, idc, you do you! But if you can’t handle your liquor at a kids’ sporting event, you have no business drinking in public!

I don’t care about our divisions! If we can’t be the example for the kids right in front of us, then what the hell are we even doing here?

I’m putting this out here for all of us! we need to do better. For our kids and for ourselves. At our kids’ events, let’s be kinder to each other. Let’s be patient with the volunteers who are out there doing their best. They’re not going to get it right every time. The goal is sportsmanship, exercise, healthy competition, and fun! Anything else is the wrong thing!

We’re millennials! Very few things have gone our way, we should know better than to be petulant tantrum-throwers when they don’t.

Please guys, I’m begging you, let’s be better than our parents at this. Let the kids play. Don’t take losses to heart or wins to your head.

I first noticed it watching Mission Impossible The Final Reckoning. It just rapid fired through scenes and story progression so fast I’m pretty sure I missed something.

Last night I watched ‘In The Grey’ and that movie moved crazy fast through the story. No downtime, very little travel scenes. An immense amount of time passed in the story without any acknowledgment.

Is this a Reel or TikTok thing that’s bled into cinema? Is this our fault? Are we no longer the target audience?

All open questions.

My wife and I have a shared bill account that we occasionally dip into for general spending, we both do it, just not often. We maintain separate accounts for just everyday expenses. Last month I was slammed at work and leaned on DoorDash more than I should have, unbeknownst to me I had DoorDash set up to come out of our shared account. When I reviewed our expenses I caught it but I also noticed she’s been hitting convenience stores! sometimes multiple times a day, occasionally near $50 a charge, nearly every day. It ended up being our second largest expense on what’s basically a bill account.

it’s not really a money problem. We both earn well, we have savings, good credit. It’s more of a logistics issue. She buys energy drinks, cigarettes, and sometimes vapes for coworkers who pay her back via Apple Pay or cash, so some of that spending isn’t even net negative. But retail convenience store prices for that volume add up fast.

We’ve actually solved this before, we’ve done Costco runs for her drinks and hit the smoke shop for bulk cigarettes, and when we stay on top of that it saves us a significant amount annually. Life just got busy and we fell off the system.

How do I bring this back up without it landing as “you’re spending too much”? I want it to feel like what it actually is, a household logistics conversation, not a financial intervention. I don’t want to start a fight but I need to address this. I’m also fully aware that I too over spent on this account. Do I even have a leg to stand on?

TL;DR — Found out my wife’s been hitting convenience stores almost daily on our shared bill account, sometimes multiple times a day. Want to revisit our bulk-buying system that’s saved us thousands before, but I accidentally overspent on the same account last month so I’m not sure I have the standing to bring it up. How do I have that conversation without it becoming a fight?

I was raised Catholic. As a young man I found a nondenominational church and have been walking that path for about 20 years. Over the years I’ve sporadically attended Catholic services with my dad and grandparents out of respect for them.

Tonight I took my dad and my kids out to dinner. Out of nowhere he asked why I never bring my kids to the local Immaculate Conception parish. I’d honestly never thought about it. We have our own church and we have a home there.

He got visibly upset and said it was very rude of me not to visit Catholic churches more often. I was taken aback. I told him we weren’t avoiding Catholic churches, we’re just not Catholic and have no interest in converting. If anything, not dragging my kids to mass felt like the respectful posture. I also mentioned that the few times I’ve attended Catholic services over the years and disclosed I was nondenominational, I was met with jeers.

He ended it with: we need to start attending Catholic mass so that we can know God. I didn’t press it. We moved on. But now I’m sitting with it and I’m honestly not sure what the conversation was actually about. We have a church. We know Jesus. We read scripture. No denominational badge required.

So I’m trying to unpack this and looking for honest perspective. Is there a specifically Catholic teaching he might be drawing on that I’m not tracking, something about the sacraments, the Eucharist, or apostolic succession that would make him feel my kids are genuinely missing something? Or is this more a family and cultural thing dressed up in theological language, where he wants his grandkids inside the tradition that shaped him? And for anyone who’s navigated this with a Catholic parent, did you find a way through that didn’t require either of you to budge on conviction?

I’m not looking to argue denominations. I’m just trying to understand my dad.