u/Golden_Faux

“Yo whatsup” is the message I get from a friend after over a month of silence. Doesn’t even answer the question I left him before he ghosted me. Im exhausted just looking at this message genuinely at a loss for words to him.

I also don’t want to be a hypocrite and ghost back, at the very least communicate to him why I’m no longer engaged

He has an odd communication style and hasn’t explained why when Ive told him Im all ears, I wanted to give him grace incase he has something I don’t know about or cant express himself truthfully I don’t know

He completely ignores questions when I try get to know him better and when I reciprocate exactly what he gives me the conversation dies off.

Its frustrating because I put a lot of effort trying to make us work and im just done but want a mature resolution

I'm honestly exhausted, three times recently I've had someone reach out to me and initiate, I engage, they don't reciprocate and they end up ghosting me when I try to regularly check up on them. It's been almost 2 months since I've been ghosted, I feel I should've done something much sooner.

Last call this guy said "oh I'm sorry I've been busy with college" I understood, and mf goes silent again. Our last talk was friendly but his actions piss me off honestly he wasted my time and I was more available on HIS timing than I should've like just straight up calls at night.

I've taken things into consideration and been sensitive about any potential mental conditions. So fucking frustrating it never goes anywhere, I've straight up just stopped taking friend request from people who come out of nowhere, don't even give a proper introduction or say where they found me, they end up being the most bum, lazy, cringe talkers ever in my experience.

I was contemplating reaching out again, so I can feel relived. This person who ghosted me is himself a therapist, works with neurodiverse people, and still choose to ghost me without reason or clue but still has been online. My actual therapist discouraged me from reaching out again to him though I've had an urge for a while. There were never arguments, no signs or reasoning, just one day I asked him how hes doing and then I followed up a week later and hes gone that's it. It's frustrating when people build up a connection just to throw it all away, and I considered it timeless with what we connected and shared.

I invested much more than him into our relationship looking back (followed recommendations like reading books, finding affirming churches) just a bright person who I believed "had my back" and was there for me always after all I shared my life with.

Actions speak louder than words she told me, he has been online, talks about his new job, probably dating multiple people like he told me, it makes sense for the type of person he has shown me to be.

I now see being ghosted as a learning experience and my therapist really hit me with her advice yesterday to try to take good out of the bad. All urge to reach out again suddenly disappeared. My ex-friend is still blocked and ignored. It's hard to make friends and develop close bonds it was a hard year for me but I had the best birthday present earlier this year and have developed much better, clearer, and honest relationships, but the pain was still there. I'm sorry to everyone who has been hurt like this

Just wanted to say you were honestly an amazing friend at one point. I’m shocked this much time has passed without me or you saying anything. I have to send this to you but I also must block you I’m sorry, I hope you understand and respect that I’m trying to move on. You mattered a lot to me and still do to this day. I’m only now able to say I am neurodiverse if my communication was not what you needed, I tried my best. There is no justification regardless. Farewell

I currently have $15k in S&P500, I have no idea what I'm doing honestly but I know it has potential. I'm 23 and see now as a perfect opportunity. $15k is a majority of what I have, outside of this index fund I have about $7k left over and I don't even feel $15k is enough for it, I want to add another $5k. I don't have much monthly expenses due to living with a parent and I am extremely conservative with spending my money so I can safely say I'm spending no more than $400 a month collectively including rent.

I am getting career counseling to start training for work, I have also heard back from a seasonal job to start working again temporarily, I made $5k for one month last time it should be longer duration this season.

I would appreciate some beginners advice, I understand I'm not financially literate or making best use of my situation, please do not be unhelpful or disrespectful I just want to plan smartly.

My father wants to have a sit down with me to talk about several properties he has, he mentioned how he wanted to discuss some of his responsibilities like collecting rent so I can take over one day.

My father has not written me a will but I don't know if I should bring it up or how exactly to ask him.

I'm planning on taking notes of everything, are there any questions or requests I should ask my father? I have never asked him for a will this would be my first time.

I'm in search for an apprenticeship but I would like recommendations on some reputable companies that are known for investing into its workers. I would rather work for a well known company that is willing to hire me and work my way up until they are willing to pay for training to a more creative role such as web design, 3D printing, animation, etc...

I'm in search for an apprenticeship but I would like recommendations on some reputable companies that are known for investing into its workers. I would rather work for a well known company that is willing to hire me and work my way up until they are willing to pay for training to a more creative role such as web design, 3D printing, animation, etc...

I’ve been putting up a facade to my family ever since I stopped believing. They don’t believe in being gay, when they ask about church I lie to not bring up suspicion. I don’t feel bad about it, but I also do not want to keep this up for the rest of my life. Im just in a really bad position in life rn for any drama. I used to never lie but now it’s all I can do to get by

What is the best path for me with experience in 3D programs? I feel like one path forward is to go all in but it's already a very competitive field that I've had no luck finding good work in as a 3d artist despite some experience. I love it more as a hobby, but I need to train and polish my work to professional level. I saw a website called Animation Mentor has some good courses on animation and am seriously considering it without a high exception for work, more for being good at what I love, maybe it will attract work that I actually like to do rather than me going to look for it.

