I can handle not doomscrolling, but what I struggle with is not posting. Sometimes I take really nice pictures and I feel the need to share them. I'm thinking of making a physical photo album, but I still want others to see them.
I live in a dorm with 2 other people and I don't want to disturb them. What are some quiet things I could do instead of watching something on my phone?
Many banks require you to have the app on your phone, you can't use Whatsapp on computer if you don't have the mobile app, tickets are nowadays mostly on phones and many more. Otherwise I would switch to a dumbphone, but today's world makes it hard.
I know Katseye is not technically K-Pop, so I'm not sure if this is the right sub-reddit. However many of their fans are K-Pop stans, they are partly under a K-Pop company and their group dynamic works the same way like K-Pop does, so I decided to choose this sub-reddit.
That from aside, let's get to the point. Music industry has always exploited young girls, especially in K-Pop. Trainees are forced to practice countless hours a day without a proper diet or time to sleep. On top of that they have no creative freedom once they debut and they are usually literal children. Cherry on top when companies want to create more mature concepts, they don't do it with adults. Instead they do it with teenagers, who are basically children. Katseye is a great example of this. When they debuted, the youngest member Yoonchae was 16. When time went by, they started to get more mature with their clothes, choreography and lyricism. At the time when Gnarly was released, Yoonchae was 17 and Megan was 18. I'm not sure about the other members, but I assume they were still pretty young. The sample from Gnarly was taken from a LITERAL adult video and keep in mind, there was a minor in this group. And please don't use the argument "Teenagers know about these things", because that's not the point. Just because someone consumes something (who shouldn't tho) does not mean that they can now be the ones to create it. I know most teens are not innocent little kids and they know about that stuff, but that doesn't mean that they should be the ones doing that in front of millions of people.
Now let's get to the present day. Like a month ago they dropped Animal and it's actually listenable. That's an example of a pretty tasteful song for an 18 year old. Even tho the song was mature, there wasn't any too explicit choreography or outfits and it wasn't made for shock value, unlike Hootie frutti. The music video starts with Daniela sitting in a motorcycle with a thong (or a bikini bottom I'm not sure, which one it is) and the video continues by her shaking it aggressively and then they start with the choreography. I would have no issue with an artist sitting in a motorcycle with revealing clothes IF the artist was AN ACTUAL grown adult, had FULL creative freedom and the song having an actual meaning. The lyrics have no artistic value and I cannot get a proper message. What I understood from this song is that it uses foods as metaphors to refer to [I can't even say what, because I'm afraid this post would get deleted]. The lyrics are both objectively and subjectively bad and it felt like this song was made for shock value instead of making any kid of statement.
It felt like their company COUNTED the days when Yoonchae turned 18 and I have seen people joking about this like "Haha they waited Yoonchae to turn 18 for this 😂", but don't realize how deep this actually is. An adult waiting for a minor to turn 18 because they want to do something explicit with or to them is grooming. The company groomed the members, because well... Sex sells.
I really hope I didn't come out as too harsh or sound like I'm attacking the girls, infact I'm on their side. I do think that certain members such as Daniela and Lara might be okay with this concept, but that doesn't erase the fact that the concept is handed by grown men trying to make profit off of young girls.
What textbooks/podcasts/youtube channels/other learning materials did you use?
Did you use any apps? (did they work?)
Did you study grammar or did you just figure it out naturally?
How long did it take?
I have been studying German for about 1-1.5 years now and I'm still stuck at A1 level. Any tips are welcome.
Every single day I wake up, decide to scroll on Tiktok and see at least one video of someone saying how pr*stit*tion is empowering. Feminism is so much more complicated than just one Wikipedia definition. Many people supporting choice "feminism" claim that feminism is about equality, which includes the right to choose. While having the right to make a choice is one of the things we want to achieve in feminism, that doesn't mean that feminism is only about women making individual choices.
We will never reach true equality if we keep defending standards made by the patriarchy. Let's take pr*stit*tion as an example. Even if it was the person's choice, I still cannot find a single reason how could that ever be empowering. Pr*stit*tion makes us look like objects. It puts a price tag to a woman's body and tells men they can have access to it once they have money.
I have read some feminist literature and I cannot find a single book defending choice feminism. Feminism is not just a label you use, because you like the idea of making choices feminism gave you. It's a set of political ideologies with it's own theory. Feminism is based on liberating women from patriarchal oppression and reaching equality, it's not about women making individual choices. Choices do not exist in a vacuum or isolation and individual choices cannot liberate all women. Choice "feminism" only gives options to the women who are in a privileged position while ignoring the people who are unable to make their own choices.
Feminism was created when women were not in an equal position to men and defending choices that brings us further from equality is not feminist. Choice "feminism" is a coping mechanism. It keeps them in their comfort zones and doesn't encourage critical thinking. It never questions why a woman made the choice, it only looks at the surface thinking "yeah a woman made that choice, so it's okay". That is the reason why I think many women choose choice "feminism". Feminism does not work if it doesn't make anyone uncomfortable.
Feminism shouldn't be just about equality, it should be about liberation. These 2 might seem like they are the same, but they are not. Equality is only about giving women the same political and economical rights as men. Liberation on the other hand asks more uncomfortable questions about our society. It wants to challenge the patriarchal ideologies with the end goal being reaching true equality. We cannot reach true equality without challenging the system first.
