u/Gold-Speech1181

My first FA — I'm trying to navigate it. The conversation was after he started texting bids of connection. I was minimally replying. He asked what I had for dinner, I didn't see it and the next day he asked for his things back.

I set them under a tree like he asked, he then sent a ton of messages saying he didn't want to say goodbye forever. I sat we can sit down and talk in a neutral place — he focused on that word, IMO to get out of it.

I was exhausted of the circle argument. I could read between the lines that maybe his ego got bruised feeling that I implied he wasn't safe to be around.

My friend says I gave him too much and I handed him exactly what he wanted, a win. To feel like he wasn't a bad guy.

After the dust, I can see that too. I don't think I said "you're right" — but I can see how he can think that.

I've been debating with sending a follow up that says: I just don't feel it excuses choosing to get defensive to cancel instead — but I feel 16 hours later is too late to send.

Regardless, thank you always for the help organizing these thoughts.

It's been a month.

On my end, I needed the cheating habits to stop. No proof of physical but the messages and need for external validation, hiding and lying about it was not ok.

On his end is me being controlling, and the type of transparency I needed, even after break of trust happened and he apologized, was too much. But also the patterns remained the same.

I don't think he's not a bad person, but he's not a good partner, in my book, the only actual issue we had was his need to protect the connections to external validation and the lies I could see taking a toll on him too to maintain, it was painful to see, but his choice at the end of the day.

Is just no longer enough. And it ended up with him saying "we tried" and me taking that and running with it.

Lately he's been sending small bids of connection. I believe he misses me, or at least my friendship. We were great doing stuff together (outside betrayal).

I also know that he has the emotional maturity of an 8 year old. And shame a guilt paralyzes him... so it's hard for me to read what's going on. But is a an explanation not an excuse.

Does he really not get it? Does he get it and playing dumb? Does he want friendship? Does he get it and doesn't know how to fix it?

I figure I'd ask the input of people who had experiences before, my first FA. And I've been going through a lot of the motions.

TYIA.

Appearance over time in the US of Flock AI Mass Surveillance cameras, as tracked by people via the website deflock.org

Flock has connections with Palantir, and is dedicated to track everyone's daily life, movements, and associations. The PR from the company is that the cameras are just "car plate readers" but they have been spotted directly pointed at playgrounds, plazas, public bathrooms, and general areas where people congregate, and are known to use AI facial recognition and tracking.

Clip because her rant goes forever. Just like vilifying Guillermo for having the right to to be honest and say "no, I am not proud of her as the mother of child" and continues saying "woman can SK whatever they want with their bodies" — sure we can! But that doesn't mean that if we break consensus or our values are so corroded that thinking anybody but creeps would PROUD THAT THEIR WIFE OR MOTHER ARE DOING FLAT OUT PORN would be a proud of it is not misogyny but a difference in values — that the other party have the right to have feelings about. G set a boundary, never said "you can't do it". I wonder if Anthony did porn, and Ben was a girl, she'll be proud of the father of her child. 🙄

And this. ABUSE IS ABUSE! Just because he "is bigger" ...couples fight and it gets heated HOWEVER physically attacking someone and injuring them is violence! His size? WTF? In the America she so much loves, laying a finger on someone is assault... but scratching someone's face isn't because she's a woman and smaller? She's abusive, and she justifies it with "women's oppression" is disgusting. Women are still I pressed, yes.. but this ain't it.

And of course, she's the victim but she's telling you is not it. She had to insert the skit that gave her followers during Covid.

Move on and live your life. I wish I could see more of her making a life rather than reminiscing the times when she was skinnier, or more "successful in business", just be fucking better — instead of hoping your kid would be more time in day care so you can spent time whining about how things aren't perfect on your phone.

I am very curious to get some input. And I'd greatly appreciate your opinion. Got this at a side road flea market in the southwest. Came from Chile, original buyer did not want it, pass it on to the mom, she sold it at the flea market.

Thank you in advance

Maybe Manon's marriage reached that point, who knows, if so I hope it's fixed the right way. But with the "hate hype" she was feeding from lowering, it won't surprise me this is manufactured to stay relevant and get a ticket to the last resort.

I hope I'm wrong, and if I am... girl, fix your marriage, focus on your family, and don't post shit like that in social media for likes or sympathy.