My other choice I feel is to find something in demand, It may be worth it financially yes but probably less artistic and not something I will be happy with honestly. I don't know if I could be happy with myself if I didn't try at least the artist route but if theres anything in demand with remote opportunities I think there might be some balance

Its difficult because the odds are against me already, I do really want to be an artist maybe even freelance. But I do think that it's smart to have something lined up useful I just dont know what it is. Ideally a perfect skill would involve remote work, relating to design and very in demand and reliable for the future.

I may need to pick either or, maybe I can start out with my passion and then something in demand whatever that is... I've considered things like BIM, Architecture, anything designing related thats in demand. Just feeling very lost and have not heard great things from professionals about the creative industry so its discouraging but also what i want to learn.

I wanted to report a former counselor who was extremely hostile, homophobic, and probably more harmful than good.

Because they aren’t state licensed theres not much I think I can do. Maybe complain to their church/denomination but like they’ll give two shits 🤷

How the fuck is this still legal in the US? I’m getting so tired of this country only focusing on making money and not quality or health. Theres no repercussions for people who take shortcuts and present themselves as professionals.

Accepting myself as gay has been the best thing thats ever happened to me, she hindered that and made me believe it was wrong

Pretty much every christian Ive ever known has ghosted me, they promise the world but it ends up being some of the worst relationships in my life

Had this christian guy sneak into my dms, he’s old enough to be my dad talking about he won’t get sexual… like I was thinking about that, sure. My god it’s like they’re projecting what they really want to do

He read a post where I shared I was ghosted by a fellow Christian friend at the time. He read how it hurt me, dude love bombs me then blocks. No hate like christian love… we only chatted for a day but what a insecure baby, doesn’t even give me a reason, maybe he really wanted to get frisky and wasn’t getting it idk 🤷

Deleted the post out of frustration that every time I go to christians for anything I get hurt and ignored. I shouldn’t have deleted because it was nothing but support, just the 1% of assholes ruin it for me. Idk if it’s my ocd, adhd, depression, but regardless dick move and so fake.

"Give yourself some time, you're on a journey, please reach out if you need a friend, because I need a friend too lol" is basically how he reached out to me initially. He commented on a post about me recently accepting myself as a gay.

He's still online to this day and recently mentioned he got a new job as a therapist 🫠 I'm now in therapy ironically, he's shown he doesn't care for me at all, he had a chance to care for 1 year...

We shared faith, similar struggles and just supported each other, he was an amazing friend. I was as vulnerable as one can be, and he knew that when he saw my post. Once he ghosted me I was confused and having to navigate the hurt alone.

BLOCKED and all chats hidden now after 1 year. I deserved closure and honesty.

I guess I'II just struggle with my depression, OCD, anxiety, and ADHD, cause he's doing well himself like I never existed.

I struggled for a long time dealing with the hurt of a past friend who cut me off abruptly with no reason at all. He is still online to this day and still posting, I recently decided to block him and hide all our chats after contemplating if I should reach back out again after 1 year of silence from him. What hurts the most is the confusion he left me with during one of the most vulnerable stages of my life. I now feel like I was some sort of emotional tool to him. We talked about our lives, struggles, and supported each other’s beliefs. Being gay is already hard enough, but to feel betrayed by a fellow gay believer at the time was another level of hurt and abandonment that I never experienced before in my life.

It's been over a year and I still think about how much your services affected me. By far the worst "therapy" I've ever had in my life. Let's go back to our first session, I had told you that I, as a minor saw things no child should ever have. I brought my dad in for one session only, he agreed to discuss. I brought up the harm he's done, and the harm it still does to me this day when he denies being involved. You choose to keep on giving him the benefit of the doubt, making me seem like some lying accuser. You tried to make me out as this child who may have seen things wrong. Fuck that, I know exactly what I saw, I'm not crazy or overreacting. This is exactly why my mother divorced him, he's a liar, he's manipulative, and a coward, his only interest is himself. He betrayed my trust and I'll never look to him again as my hero or have sympathy for him as I once did. A half-ass insincere apology is all I get from him right AFTER the fact I brought up he has no apology for my trauma "see, he apologized" you said like I'm a child, like his one sentence apology fixes anything.
We continued having sessions for a couple of months, none of your advice really stuck through or was applicable at all to me. By the end I couldn't be bothered, I don't know if you expected me to reach out again for another appointment, or if you were just done and intentionally didn't book another appointment cause I'm gay. Either way it was unprofessional but not completely surprising. After that point I almost gave up, I never felt heard or supported all my life by anyone, I stopped believing that therapy was even beneficial, that maybe life had no one for me.
Looking back over a year ago I'm proud of myself, even though I was scared and uncertain and in a vulnerable state, I stood on what I believed in, when I had just came out as gay to you. I'm still not ashamed or regret my choice and I have opened a lot of doors since having more confidence in myself and who I am. I'm no longer that closeted little boy anymore who believed that god hates me for who I am. Hell, I'm not even religious anymore at all, you definitely are a major reason why I stopped believing. Not the sole reason but still a big factor in it.
I can't believe how much I considered, how much I tolerated because I had a certain level of trust in you, you had power to change me into someone I'm not, and I listened to all of your stupid arguments and analogies against being gay. From the bible to theoretical situations, at the end of the day it doesn't hurt not a single soul to love who you want to love. And the bible doesn't explicitly say same-sex relationships are wrong.
So yeah had to let it out, fuck your overpriced religious services, I have a much better therapist now and am glad that strangers encouraged me online to be better and continue looking for better, cause I have found that and more.