Please do not treat me as a reliable source. Please do your own research instead of using one Reddit post as your main source.
I also want to say that please do not shame women for their choices. You can criticize, but straight up shaming women for it won't make them want to leave this choice "feminism" ideology.
Edit: Thank you for your criticism. I am quite new towards the feminism movement and I want to know the truth towards my claims. I used to be a huge choice feminist a few months ago until I started to get more into feminist theory. Before that I was a huge conservative who was completeiy against feminism. I saw a few comments saying that I shame more women than the men who pays for these services and looking back, I understand how this post can be viewed that way. I never mentioned the men who buy these services and my only focus was the women. To clarify, I am more against the men buying than the women selling. I have made previous comments on this app talking about this exact issue. few days ago I made a video on Tiktok criticising a woman for slut shaming in her commentary. I am completely against the idea of shaming women for anything like I previously said, but I apologise if this post didn't come out that way.
I feel like I'm such a bad person. I sound too aggressive when I speak, I make everything about myself, I never admit my mistakes and I say hurtful things before I think. Looking back at my behaviour, I give off such a mean girl vibes. Many people have expressed that they don't like me and I completely understand or in fact I kinda agree. When I talk, I sound unlikeable without even realizing it, I start an argument about the most simple things and I never admit that I'm wrong. When I make a mistake, I don't apologise, I just hope they forget about it. If I'm being honest, I don't understand how I still have friends. How can I stop being such a bad person?
What are some movies that are suitable for A1 learners and are available on Netflix? I want to have a movie night in German and I need recommendations.
Hallo! I have been unmotivated to study German for months and I was thinking the only fun way to learn would be watching movies. Do you have any recommendations that could be found from Netflix? I don't really care about what level the movies are suitable for, my goal is just to find exposure to the language so that I don't forget it completely. Any genre is fine, but I really love historical, horror, romantic or supernatural films.
I have been friends with this one person for like 3 years and they became religious like 6 months ago. At first I didn't really care, but then our values started to get way too different. My friend never really tried to convert me, but once we had an argument about religion and they asked where I get my morals if I don't get them from an old book and that was really odd. They also once said that they don't support abortion and I don't want to be around people who don't support a basic women's right. Would it be valid to end our friendship or not?
I have felt so unmotivated to study German for months. Everything just seems so overwhelming. The last time I felt motivated was maybe like 4 months ago. Nowadays learning German feels more like a chore. I don't want to quit German and change the language, because I already did it with Korean, Dutch, Japanese, Polish and Chinese and now I want to actually complete something. Literally anything that involves German seems overwhelming whenever it's traditional studying, podcasts, reading books or watching movies. I always get to solid A1.2 level in a language and then I always quit, because it starts to get too hard. I tried to just immerse myself like I did with English, but I always give up after a week. Any tips?
I have been thinking about this quite a lot lately. We used to be classmates, but now we are going to different schools after summer and I think now it's possible to end the friendship unlike few months ago when I was forced to be around them at school.
The reason I'm thinking to end the friendship is because we have way too different values when it comes to politics and religion. My friend is like very religious and more conservative than me. Few months ago they shared that they are pro-life with the reasoning being The Bible. I don't know if they are pro-life anymore since it's been months, but I find it uncomfortable to be friends with someone who doesn't support a woman's choice when it comes to ending one of the most painful experiences a human can possibly experience. My friend has also said that they hate people with developmental disabilities. Look I get it, my friend lives with a lot of disabled people, so they're speaking from their own experiece, but that comment seemed a little aggressive and came out as ableist.
I am a person who is not quiet when it comes to my views on religion and politics. I am anti-theist which means that I think religions cause more harm than good and they should not exist. I use my social media platforms freely to talk about feminism, racism, lgbtq+ rights, ableism and politics in general and this has caused huge debates between me and my friend. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells what I can do around my friend without starting a huge political debate. I respect my friend a lot, but I don't think that we are meant for each others, because our values are way too different. What should I do?
I'm 15 and I want to start releasing music in streaming services. Do I need my parents permissions to use a distributor? If so, how?
I have wanted to release music for so long and my possible debut song is almost produced. I want to do a music video for the song and have maybe 2-6 background dancers. What is the bare minimum I should pay for them? I am just a broke teenager with under 30€ to use. Is it acceptable to ask people to dance for free? Or does it hurt my image? I go to dance lessons once a week, so maybe I could ask people there.
I'm currenly practicing for my performance in July, but my throat keeps hurting every time I sing, most likely because I'm straining. How do I stop this?
My parents are not overly strict, but one thing they would definitely not want me to do is to go to another country for a year to live with another family. How do I convince them?
How do I practice my language speaking skills if I'm too shy to speak with native speakers? Any tips? I don't want to use any AI chatbots.
I was thinking to go on an exchange year to Germany when I'm around 17-18. What grade will exchange students usually be put on?
I saw this video on Tiktok where someone said that spells should be at least 30 minutes minimum that they work. Is it true or is that some Tiktok propaganda? How is it even possible that a spell lasts that long and how do I make my spells last longer? 🥲
Please recommend me spells that doesn't require crystals, setting things e.g paper on fire or herbs that cannot be found in the wild (I live in northern Europe). I want to make an anti anxiety/panic attack spell that I'm able to perform next Friday without fainting from anxiety.